Posts by Dayshdees

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I guess it was not meant to be

by Dayshdees in

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/63523/1.ashx.

i guess i should have listened to all your posts a while back when i asked if a relationship could work between a jw and a non jw, many of you shouted run like helll !!

, run dont walk !!!.

Dayshdees

I just can not think rationally anymore, my family's issues are that of my partner being a jw and that alone, their issues are that if I go ahead, then they want nothing to do with our children should they come in time or anything to do with my prospective partner. I no they no best and are just doing what they feel is right but I really feel that she is the one for me despite what problem's the future may hold. My partner knows my view's and that I wont swop over to her belief's, the children issue is still debatable between us though.

I guess the fact that we got engaged which they didnt have a problem with and then said a few day's later that we were thinking about getting married abroad the end of the month, kind of does seem like a rush, trouble is she is of the cant wait, wont wait frame of mind. Still If It's meant to be then six months,1-2 year's down the road and If we are still together then it will happen.

I was in exactly the same situation just after I met her, but I pushed on and saw further than the stereotypical view of jw's. I guess if we make it through this then people may another side to my partner, however that's going to take a lot of time though.

I hope it will work, but not at the cost of losing my family, If only my partner was not so stubborn over thing's and I had not given in so easily then I wouldnt be in this proverbial pile that Im in now and her beliefs would not have been such an issue with others, with a bit of luck and a good talk, then hopefully she may see just what Im facing losing, trouble is though because her family life has never been settled, my gf's view's are way different and just tell's me to make a stand which is what I have done, I just never expected such a reaction from other people though.

I just have not been able to think straight the last few day's, being pulled from one side to the other, so I know Its a coward's way out but Ive put my self into a self imposed exile and disappeared for a few day's from everyone, not the way thing's should be handled I now, but things are just getting on top of me to the point that I don't no anymore, had I not done this then thing's would have pushed me over the edge. I hope I can see thing's a bit more clearly in the next day or so.

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I guess it was not meant to be

by Dayshdees in

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/63523/1.ashx.

i guess i should have listened to all your posts a while back when i asked if a relationship could work between a jw and a non jw, many of you shouted run like helll !!

, run dont walk !!!.

Dayshdees

Re: Non Jw and Jw can the relationship last? http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/63523/1.ashx

I guess I should have listened to all your posts a while back when I asked if a relationship could work between a jw and a non jw, many of you shouted

run like helll !! , run dont walk !!!

and I never listened, I read up on issues, scoured these boards for all the information, even accepted the fact the she would never give up on her beliefs. And still I loved her, I still do.

Despite all that though I never took into account my own family's view on thing's, I thought jw's had it bad in being Disfellowshipped and shunned by their peer's, It's certainly true the saying

"You can choose your friend's, but not your family"

The grief I have gotten over the past two week's since we announced our engagement and then imposing marriage, has been unreal by my family alone, they were all fine with our engagement, however upon saying that we may marry the end of the month, then my life has been hell. My family who I respect and love have disowned me, even my close friend's have said my life would be hell if I married a jw and dont want to now me, completley unreal.

What is it with people, they can see I am happy and in love, but they take it as that I have been brainwashed and I dont no what Im doing, despite many arguments the last few days from my family, I see their fears and accept them but I really don't think I am losing the plot.

The more they said they would not accept her as a daughter in law, the more I turned to my partner and was certain of doing it just to spite them, thing's however have gotten too much the last few day's, Ive cracked up, Im on the verge of a nervous breakdown and Im not even a jw.

The big question is do I risk losing all my family(maybe only for a few months) for good and my friend's all for a jw that I love?

I couldnt face things without the support from my family, I now in the future there will be conflict's between belief's that much I accept now.

Do I Run, Walk away, forget her, or pray that she can see my side and lose her faith or go ahead and lose my family?