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  The bridge burning has begun.

  by sparrowdown in

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  i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

  i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

  so i texted her back immediately with fu..

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  dubstepped

  Fantastic post Island Man! I've felt the same but you expressed it so beautifully. I bookmarked this just for your post. Love it!
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  The bridge burning has begun.

  by sparrowdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

  i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

  so i texted her back immediately with fu..

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  Good for you! It is so empowering to bust right through that fear of man and realize that they really can't do anything to you. In the end they don't respect or love you if you have to be someone you're not just to keep contact with them. The title of a book on dealing with people that suffer from borderline personality disorder is called "Walking On Eggshells" and is a hallmark of ones that deal with people with the disorder. I walked on eggshells most of my life and now I can stomp, run, jump, or anything I want without the worry that something breaks due to it. I'm just me, take me or leave me, and I've found more people willing to take me on now than I ever did in Jehovah's loving happy wonderful "true friends" organization.

  You know that example given where a person is in a flood an up on the roof and they pray to God for saving and a boat shows up, a helicopter, and something else, and the person is disappointed because God never came to save them, but in reality he sent them a boat and helicopter and something else? Well, my whole life I never really had friends in the organization. I prayed and prayed and constantly turned down offers to hang out with worldly people because that's not how it was "supposed" to happen right? Now I realize that I had, and passed up, many opportunities for friendship because an isolationist cult led me to to so, and I regret that. I now have more supportive people than ever in my life. There's that scripture that JW's love to use about losing mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters for the sake of his name and how we would gain mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters in the future. Well, it applies to me and NOT in the way the Watchtower intended. I've lost my fleshly family but have gained people that actually care about ME for who I am, not for who they think I am or want me to be.

  I'm proud of you. You've taken a brave step.
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  New here!

  by Mandy97 in

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  hi guys !

  hm.. i'm new in this website !

  my name is mandy and i just want to meet new people!

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  dubstepped

  Parlez vous apostate?
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  Does anyone pray and if so to who?

  by duc007az in

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  2. beliefs

  it's been years since i've prayed and the last one i prayed to was the god known as jehovah.

  just wondering.

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  dubstepped

  I was never a person that prayed a lot, but when I do pray, it is still to Jehovah. Could that change? Sure, anything can happen. I never thought I'd DA from the religion that was all I knew my whole life. But for now that's where I am in my journey.
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  Anthony Morris III: Jehovah Blesses Obedience

  by wifibandit in

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  http://tv.jw.org/#video/vodprogramsevents/pub-jwbmw_201509_1_video.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mf9j7qs7bvm.

  obey.

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  Paraphrasing the video: Dogma is something you're not supposed to question. We are not dogmatic at all. The members of the GB have questioned these things collectively in making these decrees, therefore you must follow them unquestioningly. You see, they have been pre-questioned for you.

  Yeah, he pretty much just said that. Wow. The faithful and discreet slave, now with more discreet, and pre-questioned for your brainwashed pleasure.
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  Been encouraging my husband to contact his DF'd brother

  by atacrossroads in

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  my husband has a brother he has not spoken too in years not even when he became an adult.

  there is a big age gap between them and when his brother was df'd he was still a small child.

  his brother was 17 when he was df'd for sex and when he turned 18 he left home and never looked back.

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  I was still in and after nearly a decade reached out to my DFed brother. As soon as family members found out both my family and my wife's started shunning us. My family just became very aloof, but my wife's sister instantly deemed us apostates and spread the word. We've never spoken again, and it has been months. Earlier this month we both disassociated formally and are not longer JWs. If he does reach out to him, there may be serious consequences for him. It is seen as an act of disloyalty to God, which we all know means the WTBTS.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

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  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  dubstepped

  Also, sex comes from trust and love and intimacy, it doesn't create it. Again, I recommend marriage counseling or at least reading some books on the subject.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  dubstepped

  Most young Witnesses get married to have sex. How's that work out as a foundation for marriage? All of the people I grew up with got married young and horny and divorced, and it is a plague among the dubs.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  dubstepped

  Just an observation, but it is the rest of us talking about all the other things in a relationship aside from sex, and the OP only seems to talk about that one thing. We're sitting here trying to lay out the complexities of relationships and he's just talking about his "vitality" and equating intimacy solely to sex, which means either we're all battling out this men vs women issue while dude just sits there and grunts out "I want sex". None of us knows much about the OP's relationship because he's going no deeper than the fact that he wants something and she's not cooperating. We have no clue where his responsibility lies because he puts it all on her, which isn't a great sign. It rarely falls squarely on one person's shoulder in any relationship. We all play in to whatever function or dysfunction exists in our marriages and should look inward to start the process of fixing something first. This is coming from a former" blamer" myself. You need to check yourself first and I'm not seeing the OP doing that here.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  dubstepped

  I haven't seen anyone address this so I will because it really struck me in the OP. GTTM said what's the use of being married if this is lacking, or something to that affect. My hope is that your relationship involves much more than sex that fills other needs of you both. If not, you've got bigger problems than a lack of sex. Intimacy involves much more than sex, which you seem to equate it with. Add in the lack of understanding of how your wife works as aa woman that has needs precluding sex instead of it just being sex for the sake of sexual release and you guys might want to see a marriage counselor to help work through some of this. Something like your awakening is devastating for her. She knows what you think of her and her organization. Without respect, love dies. You guys need to work on connecting again and this could be a great opportunity to work on other areas of your relationship and you could discover or rediscover things that being you closer than the Borg ever could.