Posts by dubstepped

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ADHD Caused by Chemo

by azor in

jw
friends

i just found out yesterday that my son who is less than a year out of treatment for leukemia has adhd caused by the chemo that saved his life.

does anyone here have any experience with this?

primarily looking for books or resources that helped you or your loved ones..

Very interesting. Admittedly it has been a few years since I've really been active in that area. I'm glad that your son had his life saved. That's awesome. The moderate ADHD is what it is. We all have different abilities, emotional ranges, ways of thinking, etc. To me, unless it is severe, it isn't so much a disorder as just another way of being.

I will warn you that one of the reasons O left the forums is that I got tired of the victim mentality, the us vs. them of the disordered and the NT (neurotypical). It is an attitude that pops up in most areas of life where there's differences. They want the world to accommodate them rather than adapting to it, in some instances. It started getting to me after being active on there for years. Don't let that deter you, that place was a lifesaver for me, but I outgrew it.

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ADHD Caused by Chemo

by azor in

jw
friends

i just found out yesterday that my son who is less than a year out of treatment for leukemia has adhd caused by the chemo that saved his life.

does anyone here have any experience with this?

primarily looking for books or resources that helped you or your loved ones..

dubstepped

I've never heard of it being caused by chemo, but regardless of how you get there, it can be managed. The book "Driven To Distraction" is kind of like the ADHD Bible, only without the myths and with actual science. Dr. Hallowell is a leading guru on the subject. With that said, it is a spectrum like everything else. Meds are only one tool, and I've never taken them. My goal as an adult that learned I likely have it at 32 years of age was to manage it with behavioral tools or in the way I managed life in general. I spent years on the ADD forums (addforums.com I think). There are great resources and people there to help. Look up podcasts on the subject as well. I am blanking on other resources but if I think of some I'll let you know. Adhd isn't always a deficit of attention, unless one has inattentive type, but rather often an abundance of attention and a lack of ability to prioritize what gets it. I could go on and may later but need to get back to work, lol.

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

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friends

i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

dubstepped

Healthy boundaries (of which JWs know nothing) are where you end and I begin. You have to live your life for you, not them. There's a great book called "Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud that helped me, just one of many that helped me get emotionally healthy enough to take my life back.

Welcome to the forum. You'll find nice and supportive people here, and a few that aren't so. For all of us that wasted too many years of our lives asleep in the organization, do us all a favor and go live a happy and free life. Your parents get to choose how they react. That's all on them. You can't control that and have no responsibility to live your life the way they are most comfortable with. Their love is conditional and most JWs are about control, which sadly is not love. Who has greater love, the person that only loves you for being exactly what they want, or the person who loves you for who YOU are?

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Scientology Superbowl Ad

by azor in

jw
friends

simply disgusted with that double standard by our system at times.

cutting ads that question trumps bigoted wall, yet allowing a cult ad in.

wtf..

dubstepped

I never saw the Scientology commercial. I may have missed it, but my wife (who is into the commercials) missed it too. I wonder if it was regional or everywhere.

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Shun Glasses

by Tallon in

saw this on another exjw site and had a good laugh.. hope you get a kick out of it too ;).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bb2wzmfccdq&feature=youtu.be.

dubstepped

That was great! Thanks for sharing.

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The handling of child abuse allegations

by Landy in

there's a lot of criticism surrounding the jw's handling of chiild abuse within their ranks with a lot of it being well deserved.

but i'm interested to know how people on here think child abuse allegations should be handled.

there's a few scenarios below, the first couple are easy then it gets a bit more complex.

dubstepped

Oh, and I guarantee you that if the cult leaders told dubs to go to the police instead of the passive aggressive comdemning of it, they would go.

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The handling of child abuse allegations

by Landy in

there's a lot of criticism surrounding the jw's handling of chiild abuse within their ranks with a lot of it being well deserved.

but i'm interested to know how people on here think child abuse allegations should be handled.

there's a few scenarios below, the first couple are easy then it gets a bit more complex.

dubstepped

Step 1 is going to the police.

Step 2 can be going to the elders so that they are on notice. They don't need to investigate gory details so much as to know to watch a person.

That's about all one can do. Both those inside the cult and outside are then put on notice.

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My families shunning has gone to a whole new level

by pale.emperor in

8 months df'd.

loving a life of freedom.

however, my family are all shunning me.

dubstepped

Man, I feel for you PE. Your mom is sick, and it's unlikely that she'll get better. This is just my opinion, but I don't think your daughter should be around such a sick person. She might catch it. You can invite the cousins over or find new kids for her to play with. The more entrenched the relationship with your mom becomes, the harder it will be when your daughter has to leave your mom behind. People put so much emphasis on family that they risk toxic environments to try to make things work. I know it's hard, and at the same time easy for me to say, but I'd cut your mom off completely out of love for your little girl.

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Conditional Love

by Saethydd in

i've noticed several posts recently claiming that jw friends and family members give out conditional love.

well, i'm not so sure that is entirely accurate, in fact, i would say they tend to be very steadfast in their love.

the issue is this, they have been taught a poor form of love.

dubstepped

So what you're saying is that they were taught conditional love and exhibit its traits, but it's not conditional love, though that's exactly what it is.

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What have been some of the funniest local needs talks that you have heard?

by DaPriest in

i remember once in berlin south germany there was a local needs part for the men only, and how they should use the toilet.

in all seriousness for ten minutes a retarded nigerian was going on about how men need to sit down when using the toilet.

no mention of anything else.. it transpired that some little kraut boy from an "interested" family would aim for the side of the toilet and leave a great big puddle for others to clean up.

dubstepped

Not a local needs talk, but during the announcements one young married ex-Bethelite brother with a flair for the dramatic (or just an arrogant prick) got up with a special announcement. Sisters, apparently we're having an issue with the plumbing due to some sisters flushing sanitary napkins. With a dramatic arm flair he raised up a hand holding paper towels, and the sisters died laughing while his wife was mortified and turned bright red. He was such an asshat. Couldn't have happened to a better person.