Live in gratitude and be present and it's easier to accept the past. If you're grateful, it's hard to simultaneously feel regret. I still have my days where I feel regret, but then again we always look back with the most optimistic eyes, and things wouldn't have necessarily worked out well. Who knows.
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How do you get over all the things that you missed? The stuff you can't get back
by JW_Rogue inlook my life is not bad but sometimes i just think about all the normal things i missed out on.
and no i'm not talking about christmas and birthday parties.
i'm talking about your first kiss happening in your twenties instead of your teens.
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I started a new podcast about my life as a JW today
by dubstepped inso, i did a thing today.
i officially launched a podcast called "this jw life".
people keep saying that i should write a book, but i don't even read books, unless in audio format.
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@WGO - Awesome! Now time to get it shared out to people and get some good reviews so that more people can find it.
I have been getting interest on Facebook from people that have never been JWs and that's my goal. I'm not a person that gets excited about much, but I'm genuinely excited about this. People need to know what's up. Knowledge is power and I want to imbue both.
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DA myself to relieve great pressure?
by Isambard Crater inmy lifelong mental illnesses, fuelled significantly by the borg, are very bad at the moment and result in me missing lots of midweek meetings, but i haven't missed a sunday in years except the occasional vacation.. the nature of my mental and emotional illnesses mean that i, as a physically in and mentally out pimo, take to heart very painfully admonishment from the platform to never miss meetings, preach all i can, and so on.. okay, i report 3 hours each month on average and no elder has ever said anything, but when they make comments on the platform, i feel such great guilt and shame, but also anger, as they do not understand my illnesses and when i do mention my situation to elders, they kind of minimise and joke about it.. some other sisters in my congregation started "officially" not attending midweek meetings a few year's ago because of their own health circumstances, but i know for a fact that some elders look down on them for this reason, not showing real understanding deep down even if they do on the surface.. i have reached the point where i want to hand in a da letter as a cry for help, or more like a clear indicator to them that when i say i'm not well enough to attend midweek, i really mean it and it's not just an excuse.
sure, i'm only 42, but i can still be too fragile to go out at night with a 30 minute drive both ways..
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I disassociated and the relief was amazing. I disagree that it gives them power. They already have power, and faders have to put up with far more bullshit to play their game than those of us that put a bullet in it by disassociating.
That doesn't mean that YOU should do it. I would certainly recommend counseling and stop attending meetings or reading their literature immediately. If you can't handle that step, you're not ready to disassociate. You think they look down on people that miss meetings, lol. Get some space so that you can make decisions with a clearer head.
Disassociating shouldn't be a rash decision. You can't unring that bell once you do it. It is a tool though, one that can put an end to the nightmare. I was discouraged by many ex-JWs for considering it, and disassociating was the best decision I've ever made. My wife did the same and feels the same. You have to be prepared for the losses though. We'll never see our family again or our JW friends. It was still extremely hard to do when we did it, but in retrospect we were as ready as we could be. There's no time where it just feels 100% easy. I just know it was worth it.
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Surprise Elders Visit
by Tight Pants Twinkle Toes inhello community!
quick background - baptized 1971, 46 years in the borg, former elder.
wife - baptized 1973, pioneer...... we became disgusted with the oranization 10 years ago but still believed it was the truth.
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Your username really says it all, lol. Welcome to the forum, and to freedom! Way to take control.
In the end, they are the ones that taught us to stand up for truth. So they can't cry about it to much when we do so, though the weeping and gnashing of teeth will follow.
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I started a new podcast about my life as a JW today
by dubstepped inso, i did a thing today.
i officially launched a podcast called "this jw life".
people keep saying that i should write a book, but i don't even read books, unless in audio format.
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I have been emailed by iTunes and it should now be available there. I went to the app on my computer and searched for "This JW Life" and found it under podcasts as I scrolled down.
Can anyone out there that uses iTunes regularly confirm that it is working for them? It's not my usual podcatcher of choice, but I know it's what most people use. I use Podcast Republic on my Android phone and was just able to subscribe to it there.
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I started a new podcast about my life as a JW today
by dubstepped inso, i did a thing today.
i officially launched a podcast called "this jw life".
people keep saying that i should write a book, but i don't even read books, unless in audio format.
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@smiddy - It's just essentially an online radio program. People often download them onto their phones so they can listen on the go. I listen to all kinds of cool shows, all absolutely free, all day while working.
You can just go to my very simple website, thisjwlife.com, and press play and listen on your computer. It sounds fancier than it is.
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I started a new podcast about my life as a JW today
by dubstepped inso, i did a thing today.
i officially launched a podcast called "this jw life".
people keep saying that i should write a book, but i don't even read books, unless in audio format.
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So happy for the feedback from some that listened. I'm no audio engineer but did my best with a headset mic, laptop, and Audacity, a free recording software.
I'm also a person that feels weird about being seen, whether literally or in this case just putting myself out there, but I've been pushing my own boundaries since leaving the Borg.
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I started a new podcast about my life as a JW today
by dubstepped inso, i did a thing today.
i officially launched a podcast called "this jw life".
people keep saying that i should write a book, but i don't even read books, unless in audio format.
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@WGO - I love podcasts too. I hope iTunes approves me soon so that I people can subscribe. You can download from my site. I think they can subscribe somehow now through Libsyn, or there might be an RSS feed on my site there for them, but iTunes is more universal and I know that a lot of podcatchers pull from iTunes. I'll update here on the forum when I release new episodes, and when iTunes approves me.
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Jehovah's Witnesses act like 'Flirts' with people!
by stuckinarut2 inwe were just musing that jws act in a "flirtatious" manner with people in the community.. they show such "sincere" interest in people when they call.
they seem like such kind, caring and thoughtful people - really interested in their lives and welfare.. people are often quite impressed with the jws manner, and their well dressed presentation.
people (especially vulnerable ones who are going through difficult pressures in life), are drawn in and made to feel special by the witnesses as they call back.. return visits take place.
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Wow, I never thought of it in this particular terminology, but flirting is completely appropriate for what they do. Interesting concept.
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I started a new podcast about my life as a JW today
by dubstepped inso, i did a thing today.
i officially launched a podcast called "this jw life".
people keep saying that i should write a book, but i don't even read books, unless in audio format.
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Lol @ Nathan Natas! Where should I turn my slip in? Maybe go to the local Kingdom Hall? It could be kind of awesome to come up with my own apostate slip and walk into the hall where I disassociated and turn it in.