Hi Es,
I figured that somehow they must not have received your DA letter, or ignored it. I recall one situation where we ignored a DA letter, and still tried to meet with a young woman. She never met with us ... good for her. She ended up being DF'd. I don't know if she ever returned. And now, here I am. If you tried to stay, you probably could if you showed them what they want to see: meetings, service, and a begging heart ... unless they suspect apostacy, then there is little hope. But, you are better off without them.
By the way, I may have missed it, but are you and your husband still together, or are you getting a divorce? Just curious. - Jim W.