Posts by out4good4

Answer 4: When they need something (money) only you have the means to provide knowing that they can't get any help from the congregation: "We never shunned you!!!"

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Raising Concerns To My Wife - Success!!

by pale.emperor in

in case you havent read any of my previous posts the situation is im in the process of fading, my wife's dad is an elder and has the annoying habit of telling the body of elders anything and everything my wife tells him in confidence.

over the years she's started to see how we can tell her parents anything.

weather it be worries we have, music we listen to, movies we watch, decisions we make regarding our child etc.. anyway.

out4good4

DoC

She's already running, hiding, ducking, and dodging by going over to her parents and "spending the night" with their little girl where they will be sure to spend all night running pale.emperor up one side and down the other.

My guess is she's trying to "Save Face". Her actions are of someone who's duplicious nature will compell them to notdefend her husband and stick with him, but of someone who now gets to play the game of "save my own ass" so that she can have her family and be the new darling of the congregation who has to deal with her evil apostate baby eating husband.

She's, even if it was just for this one night, leaving her husband high and dry running from her husband deep into the arms of the people she should be furious with, her family specifically her nosy ass sister in law who should not have been rooting around in other people's private affairs and then running over to the elders and acting like a fuzxing parrot. With pictures!!!!

HELL to the No!!!!!!!

This betrayal to the spirit of the marriage would've likely been a deal breaker for me. Out of one side of her mouth she decries the unfairness of the people in the congregation and the organization, but out of the other she runs back to them......

Let's see how long they will be willing to pay her bills.

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I've been found out!

by pale.emperor in

well, thats it folks.. my identity on here has been rumbled and reported to the elders.

someone, somehow, has figured out that im a member of this site and - rather than speak to me - has promptly reported me to the elders.

i just feel sad for my daughter.

out4good4

PASSWORD protect your devices! No one can snoop if they can't get past the password.

I guess so, if you feel that you have to.

However, why should you. These idiots should be told up front and center to "Mind their own Fu#$ing business".

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I've been found out!

by pale.emperor in

well, thats it folks.. my identity on here has been rumbled and reported to the elders.

someone, somehow, has figured out that im a member of this site and - rather than speak to me - has promptly reported me to the elders.

i just feel sad for my daughter.

out4good4

As for my wifes family... well coincidentally they've invited my wife round. She's told me she's staying there tonight with my daughter. To be honest i could do with the head space. I know what comes next, daddy elder will fill her head with bullshit.

You are being far more forgiving than I. If my wife tried that shit with me she'd be told to not bother coming back.

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Should I just tell my parents

by BlackWolf in

jw
friends

lately i've been feeling just so fed up with this stupid religion i really can't take it anymore!

i'm starting to think that maybe i should just tell my parents how i really feel.

if they treat me too badly or kick me out i could probably stay with my non jw aunt.. ive just reached my breaking point, i don't really care what people think of me anymore.

out4good4

They forced me to make a deal with them to try to be a really good jw until I turn 18, and then if I decide I don't want to be a jw they will kick me to the curb!!

Can't you just feel of that love Jebus talked about???

What they want is for you to not cause any ripples for them in the congregation no matter how much it hurts you until you're 18. They want you to continue to live a big fat lie for their convenience.

Then, at their discretion, they can kick you to the curb and tell all of their JW friends that is is all your fault.

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Just found out their about to baptise my 14 year old boy.

by Crazyguy in

there doing this right under my nose but i just found out.

not sure what to do but would like your help on getting me wt information on my headship role and how they shouldn't be doing this with out my permission.

also would like some help on showing my son the ramifications on what happens to someone when they get baptized and how they'll expect him to treat me.

out4good4

Great Work.....

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what more cuts might be in the pipeline

by pepperheart in

there have been so many cuts in the past few years in the jw world what do you think might be next?

out4good4

One meeting weekly only.
No monthly reporting of service time.
No shunning!

Good Luck with that one......

The organization would wither away and die if that were the case.....

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Leaving the JW's is like a game of Poker....

by Turquoisepeace in

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friends

leaving the religion can be likened to a game of poker.

many possible scenarios can be played out during the game and the potential loss or gains are many:.

you have put too many chips in, every round it just seems you will win it all in the end.

out4good4

What you've described in Poker vernacular is analogous to the economic principle of "sunk cost".

It is just as applicable to life decisions.

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I'm getting baptized

by BlackWolf in

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friends

i know i've started similar topics before but this time i'm serious.

my parents have been constantly pressuring me and after yesterday's watchtower study they asked me if i was going to be baptized this summer... and i said yes.

i probably should have thought about it more before making a final decision, but they're pretty much forcing me to do it anyway.

out4good4

I tried to tell my mom that I wanted to wait, that I didn't have enough time to be ready before convention. She said "why? You have six weeks, and I've already called grandma and she's planning on coming"

So much for baptism being a personal decision and dedication to "le sock puppet jah". .....the pressure is on to fill everyone's expectations.

Granny is planning on coming....not that she already has plans to come. There is still a way out of this , but you're going to have to act and not predicate every decision you make on whether or not it is convenient for or hurt any of your relative's feelings.

Sucks to be in the position you're in right now, I understand, but your family are going to go off on you if you don't want to be baptised now, and doubly so if you walk away from the religion after you're baptised. Like an earlier poster said, the expectations to conform won't stop with baptism, in fact they will increase exponentially. they'll be expecting you to tow the party line, believe everything and do everything they say..... marry and have kids with the first pimply faced brother with privileges and a hard-on that shows you any attention.

It's just a matter of when you want to rip that ban aid off, now......or later.