Corvin

Corvin

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  • Terry
    68

    WHAT OFFENDS YOU PERSONALLY?

    by Terry in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    words?

    images?

    do you want to be protected from anything offensive?

    1. Mecurious?
    2. Brummie
    3. jwbot
  • Corvin
    Corvin

    INJUSTICE offends me deeply.

    I become very passionate and outspoken when I see one human being is committing an injustice toward another, especially to an innocent child.

    I get very indignant at the very idea that someone would hit another below the belt for selfish gain, or to cover up his or her own guilt.

  • Terry
    30

    WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WERE DEAD WRONG?

    by Terry in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    what did you do?how did you handle it?

    1. StinkyPantz
    2. hillary_step
    3. toreador
  • Corvin
    Corvin

    What did you do?

    I was seeking reinstatement. I was on the verge of once again having a good standing in the congregation of Jehovah?s Witnesses. I thought it was what was needed to ensure my children?s spiritual wellbeing.

    How did you handle it?

    I acknowledged what a big huge mistake I was about to make and did an about-face.

  • Corvin
    13

    Child Therapist/Social Worker Says JW Religion Destructive

    by Corvin in
    1. watchtower
    2. child-abuse

    i took elizabeth to her therapist this morning.

    i was able to talk to the therapist and bring her up to speed on nancy and to talk about my concerns.

    she said that she is completely aware of the effect the religion is having on the kids.

    1. badboy
    2. Corvin
    3. codeblue
  • Corvin
    Corvin

    I took Elizabeth to her therapist this morning. I was able to talk to the therapist and bring her up to speed on Nancy and to talk about my concerns.

    She said that she is completely aware of the effect the religion is having on the kids. She says that she believes the religion (JW's) to be destructive and damaging to them. She assured me that she is working together with the social worker the court appointed attorney to ensure the abuse stops ASAP.

    Good news.

    Corvin

  • Corvin
    47

    SHOW DOWN TODAY

    by Corvin in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    today, i am taking the girls to meet with the court appointed attorney.

    he will interview the girls and me together, then he will interview sara and the girls together.

    it is his recommendation to the judge that will decide the outcome of this custody battle.

    1. Rabbit
    2. johnny cip
    3. Corvin
  • Corvin
    Corvin
    One thing I would be especially careful about IS what you may say here, does she know you post on X-JW Internet Boards ? I do understand you are simply venting. When you said the part about "taking her out"...what a field day she and her lawyer could have with that.

    LOL, she hasn't the first clue about the internet, let alone an x-jw board. She thinks email is evil and that the little blue "e" icon on her desktop is just for decoration. She has an attorney and he is worthless and incompetent enough as it is (I kicked his arse in court last time, me, without any legal representation- pro per- as it were) but neither one of us get to have legal representation in this custody case. The only ones that get a lawyer in this instance are the kids. He told the kids that they are his boss and it is his job to do what they tell him to. I can't tell you how empowered that makes them all feel. I can't tell you how their mother is about to get the crap stomped out of her in court.

    God, I have so much to say, now . . . even more than usual. Nancy is home and we have had the most amazing discussion. I will write more later.

    Corvin

  • Corvin
    47

    SHOW DOWN TODAY

    by Corvin in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    today, i am taking the girls to meet with the court appointed attorney.

    he will interview the girls and me together, then he will interview sara and the girls together.

    it is his recommendation to the judge that will decide the outcome of this custody battle.

    1. Rabbit
    2. johnny cip
    3. Corvin
  • Corvin
    Corvin

    Anger is a by-product of fear

    You said it sister. And it is also a secondary emotion to hurt and other such emotions. It is not too far out of the ordinary for a person to turn their anger/outrage into a controlled and slow-burning fuel to get things done. Fear? Yes, indeed, I fear. I fear that if I fail, things will not go well for my kids.

    PS how the heck do you change colours? I hit the colour key and everything changes to red and I didn't want to flame anyone.

    LOL, I type my post in Word and do the colorizing there, then I copy and paste it into the box-thingy.

    At the risk of incurring your wrath again, I will suggest that you have a "operations plan" if things don't go completely in your favor.

