I agree with ToesUp. You handled that very well. Waking up isn't often one big jolt but a series of questions and doubts over time. You just opened her mind a bit. You can bet she's thinking about it even if she never says a thing.
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Talking Janet Jackson and Religious Freedom with the Wife
by OnTheWayOut inmy recent sidewalk discussion with a couple of jw's has gotten me in the mood to say more when appropriate.so the wife and i were riding in the car and cat stevens comes on.
i mentioned to her that cat stevens left music when he was still popular and converted to islam back in the 1970's- how he was told that his music would have to be morally acceptable and he found it easier to just abandon making new music for at least 20 years.
so i didn't really remember all the details and i figured the conversation would die.
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Disassociation and being young, experiences?
by Kohanic inok so im new here~ hey-yo!.
i found this site cause i've been looking around at experiences of people leaving 'the truth' as i've been wanting to leave for some time now.
it's interesting as y'know i'd never seen it from the other side as its apostate literature and all that jazz lol.
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dubstepped
Disassociating is for you, not them, so who cares how they announce you. It is an atom bomb dropped on everything you knew. My wife and I did it and it was the best decision we ever made. It is immediate freedom. You no longer have to play their games like most who fade. You will lose everyone though. Don't fool yourself like some do into thinking that somehow you'll keep JW friends or family. It can happen but is the exception, not the rule.
With that said it's a very serious decision and it is a bell that you cannot un-ring. Once you do it there's no going back so you had better be sure.
You very well may get kicked out. Be patient unless something is on fire. Establish yourself apart from them. You have the rest of your life ahead of you.
Oh, and welcome to the forum!
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Disgusted
by Jrjw ini've on my been on this forum for a few weeks but the more i'm learning the more ill its making me feel that i believed the wts.
my 12yr old today said i've made her miss out on having a normal childhood and i felt sick when she said it coz i know it's true.
i've been telling my dad today the things i've learned that wts had lied about and about the child abuse and he's disgusted too especially coz he's missed out on 12 years of being able to celebrate birthdays with us.
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dubstepped
It is a terrible betrayal. I told my wife at one point that it felt like I was pranked for three decades. It is a terrible feeling. I've been out for two years and can't believe I ever believed that mess, though I was taught it as a kid and stood little chance.
I might encourage you to pace yourself as you do this. Then again, I didn't, but we all handle things differently. Just take care of yourself.
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Friends
by Jrjw inhi does anyone have any ideas of good places for me to make non jw friends when i move coz need to replace all my jw friends for my kids and i ready for becoming inactive.
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dubstepped
Clubs, local meetups (meetup.com), work, school, mom groups, volunteer organizations, etc.
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Disgusted
by Jrjw ini've on my been on this forum for a few weeks but the more i'm learning the more ill its making me feel that i believed the wts.
my 12yr old today said i've made her miss out on having a normal childhood and i felt sick when she said it coz i know it's true.
i've been telling my dad today the things i've learned that wts had lied about and about the child abuse and he's disgusted too especially coz he's missed out on 12 years of being able to celebrate birthdays with us.
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dubstepped
Your intentions were good. You're going to go through the stages of grief similar to what happens when someone close to you dies. It is a process. Feel free to come here and vent, cry, etc. We all go through our own process. I'm sorry you have that regret. You can't get the past back but you can make the present and future outshine it.
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Are We all Witnesses Here?
by Ikechukwu.info ini am new to this site, want to know who in the admin and are we all jw?.
if yes, i am from nigeria, west african.
as an active and dedicated witness i want to tread safe.. need to make some friends here; i love honesty in all things.. best regards.
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dubstepped
You will find lots of honesty here about Jehovah's Witnesses. Welcome to the forum dear brother. I highly encourage you to start reading and getting involved for your spiritual upbuilding.
May Jehovah bless you as you learn truth. We are all here to encourage one another. :)
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First Christmas without the guilt
by Apostate Anonymous ini have lurked around the site for about 3 months and finally decided to join.
this will be my first time creating a topic here.
a little backstory for me.
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dubstepped
The indoctrination is strong, isn't it. Wow, such a great ending to that story. Welcome to the forum! My wife and I just did our second Christmas and had so much fun. It gets easier over time.
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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories
by Bangalore inhttps://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.
for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.
the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.
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dubstepped
Yes, I have 2 podcasts. "This JW Life" is my personal story. Feel free to read something into a paragraph's worth of material and affix labels to me too, lol. I guess if someone can do it then I can be raked over the coals too and I'll suddenly owe them something.
That podcast is done but I leave it up to help as many as I can. I can only talk about myself for so long.
People emailed me and didn't want it to end because there isn't much out there for us. I know because I listen to podcasts and books all day while I work. I wanted more too. Doing the show kind of scratches my own itch, but it's not easy.
So I started "shunned" as people emailed me wanting to tell their stories. I give up my time and pay for what it takes to help them tell their stories. I didn't want to monetize my first podcast because I didn't want to catch crap from JWs. I'd be a self-important liar looking for money in their eyes if I made money from my efforts. Apparently the same might apply from the exJW community if I dared to make money despite people requesting that I set up a page for such. I haven't yet, but only because I want to establish the show first. At some point might because I spend my time and money on it and I'm sure some may take offense. I don't know if I'll care to dignify accusations with a response or not when and if the time comes. I'm not a fan of all the exJW personality drama.
I'm helping people and that's what I care about. If you listen and have suggestions I'm all ears. So far people seem to like the new one. I have an episode coming out in February that is a very special story that hopefully will impact lots of people. It was very heavy. Most episodes take 2 hours to record and lots of time to edit, upload, promote, etc. His took over 6 hours just to record, over two weekends. It's amazing what people go through in the cult. I'm glad people help get their stories out there. I have my style and others have theirs.
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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories
by Bangalore inhttps://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.
for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.
the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.
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dubstepped
Why don't the people on those threads you linked to, the actual people he was openly discussing his ideas with, seem nearly as butthurt by his book ideas as the people here today? People seemed excited and were willing to take part and help. Now he's a monster for doing the same?
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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories
by Bangalore inhttps://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.
for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.
the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.
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dubstepped
Lol, the number of nuggets left behind is staggering. Grown ass people don't know how to complete the process more often then one would think. Did I mention how much glory was involved? I think I did. :)
Oh, and I owe it all to the preparation for life given to me by Jehovah's spirit directed organization.