Sorry Jared, comes with the territory. You know it's going to happen but it's still tough to see how blind they are once you've woken up. You were likely there once yourself though.
Loyalty has really been harped on lately. It's a great way to control people. That message they sent you was pretty short and non-personal. That's how they often are though. Their love is very conditional.
My wife never heard one word from her family. Not one word from any of them. They immediately cut her off simply for going to see my disfellowshipped brother with me once. Done. Never another word. We disassociated later, but it changed nothing for her on that level.