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  "newbie" post - after eight years registered

  by pajaha in

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  actually, this is my second post as i replied to a thread a few moments ago, but it turns out i originally registered eight years ago but had never posted.. i left in 2000 (from a newport, s wales, congregation) having been brought up in it from about the age of three.

  initially, i was obsessed with research and posting to forums but got over it after a few years and just rediscovered this site a couple of days ago.

  i just thought it would be worth posting my account of leaving in case it helped others.. i always considered myself to be "strong in the truth" and genuinely believed it,, but i suppose the amount of suppressed doubts had been mounting up and i think it was the summer of 1999 when i first thought of leaving.

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  Strawberryfieldsforever

  WELCOME!!!!!!!!
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  Vangogh, Welcome to the board!!!

  by ziddina in

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  i'd just like to say hello and welcome to one of our newest members, vangogh.... though he [she?

  ] hasn't posted a "hello" thread yet, here is his first post with a mini-autobiography.... http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/240404/1/all-things-given-to-us.

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  Strawberryfieldsforever

  Welcome to you!!!!!!

  Strawberry
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  Hello, I Am New Here

  by arrakis1 in

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  was a jw for 40 years.

  stopped attending 2010...resigned officially in 2011. still a little shell shocked but beginning to feel much better now.

  awesome revelation....people in the world are not all that bad.

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  Welcome!!!

  I find so much comfort here knowing others understand. So many have been shunned by family because they found out the "truth about the truth"! I was a JW for 23 years and my husband and I did the slow fade when we saw our children unhappy in school. It brought bad memories of our own school days.....sitting in the hall alone while everyone else ate birthday cake......sitting on the other side of the room while everyone ate candy canes and sang christmas songs in music class.

  My Dad (who was never a JW) was in the military and I went to school briefly in Germany. My Mom wouldn't let me salute the flag on the military base! It was so awful.........always being the odd one.

  JW children really have it hard in school. We had to be different for Jehovah and stand up for our beliefs! Thats hard when you are soooo young and all alone with all the children making fun of you. I never liked this God Jehovah from an early age but never even dared to tell my Mom. The straw that broke the camels back was when she having bible study with me and pointed to the picture in the paradise book of men and women and animals, cement stairs and bikes falling into the earth at the end.....she said I would be destroyed like that along with my Dad if I didn't listen to her and Jehovah.......never cared for Jehovah since....

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  Shunning - I just can't get my head around it

  by jambon1 in

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  2. beliefs

  let me first state that i have never been shunned.

  i faded from the org very quickly & my life hasn't been blighted by this practice.. i have been out of the organisation for over 6 years.

  most of the things i left the religion for, i have came to terms with.

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  My Mom is back to shunning me again after my father died. She helped me with hospice while he was dying.....I thought maybe she was going to be part of my life again, no matter how small, but she is back to not talking to me. Before she stopped talking to me, she said I was an apostate and she cannot compromise her position with Jehovah. She said that she was at least happy that I had my husband with me when we are both destroyed in the VERY near future. Can you imagine how awful that is to hear from your own Mother?

  I was so terribly hurt and then it turned to anger (again) and I wrote her an e-mail and told her that I don't want her to compromise her faith for me and I am not going to talk to her either. I told her I am going on with my life and I am going to try and be happy without her. I also told her that I love her and would always be there for her if she needed me.........
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  How did you fare in High School as a JW?

  by PaintedToeNail in

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  for me it was rather painful.

  it was like pressing your nose against the candy store window, knowing that you can look, but you cannot partake.

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  I wanted to be like all the other girls. They were all wearing their skirts and dresses well above the knees.....I used to wear skirts so I could roll them up in the bathroom and look like everyone else! Of course the guilt set in later.......

  I loved being asked out by "worldly cool guys", but then had to make excuses why I couldn't...it got harder and harder. I mean what was I supposed to say? My Mom won't let me date cause I'm a Jehovah's Witness and we only date with supervision and only if we want to get married. Can you imagine what the expression on their face would have been?

  I wanted to join choir. But couldn't partake in any holiday concerts which were most of the time......

