Frenchy and LittleToe,
In all honesty, though, what does it matter what the elder's will feel when they DF your friend? There is little comfort in knowing that your life has been smashed to smitherines by someone who is "really broken up about it".
An exJW named Michael Manning has his story at:
http://www.angelfire.com/pa/ExJW/
He was DF'd for smoking two cigarettes a day, and one of the elders who sat on his committee walked out to his car with him and they were both crying.
Marjorie