    An "operations plan"? Not familiar with the term. Is it clinical or a legal term?

    When I went to court, I was only asking for sole custody and for reasonable supervised visitation until things get straightened out. The judge is already familiar with the case and it was his call to order "no contact". It even surprised me

     . I think he already knows what he is going to order, and I think he is just crossing all of his t?s and dotting all of his I?s and making sure it all gets put through the proper procedures before he makes his ruling. No judiciary likes to have his decisions appealed or overturned. I trust him. He knows what?s going on. I don?t know what his experience is with JW?s but something tells me that he knows all too well, and therefore ordered "no contact".

    Also, I do not doubt that everyone who cared enough to respond cares about me and my kids, and thank you to all. It is not my intention to insult. I am a sarcastic by nature and my tone, at least in my head, it more "matter of fact" than "angry", really.

    Corvin

  • Corvin
    47

    SHOW DOWN TODAY

    by Corvin in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    today, i am taking the girls to meet with the court appointed attorney.

    he will interview the girls and me together, then he will interview sara and the girls together.

    it is his recommendation to the judge that will decide the outcome of this custody battle.

    1. Rabbit
    2. johnny cip
    3. Corvin
  • Corvin
    Corvin

    I have no desire to be further verbally abused by someone who doesn't give a shyte (or maybe isn't equiped to discern) when people are showing concern.

    LOL, LT, you call that abuse? Geez, it must be nice living in your twelve-step program. Give a shyte? NOt equipped to discern? I appreciated your concern, but let me tell you something, when someone who is telling you that your concern is not needed, you should probably go the rout of trust and acceptance instead of being offended.

    (Corvin, think about getting a therapist, you need one inspite of yourself)

    Brenda, I can?t believe you actually wrote that.

    To have a professional doesn't mean that a person is f'reek'n nutz, just that they are wise enough to seek professional counsel. What's so uncool about seek out professional counsel? Anger and rage are sometimes difficult to get past when there is a desprite need to act logically. It's not uncommon to lash out at someone trying to help when enraged. I know, I've been there myself with JW parents. And Covin is very angry right now. Rightfully so, but right don't cut it if you loose, and he needs his head about him.

    Brenda, first of all, my comments in these posts might be direct and sharp, sarcastic and mordacious, but my anger is controlled. I am not lashing out at those trying to help, I am, however, getting annoyed that someone keeps telling me I am running too fast and too far, that they keep stating their concern for an aspect of this situation they don?t understand and simply cannot get their arms around, while I keep explaining why their concern is appreciated but a little inapplicable to the circumstances. I have been training for 8 years to deal with this, which includes counseling. I don?t think therapy is uncool, and I highly recommend it for those err too much on the side of caution when decisive action is needed instead. My daughter, Nancy does not consciously understand it, because she is suffering from something akin to Stockholm Syndrome. She needs traditional counseling geared toward cult deprogramming. That won't happen if I play all nice and kissy-face with those involved. Just fyi, her recovery includes dad getting involved in counseling.

    Again, I refer to the rabid dog analogy. The dog has to be put down pronto before it destroys you, then you can feel bad about having to do it. But if you focus on grief before you wack the mad dog over the head, it will be too late. People will get hurt and or die. There is no time to consider other peoples feelings or preferences. You just have to do what you have to do to get you and your loved ones to a safe place.

    I had the same concerns as LT, which is why I asked my question... but:

    Again, I have been trying to tell you that there is nothing to be concerned about. I think the backslappers must have kids because . . .

    Why would you have to be a parent to understand this? We were all children , therefore we all know how much we want to love and be loved by BOTH parents.

    Because being a parent is NOT THE SAME as being a child. Only a parent would understand that.

  • Corvin
    47

    SHOW DOWN TODAY

    by Corvin in
    1. jw
    2. friends

    today, i am taking the girls to meet with the court appointed attorney.

    he will interview the girls and me together, then he will interview sara and the girls together.

    it is his recommendation to the judge that will decide the outcome of this custody battle.