  Couldn't join sports either.....I loved to play chess....couldn't do that either.....I'm really surprised that I survived my high school years at all......self esteem was at my lowest then.....but I was supposed to be HAPPY because I was Jehovah's devoted servant
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  what would be their first thought???

  by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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  i often wonder about the older "old school" jehovah's witnesses that are up in their 70's and they are losing all their friends they have known most of their lives.

  they waited together all those years for the big "a" and it still isn't here.

  they are still sitting at the meetings, raising their hands to answer on the same old material and waiting for any tidbit of new information about how close they are to that paradise earth.. i wonder what would be their first thought when the doubt begins to seep in and they have nobody to tell it too....... .

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  I often wonder about the older "old school" Jehovah's Witnesses that are up in their 70's and they are losing all their friends they have known most of their lives. They waited together all those years for the big "A" and it still isn't here. They are still sitting at the meetings, raising their hands to answer on the same old material and waiting for any tidbit of new information about how close they are to that paradise earth.

  I wonder what would be their first thought when the doubt begins to seep in and they have nobody to tell it too......
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  Thinking of becoming a JW.

  by Kate82 in

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  2. medical

  hi,.

  i am new to here so please be bear with me.. i have always believed in god, but was never baptised, my parents wanted me to make up my own mind religon wise.. i am thinking of becoming a jw and am just needing some advice on how to do this, bible study and jw beliefs.

  also do jw say grace and how.. i am greatful of any help.. thanks.

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  Strawberryfieldsforever

  Hi Kate,

  My Mom raised me to be a JW. My Dad was never one. She told me that I couldn't be part of my Dad's life because he was part of Satan's world. I missed sooooo many years not knowing my Dad. After my husband and I left the JW's, I finally got to know my Dad. He was a loving man and I was cheated out of all those years with him. JW's will change your life forever and if you leave them......it will change your life forever again.

  Trust me.....been there....done that.....please be careful.

  Strawberry
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  Jehovah's Witnesses DO NOT break up families

  by irondork in

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  jehovah's witnesses do not break up families.

  members who refuse to become or remain jehovah's witnesses... break up families.. really, you apostates have such a distorted perception of reality.. .

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  My Mom broke up our family by becomming a Jehovah's witness. My Dad didn't...I didn't....we loved my Mom. But she took this religion "hook, line, and sinker" to the max. We were an inconvience to her because we didn't go along with her and her NEW family.
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  What about the bible?

  by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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  i was remembering a conversation i had recently with my mom when she was still talking to me.

  i asked her why the jw's keep getting new light on different teachings.

  she told me that man is imperfect and needs to be corrected by jehovah time to time to get the teachings right.. well, i started thinking......man was imperfect when he wrote the bible, right?

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  Strawberryfieldsforever

  I was remembering a conversation I had recently with my Mom when she was still talking to me. I asked her why the JW's keep getting new light on different teachings. She told me that man is imperfect and needs to be corrected by Jehovah time to time to get the teachings right.

  Well, I started thinking......man was imperfect when he wrote the bible, right? Does that mean the bible really isn't all that accurate after all? Did God give them new light back then?

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  Hello everyone

  by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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  2. friends

  i have been trying to get on with my life without jehovah's witnesses and my mom.

  just to let you know briefly about me......i was pretty much raised a jw by my mom.

  she never let me know my dad because he was "worldly" and was going to die soon.

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  Strawberryfieldsforever

  Thank you so much for all the words of encouragement. I will keep all my good memories of my Mom and carry them with me. You are all right, I need to go forward without my Mom. But....it's hard. It's hard because it's not in me to live life without someone you love. I don't know how those people can be so cruel to their own flesh and blood.

  The only thing I can hope for is a very limited relationship. I guess I have to take what I get. I could just cut off all contact, but like I said....it's not in me to do that.

  I have a great husband and two great grown boys. I will keep my focus on them.

  Sometimes I wish that my Mom would finally wake up and smell the coffee and come to me and say "I was so wrong, why didn't I see that" but.....at her age.....she would not have much left. She spent her whole adult life trying to please God and get that first class ticket to everlasting life. She put her loving husband and only child off to the wayside to get that ticket. Who am I to take that away from her?

  strawberryfieldsforever