Posts by Strawberryfieldsforever

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question

by alison in

i recently dissociated myself and the elders keep calling me trying to speak and i don't want to hear it then he leaves me a message saying i have to sign a paper saying i'm dissociating myself since when did it become more of a business than a spiritual manner.

i'm not signing any papers.

has this happened to anyone else?

Strawberryfieldsforever

Welcome Alison

Is it just me or are there lots of new people within the last few days joining this forum???

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Who are you guys?

by eyeswideopen in

how long have you guys been out of the truth and what family background of the truth do you guys have?.

i 've read profiles and the comments and i wonder who was the newest to come out...?.

emmm what is the latest on the generation theory?.

Strawberryfieldsforever

Welcome eyeswideopen!

I am new too. When you said that you were waiting to see if your Mom needed you in her old age, it reminded me of how my husband and I thought. But one of my good friends (on the outside) set me straight. She said that if and when the time comes and you offer to help them, it IS their choice if they don't want your help. So if your cast off from the JW's, don't let that stop you from offering help, showing love, having a listening ear. Love is what will show them that we are not bad people. And that we are not in SATAN'S control like they all seem to think.

By the way, I've been out for 13 years and loving every single minute!

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Are we just being "sifted" out?

by micheal in

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this is an expression all of us heard and read about in the wt.

this is also an agrument someone used on me because i am not and have no desire to go to meetings.

i for one believe this agrument that i as well as all of you are just being "sifted" out of "jehovah's organization" because we are "hard headed" is nothing more than a pile of crap.. .

Strawberryfieldsforever

I thought after I left that everything would go bad for me. Thats what they always taught us. But it never happened! My husband and I had a stronger relationship and our kids were so much happier in school. We built a new house and bought property and made some investments. When the JW's would stop by in service, I'm sure it bugged them that we weren't living poorly and our life style took a turn for the better. If that means being sifted out...I'm glad to be out!

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What Ways Did Jehovah's Witnesses Make You Feel Guilty???

by minimus in

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i believe that many religions try to make their adherents feel guilt.

and of course, the witnesses are no different and imo, are more guilty than most.

people go to a meeting during a snowstorm because the elders feel it's not that bad.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I felt guilty for working to help support my family and not be pioneering.

I felt guilty on my job. I drive a school bus and would look at all those kids and think...they are all going to be destroyed? Why they haven't even done anything wrong yet and I've done soooo many things wrong. And I get to survive into the paradise earth?

I felt guilty trying to make myself look nice. Remember we are supposed to be plain women. We don't want to draw attention to ourselves...Oh come on

Strawberryfieldsforever

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sigh I think I'm staying in the borg

by SC_Guy in

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i *can't* leave, i'm trapped.

i was talking to my twin sister tonight on how i didn't want to go to the upcoming convention this weekend because we had already been to it 2 months ago... .

i have to prepare some audition matrial for a arts event and my parents are not sympathtic to the fact i got allot to do, and we've already been.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I was an only child. My Dad was not a JW. When I was doing the fade, my mother told me one day (in tears) that she would be the only one from our family to live in the paradise earth. It tore me apart. But.....I went anyway. I couldn't take it anymore. Then she came over to my house and said that she was going to cut me out of her life. How sad. Now I think they all use it as a tactic to keep us in. It almost worked on me.

Now I see her driving around in service. She waves. I know deep down inside that she still loves me, but only on her terms.

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Greetings!!!

by CsharpBminor in

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i am looking forward to meeting each and every one of you during my visit.

thank you for allowing me to park my van outside of your kingdom hall!

i am counting on you to see to it that i eat well while i am here.

Strawberryfieldsforever

Welcome CsharpBminor!!!

I'm glad I'm not the only Newbie! Sounds like your gonna be lots of fun!

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Tips For Lurkers To Get Out

by minimus in

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do you have any suggestions to help jehovah's witnesses who visit this site get out of the religion?

Strawberryfieldsforever

I visited this site for a long time. I wanted to add my two cents, but was afraid. Afraid of what? Afraid of who? I now realize nobody can hurt me here. I feel safe just like I did after I got out from the JW's. It's hard, but I agree with Tashawaa. Find some friends to talk to. True friends. Friends who won't turn you in to the elders. I found some and it was such a relief to pour out my feelings. I was surprised how interested they were in my life and how I coped. It helped me to see that "worldly people" are loving. Much more so than the friends I had at the Kingdom Hall.

