I remember one sister from our hall whose very first kiss ever was at her wedding when they were pronounced husband and wife! YIKES! I don't even think they were allowed to even hold hands and they had to always be chaperoned. Needless to say, they are no longer married......they didn't know each other any better than if had been an arranged marriage and due to past molestation to the husband (my his elder foster father) and the rigid sexual rules and fears, it spelled disaster for them.
Posts by Alana
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by Gretchen956 inrichie's thread got me wondering what ever happened to the practice of chaperoning???
i mean really, was this just a regional thing where i grew up?
we had to have a chaperone always with the opposite gender even if we were old!
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Who will survive Armageddon? What does the WT teach?
by GoingGoingGone ini made a comment to my 15 year old son last night about the arrogance of the jw teaching that all non-jws will be destroyed at armageddon.
he responded that i am mistaken, that the jws teach that jehovah reads hearts, even of those who are being preached to today.
in other words, no one is 'written off' like that, and btw he hates it when i take a teaching i don't like and exaggerate it like that..... .
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Alana
I remember being out in service as a kid and being asked point blank by a householder if it was true that JWs believed that only JWs would be 'saved' through Armageddon. I sort of stumbled a bit in my reply and the brother who was with me stated that God would read the hearts of men and that it wouldn't be man who judged....yadda yadda yadda. His main purpose was to appease the householder and not offend her with the thought that JWs thought only JWs would survive. He told me this later, that we need to be careful how we respond to questions like this....sort of like a bit of theocratic warfare.....it leaves the impression to the householder that it's God judging hearts and not just being a JW....yet, as the brother continued to say to me later, we all know that what Jehovah is reading in the hearts is if they are true JWs or not, as he said not all who claimed to be JWs would necessarily survive. So, he thought it was funny that he answered the lady's question (although in a misleading way) in a way which didn't offend her totally, while still believing that basically what she said was the truth of the matter.
I don't like dishonesty and that really left an impression on me (not a good one)....one that later came back along with other situations of hypocrisy, etc.
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Name responsibilities that sisters could have had at the hall
by JH in.
name responsibilities that sisters could have had at the hall, that doesn't go against bible principles?.
why couldn't they have passed the microphone?
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Alana
My dad had me do alot of things for him behind the scenes, like type his talks.....he had the Society manuscripts, but liked them in bigger fonts. I also typed up the meeting schedules for him and he let me "chose" the ones to do the opening and closing prayers from the approved list. I also helped with the school assignments. I know that's minor, but I wasn't supposed to tell anyone. Then, later I used to audit the KH accounts. The brother who used to do it quit and his wife did it for a while, but they were afraid people would 'talk' if she kept doing it, so my dad took it......but gave it to me to do. We were a small rural congregation, so there was not alot of choice, I guess. Other than that, women folk were pretty much kept out of any kinds of responsibilities.
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Name responsibilities that sisters could have had at the hall
by JH in.
name responsibilities that sisters could have had at the hall, that doesn't go against bible principles?.
why couldn't they have passed the microphone?
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if you love pit bulls or think you might
by kittyeatzjdubs indisclaimer.
first of all......let me start off by saying this.
i am not intending in any way to start any arguments with this topic.
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Alana
Your picture and avatar are adorable! I love ALL dogs. There are breeds that I might not choose to have myself for one reason or another, but I love them all. I had a friend with a PB and he was so lovable, but his "wife" and baby got loose and killed a neighbor's dog and a cat. They were forced to put them down, but Zeus was never mean. Let me tell you, I've met some mean poodles in my day, so any breed can be mean. My German Shepard scares people all the time, but he is the biggest marshmallow on earth (and he's white, so he looks like a marshmallow, too! ha ha ha). My nephew used to foster PB's for a local rescue and all but one were truly gentle animals who had been neglected, abused, or just turned away because of media fear. I'm glad to hear of happy PB stories.
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Mormons/LDS
by Evanescence inwhat would your views be on mormons?.
was there much incidences where jw's and mormons would ever catch eachother while going door-to-door?.
just curious cause both of you do it and wondered if there was ever any conflict between the two..... evanescence
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Alana
I remember once many moons ago, when I was still an active JW, I was at my good friend's house and two nice Mormon boys made the ill-fated decision to knock on the door. My friend's husband was just starting to attend meetings and his friend (a jerk-like elder) was also visiting. The guys let the Mormon boys in and at first acted interested, then spun it around to try to witness to them. They made the poor boys squirm a bit in their questions and they if it wasn't a question to which they had a prepared comment, they were truly lost.
I remember my friend and I staying back in the kitchen and thinking how mislead those poor boys were and how spiritual our guys were.......YIKES!! Looking back, those boys were no different than most of the JWs......they prepare their script for the door-to-door work and if approached with deeper questions or 'attacks' to their faith, they can be speechless.
My step-daughter's ex-boyfriend was a Mormon and she started going with him to some church activities and we could tell he had been 'witnessing' to her and it had me worried, as I felt she was too young (16) to be making such life changing decisions such as leaving her church to convert. He was, however, a sweetheart and was a sincere, hardworking boy seemingly with high morals. So, I have nothing against him personally or his family....I just worried about her getting caught up in the religion solely for the boy. He is getting ready to go on his Mission after graduation and they recently broke up.
I know that we have had Mormons on this board and I don't mean anything bad toward them, but my own opinion from what I have experienced and read about LDS church, I feel they are just as 'cult-like' and mislead as JWs. Good people for the most part, but just some 'out there' beliefs.
We live out in the boondocks, so I doubt if they would want to venture out to our place. Oh, I just thought about some past JW friends of mine who moved out to Salt Lake City many years ago. They came back after a couple of years, but I remember he saying that their territory was about 95% Mormon (or at least that it felt like it), so Field Service wasn't very productive.
~"Alana"
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OK, fess up. . . has anyone tried internet dating?
by carefully faded ini recently signed up on a couple of internet dating sites.
i've been talking with one guy for about a week now and he's asked to meet for coffee.
i'm a little nervous and wanted to hear how many others have tried this.
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Alana
I did. Meet some nice people, but there were some weirdos, too. But, anywhere you meet people you might run into that. You just want to be careful, because people can "be anyone they want" online....doesn't mean they are the way they say.
However, I must say that I did meet my husband online. We have been together 4 years and got married this past April. I love him dearly and am so glad he emailed me!!
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Anyone on this board around Miami area?
by Alana inmy husband was originally scheduled for a conference in new orleans in october, but that was cancelled due to katrina.
they are talking about moving it to miami.
i had been to new orleans a few times and was familar with it, but i don't know a thing about miami.
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Alana
Nellie,
Thank you so much for the info.....I have already started looking up things.
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Log Cabin Kingdom Hall
by Ghosthunter in.
if anyone remembers the log cabin kingdom hall in indianapolis, i would love to hear from you.. gh (aka carol)
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Alana
Hmmm....I lived on the east side of Indy from 1988-1992, but I don't remember anything about a log cabin KH. If someone does remember it, I'd love to know what congregation and part of town it was in!
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Anyone on this board around Miami area?
by Alana inmy husband was originally scheduled for a conference in new orleans in october, but that was cancelled due to katrina.
they are talking about moving it to miami.
i had been to new orleans a few times and was familar with it, but i don't know a thing about miami.
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Alana
I am mainly looking for things to do...that aren't expensive, will also interest a teenager, and are located near the Bayfront Park area. I heard something about a monorail in Miami. Is this a way to get around to various sites? I won't have a car to run around in and would like to stay within walking distance or be able to take some kind of public transportation.