Posts by dubstepped

72

The bridge burning has begun.

by sparrowdown in

jw
friends

i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

so i texted her back immediately with fu..

dubstepped

Nice. "How YOU doin?" Seems appropriate, as he's as much a friend of yours as anyone on the tv show.

10

Another great video of a normal, healthy, exjw expressing themselves on their exit

by freemindfade in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwglexnsmdy.

.

dubstepped

Loved hearing her story, and my wife and I had a similar experience. We too had been building up the moment of our DAing for many years without knowing, now that we look at it. We just wanted "the truth" and allowed ourselves to question after enough things didn't make sense to us, and it took us away from everything we had believed in for our whole lives. I'm so happy for her and her family. Fly and be free!

27

Help Me Undertand...

by DarioKehl in

according to the 2014 annual report:.

"worldwide, there are 115,416 congregations of jehovahs witnesses and 8,201,545 publishers.".

i don't understand how the borg is facing financial difficulty.

dubstepped

I have two words for you:
BAD INVESTMENTS

What in the world could you invest in so poorly at to ruin the millions of dollars they have coming in at will? They have a lot tied up in real estate, but that can't all be bad. It seems like they would have had to tie up a tremendous amount in something that quickly went south. My friend seems to think that the sexual abuse payouts will cripple them, but I don't think it is but a drop in the bucket, so there would have to be some huge mishandling of money.

I don't doubt you if this is indeed the case, I just can't imagine what investment would be so horrid so as to cripple the finances of a company that is just given tax free money at will. It certainly wouldn't be very "discreet" to invest so unwisely.

72

The bridge burning has begun.

by sparrowdown in

jw
friends

i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

so i texted her back immediately with fu..

dubstepped

Fantastic post Island Man! I've felt the same but you expressed it so beautifully. I bookmarked this just for your post. Love it!

72

The bridge burning has begun.

by sparrowdown in

jw
friends

i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

so i texted her back immediately with fu..

dubstepped

Good for you! It is so empowering to bust right through that fear of man and realize that they really can't do anything to you. In the end they don't respect or love you if you have to be someone you're not just to keep contact with them. The title of a book on dealing with people that suffer from borderline personality disorder is called "Walking On Eggshells" and is a hallmark of ones that deal with people with the disorder. I walked on eggshells most of my life and now I can stomp, run, jump, or anything I want without the worry that something breaks due to it. I'm just me, take me or leave me, and I've found more people willing to take me on now than I ever did in Jehovah's loving happy wonderful "true friends" organization.

You know that example given where a person is in a flood an up on the roof and they pray to God for saving and a boat shows up, a helicopter, and something else, and the person is disappointed because God never came to save them, but in reality he sent them a boat and helicopter and something else? Well, my whole life I never really had friends in the organization. I prayed and prayed and constantly turned down offers to hang out with worldly people because that's not how it was "supposed" to happen right? Now I realize that I had, and passed up, many opportunities for friendship because an isolationist cult led me to to so, and I regret that. I now have more supportive people than ever in my life. There's that scripture that JW's love to use about losing mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters for the sake of his name and how we would gain mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters in the future. Well, it applies to me and NOT in the way the Watchtower intended. I've lost my fleshly family but have gained people that actually care about ME for who I am, not for who they think I am or want me to be.

I'm proud of you. You've taken a brave step.

43

New here!

by Mandy97 in

jw
friends

hi guys !

hm.. i'm new in this website !

my name is mandy and i just want to meet new people!

dubstepped

Parlez vous apostate?

27

Does anyone pray and if so to who?

by duc007az in

it's been years since i've prayed and the last one i prayed to was the god known as jehovah.

just wondering.

dubstepped

I was never a person that prayed a lot, but when I do pray, it is still to Jehovah. Could that change? Sure, anything can happen. I never thought I'd DA from the religion that was all I knew my whole life. But for now that's where I am in my journey.

91

Anthony Morris III: Jehovah Blesses Obedience

by wifibandit in

http://tv.jw.org/#video/vodprogramsevents/pub-jwbmw_201509_1_video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mf9j7qs7bvm.

obey.

dubstepped

Paraphrasing the video: Dogma is something you're not supposed to question. We are not dogmatic at all. The members of the GB have questioned these things collectively in making these decrees, therefore you must follow them unquestioningly. You see, they have been pre-questioned for you.

Yeah, he pretty much just said that. Wow. The faithful and discreet slave, now with more discreet, and pre-questioned for your brainwashed pleasure.

13

Been encouraging my husband to contact his DF'd brother

by atacrossroads in

jw
friends

my husband has a brother he has not spoken too in years not even when he became an adult.

there is a big age gap between them and when his brother was df'd he was still a small child.

his brother was 17 when he was df'd for sex and when he turned 18 he left home and never looked back.

dubstepped

I was still in and after nearly a decade reached out to my DFed brother. As soon as family members found out both my family and my wife's started shunning us. My family just became very aloof, but my wife's sister instantly deemed us apostates and spread the word. We've never spoken again, and it has been months. Earlier this month we both disassociated formally and are not longer JWs. If he does reach out to him, there may be serious consequences for him. It is seen as an act of disloyalty to God, which we all know means the WTBTS.

103

Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

by goingthruthemotions in

just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

dubstepped

Also, sex comes from trust and love and intimacy, it doesn't create it. Again, I recommend marriage counseling or at least reading some books on the subject.