Strawberryfieldsforever

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What Did you Plan On Doing In The New System?

by minimus in

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every child and bible student was told about how wonderful the "new system" was going to be.

"and what animal do you want to have in the new system?

"......that was a very typical question.

Strawberryfieldsforever

I've always loved animals. So! I thought I could be on the team that treated and fixed up all the animals who got hurt during Armageddon! Dumb huh?

My Mom always wanted lots and lots of kids so she could teach them all about Jehovah.......UGH

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Growing up in a divided household

by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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i am new to this forum.

i needed to tell all of you how much you have helped me.

i too, have been hurt by the jw's.

Strawberryfieldsforever

Shotgun!!!!

After I finally got to honestly talk to my Dad, he said he stayed with my mother because of me!!!!!!!!!!! He said the same thing you are saying. He said she would take me away and he would never get the chance to be a part of my life.......I am so thankful he stayed. Even tho it was miserable for him, he did it for me! That means so much to me now. Hang in there! I feel for you. I am the only child. My Dad is not alone now. I didn't know his love till years later. Don't give up on your child!!!

Strawberryfieldsforever

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Growing up in a divided household

by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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i am new to this forum.

i needed to tell all of you how much you have helped me.

i too, have been hurt by the jw's.

Strawberryfieldsforever

Hello to everyone,

I am new to this forum. I needed to tell all of you how much you have helped me. I too, have been hurt by the JW's. I grew up in what they call a "divided household". My mother was a very strict JW and my father was a military man. My earliest recolections of being a witness child were in Germany. My father was stationed there. I went to school on the military base. My Mom wouldn't let me salute the flag. I remember the other kids making fun of me and teasing me. I would wet my pants on the bus ride home. My Mom told me it was good to be persecuted for Jehovah God. But a little girl 5 years old doesn't understand that. I remember being afraid from then on. I was moved around alot to many different schools. I was always the outcast, the JW, the communist, the new kid. I was always afraid.

My father didn't have much to do with me. My mother wouldn't let him. She let him spend very little time with me. I think she was afraid he would influence me in worldly ways. She would tell me during our bible studies that if I wasn't good and follow Jehovah that I would be destroyed right along with my father at Armageddon. I remember well the pictures in the paradise book of the earth opening up and swallowing people. I would have nightmares about it. I would look at my Dad and want to love him, but I was afraid he was in Satan's control. How I wish I knew then what I know now.....Years went by and I did everything my Mom wanted like the perfect little witness child. I was afraid of displeasing her and most of all, displeasing Jehovah God!!! I never got to know my Dad. But.....I loved him so much.....Then my Dad went back to school to further his education. I secretly was so proud of him. I wished that I could be like him. My Mom would talk with some of the witness friends and say things like "He's such a fool to try to get ahead in this world". The gap was so wide at this point that I knew I would never get to know my Dad.

Years went by and I married. Had 2 boys. When my husband and I saw the pain the children went through in school we knew it was time to leave. We did the slow fade....my Mom never gave up trying to change my mind. Finally I had to do a slow fade from her too. I had to get away from it all. I didn't want to live in the paradise earth and serve a God who seemed so cruel. I used to sit and wonder how long I had left before Armageddon would come and swallow me up. I used to pray to Jehovah and ask him if He was going to kill me, please make it quick. I didn't want to suffer and feel pain. I finally realized at that point, that I would go down with my father......

Finally, my parents divorced. The religion had a lot to do with it. They fought all the time. My Mom wouldn't let him have friends. She wouldn't support him as He got his PHD. She only looked down on him as a poor worldly person. He was alone with no friends...

The past three years though, I have finally gotten to know my Dad. Oh! What a wonderful feeling to finally be able to talk about all those years without fear of my mother! We have celebrated Christmas together and talked and talked and talked!!! How much I love him!

I know now that this religion destroys familys. How sad. I wish that more of the JW's were allowed to know the truth about the truth. It might save some from so much hurt. Keep up the good work! People like me, need people like you. Don't stop.

strawberryfieldsforever