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  My brother died last night

  by LisaRose in

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  i found out this morning that my brother died last night, he was also an ex jw, 73 years old and died of heart disease and kidney failure.

  it was not totally unexpected, as he had been in poor health, but it's a blow, especially as i just lost another brother two years ago.

  there were six of us, now only four.

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  I'm sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad a month ago. Death is tough, even if expected.
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  I'm getting baptized

  by BlackWolf in

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  i know i've started similar topics before but this time i'm serious.

  my parents have been constantly pressuring me and after yesterday's watchtower study they asked me if i was going to be baptized this summer... and i said yes.

  i probably should have thought about it more before making a final decision, but they're pretty much forcing me to do it anyway.

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  If I remember correctly, she is home schooled and very isolated other than time she gets to spend with horses. I may be misremembering but don't have time to go read her previous threads.

  Just as her parents need to recognize she's just a child, so do some here. Your human rights or whatever don't mean a thing when your parents have your life by the short hair. She's in a bad position. She can't just tell her parents how it is and put them in their place, in all likelihood, without repercussions. It isn't fair for her parents to put her in a position where she MUST get baptized, and it isn't fair for us to do the opposite and apply pressure. She's a kid caught in a no win situation. Your rights as a kid go as far as those with power over you let them go, no list changes that unless she's willing and strong enough (how many kids are?) to exercise listed rights and get people in her corner.
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  I'm getting baptized

  by BlackWolf in

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  i know i've started similar topics before but this time i'm serious.

  my parents have been constantly pressuring me and after yesterday's watchtower study they asked me if i was going to be baptized this summer... and i said yes.

  i probably should have thought about it more before making a final decision, but they're pretty much forcing me to do it anyway.

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  Sweetie, if you have to play the game, then play it. Only you know what you're facing and what you can handle. You're not annoying at all. Any backlash here is just pain speaking from people that also went down a path. If your parents are threatening you, do what you have to do to get through your childhood.

  Please take care of yourself. Take it one day at a time. None of us wants to see you baptized because we know what happens later, but ultimately you have to survive today before you can worry about tomorrow.

  (((((A million hugs)))))

  You mentioned an incident that you don't want to happen again. If you want to share you have listening ears here and we all want to help.

  If baptism if in your future, I support you. I wish it didn't have to be that way but understand why it may have to be. They can never take away who you truly are underneath if you don't let them.
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  I'm getting baptized

  by BlackWolf in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know i've started similar topics before but this time i'm serious.

  my parents have been constantly pressuring me and after yesterday's watchtower study they asked me if i was going to be baptized this summer... and i said yes.

  i probably should have thought about it more before making a final decision, but they're pretty much forcing me to do it anyway.

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  I certainly don't want to add more pressure, but if you don't stand up now you'll be forced to endure more intense ugliness later when you leave. The easy path today will lead to a much more difficult one later. You're a kid, so whatever you do today shouldn't have such far reaching consequences, but it does. I'm so sorry.
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  I'm getting baptized

  by BlackWolf in

  1. jw
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  i know i've started similar topics before but this time i'm serious.

  my parents have been constantly pressuring me and after yesterday's watchtower study they asked me if i was going to be baptized this summer... and i said yes.

  i probably should have thought about it more before making a final decision, but they're pretty much forcing me to do it anyway.

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  We accept you no matter what, but we all hope you can speak to your parents and let them know you're not ready and only said yes because they pressured you. They won't kick you out. Ugh, I'm sick just thinking of the pressure you're under.
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  Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......

  by dubstepped in

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  my wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.

  we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.

  when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.

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  SafeAtHome: What a sweet thought: "Most people never remember their first birthday", but your wife will get to remember hers! 🎂 Happy early birthday to her.

  Thanks! I passed on the good wishes to my wife. She never had any friends as a JW as she grew up in a KH with no young people her age. She had 4 younger sisters and that was it. I love my wife and want the best for her and feel bad that she has always lacked confidence because of what her messed up parents and the organization did to her. She is the type of person that loves to be the center of attention and never has had that opportunity (other than parts on the TMS/assemblies and being bullied in school). She would have been in theater and plays if she had a fighting chance as a kid. We're doing our best to come up with fun ideas for her party so that she gets what she wants. We aren't likely to do a big party every year, but I want her to have fun and be herself and to realize that is okay.
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  Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......

  by dubstepped in

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  my wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.

  we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.

  when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.

