I know people that were there that aren't what one would call elite. Just because you didn't know doesn't make it elitist. It's amazing how personal people take this stuff as if somehow it was a personal attack on them.
Let's say it was private. That still doesn't make it elitist. It just means you don't know those people. I'm going to an Apostafest in August that I'm sure some don't know about. It's not elitist, it's just impossible to literally make sure that every ex-JW knows.
How does "I didn't know" become "it's everyone else's fault that I didn't know" become "you're elitist"? This is why we can't have nice things, lol.