    1. Rabbit
    2. johnny cip
    3. Corvin
  • Corvin
    Corvin
    Has this become about you or the children?
    Why would you set aside the preferences of your children, when there's just one more date to see through?
    For gawd's sakes calm down. If that kind of outburst gets released in front of the attorney, in the courtroom, or even in front of the kids...
    Even that kind of attitude, if it's "felt", will have a detrimental effect.
    I know you know this, but a reminder never harmed.
    Honestly, dude, if I didn't care I'd just keep schtum and let you reap. If you want me to shut up and leave you to the back-slappers, just say the word...

    For godsakes, Littletoe. You have a lyrical way of pointing out the obvious, then saying nothing at all that makes a damn bit of sense to my situation. Because it is about my children, and because she will not stop, yes, the crazy bitch has to be slapped down. The heavy artillery is coming out, because she must be slapped down, and it might even be good for her. It might jolt a little reality into her. So far, if you knew the crazy bitch, you would know that any love, patience or kindness from me she uses to wipe her ass with. She is a bitch. She is heartless, cold and hateful. I have video and audio tape to prove it.

    The children just want a normal relationship with their mother, but the price they have to pay for that fantasy is too high. In Nancy's case, especially, she does not know what is in her best interests, and what she prefers is not exactly in line with what she will get for her kindness, love and effort. Yes, there is one more date, but surely, as a parent, if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that your wife or exwife wanted to do nothing more than destroy whatever it is she can't control, wouldn't you pull out all the stops to ensure her arrogant and ignorant arse is slapped down hard and for good? What is wrong with you? She can do all the evil she wants to me and I couldn't give a damn, however, she is using my kids to satisfy her sick ego, and what the hell is a father suppose to do? Just because she is their mother and they love her does not mean that I have to turn the other cheek and let her do whatever she wants to them.

    Honestly, dude, if I didn't care I'd just keep schtum and let you reap. If you want me to shut up and leave you to the back-slappers, just say the word...

    Littletoe, men over 30 years old sound pretty silly using the term, "dude". The more you go on, the more I realize you don't know what you are talking about. I come here to vent. Allow me that and just don't respond to my posts. What kind of a moron do you I am to let that kind of an attitude be felt by any of the parties involved in this thing? Do you honestly think I sit in front of the attorney and judge or my kids saying these things?

    Hey, remember how you posted the entire story of how you left the org? I think there were audio recordings and stuff on your website, right? I imagined you shared those things for a couple of reasons, one of them being that you thought your story might help others, no? I don't know what you are doing since you left the org, but if it is giving advice about custody battles, you should change jobs. Think about it.

    Many Ex-JW's, because of where they just came from, are so afraid to assert themselves and their rights and JW's take advantage of that fear and exploit it. They count on it expecially in custody cases. The last thing that will benefit my kids in this case is for me to listen to a sanctimonious fella like you telling me not to run too far or too fast. To hell with that, because being nice and polite, even with the courts, does not work. You have got to be heard.

    I can call her a bitch. I can call her anything I want, just not to my kids. Those feelings I save for venting on this board. She is their mother, but she is still a bitch. Joan Crawford was somebody's mother too, but she was still a bitch. Everyone knows and accepts that. See how that works?

    I understand that the family laws in GB are different than they are here, and I truly think they suck and you are basing your fairytale ideals on those sucky laws and how it may have effected your situation, I dunno, but whatever. Free speech is under attack in your country, as I understand it, but demonstrating and protesting is the American way. Let me just tell you how it often works in this country. It is ok to display controlled anger and indignation. It is ok to raise hell and make sure people hear you. It is the American way to challenge authority and assert yourself. It is the how change happens and it ensures that b ureaucrats don't just push you through without really doing what they are suppose to. It lets them know that you are watching and there will be hell to pay if they don't carefully do their job right, for they answer to us, the taxpayer, and they answer to someone above. I'm not letting a thing get by and this is what I mean when I say the bitch needs to be slapped down . . . for the sake of my kids. Do you even understand what I am saying? The bitch will do or say anything to get those kids back under her control which will be my cue to start buying cemetary plots to bury one or two of them. Thanks for the advice, but I have had results so far that I don't care to change.

    Ok, kids, fire away.

    Corvin