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  Let me make it clear here that I have NO intention of going to any church and am not looking. The trip to the Episcopalian Church was only to see about renting their detached fellowship hall for the birthday party. I'm glad to hear that at other religious entities they are maybe more genuine than the love bombing at Kingdom Halls, but it still gave me serious flashbacks.
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  Had a weird love-bombing throwback today......

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my wife is having her first birthday party in july, and we're looking for a place to hold it.

  we found an episcopal church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning.

  when we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it.

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  My wife is having her first birthday party in July, and we're looking for a place to hold it. We found an Episcopal Church online that offered their fellowship hall for such occasions, and we went to check it out this morning. When we arrived they were having something in the hall and were setting up for it. I'm guessing a Mother's Day event, small and for the church members. My wife and I walked in and it started, just like the days of yore with the J-dubs. People were asking if we were new to the church, very friendly, but very friendly with that desperate look in their eyes like you would get when visiting a rural Kingdom Hall where they desperately wanted new blood. They offered us cupcakes and other snacks that they had out and were very welcoming, to be sure, but we both got thrown back to the old experience of walking into a new congregation.

  I do think we'll end up renting their place. My wife likes it, and she admittedly likes the thought of throwing a birthday party in a church hall just as a way of throwing it in the face of what her whole life has been like. It feels so wrong and so right at the same time. You only get one shot at your first birthday, and most people never remember theirs, but my wife wants one day to be just about her and to have fun and I want to make sure that she has it, even if renting places isn't cheap.

  I hope we don't have to agree to a Bible Study to use their rental hall, lol. That would be awkward.
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  Special Day for our family today!

  by Captain Schmideo2 in

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  my son graduates with his bachelors degree, cum laude!.

  he is the first in my family to graduate with a four year degree.

  and he is already in talks for a teaching job.. so, gerrit lush....up your nose with a rubber hose!

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  dubstepped

  Better watch out for angry she-bears with those words, lol.

  Seriously though, congratulations!!!
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  When Disaster Strikes

  by NeverAllowestobeMyself in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  jehovah's witnesses repeatedly report that when disaster strikes they are the quickest to respond, the most organized relief agency and they provide superior support to their members and the affected community.. they make it sound like organizations such as the red cross are completely in disarray every disaster until jehovah's witnesses show up and show everyone how it's done!.

  in the wake of recent disasters around the globe i would like to encourage everyone to share experiences of people showing genuine love to their neighbors, communities going the extra mile and organizations doing brilliant work..

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  We had a tornado that ripped through a town near us and destroyed everything. I will never forget sitting in a meeting during the circuit overseer's visit and listening to that douchebag tell us from the platform how our brothers acted out of the right motivation and helped so many while other organizations did it for random unspoken nefarious reasons and selfish gain. I was in the front row, and it took everything I had not to flip him off and walk out. Why? Because I knew people firsthand that my wife and I worked for, evil "worldly" people that we worked for that donated their personal trucks to volunteers and that went up and helped out of the goodness of their hearts, and here this circuit overseer, a man that only swings by occasionally for a visit, was running those good people down to promote the Witnesses. And I also know for a fact that the JW's were among the LAST to arrive. In fact, one brother justified it to me by telling me that being first isn't always prudent, sometimes the Borganization sits back and watches patiently so that they can come in and help the right way instead of just rushing in and making a bigger mess out of the situation. Just talking about this makes my blood boil because they're so full of it. When they do go to help, we all know who they go to first, not the ones that need it most, but their own. Jehovah's Witnesses are awful even when helping.

  A lesson to Jehovah's Witnesses. You don't have to put others down to celebrate your own efforts. Do what you do, be happy and/or proud of whatever help you can bring, but when you try to run others down you might just be waking somebody up. Not everything has to be a contest, trying to figure out who is the most righteous.