Posts by Fleur

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Any Tricks or Tips for getting around on crutches??

by AudeSapere in

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does anyone have any tricks or tips for getting around on crutches??.

i did a stupid thing friday afternoon and ended up in the emergency room with a broken ankle and a torn up knee.

i'm now on crutches - lucky me... .

Fleur

Now that I'm home I notice that I am trying to be normal. Thanks for the advice - I need to give up 'normal' and be more realistic for the next couple of months.

Any chance you can stay with your brother a bit longer???

I'm serious, it's dangerous for someone who is so injured the can barely make it up and down from the potty safely to be alone. I have twice injured one knee (torn ligaments) and opposite ankle (sprain/fracture/tears) usually from falling down stairs and there were times I absolutely could not get to and from the bathroom without help.

Getting in and out of a wheelchair can be tricky esp. depending on your pain level. Sometimes, you try so hard not to feel or cause new pain in the injury that you injure other parts of yourself by falling or losing your balance. Also, be very careful of getting your cast wet; if the plastic leaks or drips you can get cast rot...and you do NOT want your cast to rot.

I'm amazed...no medical folks around here to offer ideas? Is there a nurse in the house??

They also make those 'dry' shampoos and bath wipes for people who have difficulty bathing...those might be of help to you right now. I recommend that you look around online like at drugstore.com or something to see what's out there.

I'll comment on dining options in the snacks thread! :) Hang in there kiddo...it sux but you will overcome!

hugs

essie

p.s. auld...sad to say we apparently do share a lot of experience in this type of thing! But at least we're living proof you can survive it eh? :D

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Any Tricks or Tips for getting around on crutches??

by AudeSapere in

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does anyone have any tricks or tips for getting around on crutches??.

i did a stupid thing friday afternoon and ended up in the emergency room with a broken ankle and a torn up knee.

i'm now on crutches - lucky me... .

Fleur

Oh, I have all kinds of advice for you. First of all, order takeout, get it delivered. Do not try to cook. Believe me, you will fall again and injure yourself worse if you try to do all the 'normal' things that you do.

Bathing is a real b**** with cast/crutches. Do not even attempt getting into the tub. Dab and sponge-bathe. Gross, but that's the breaks (no pun intended) I would recommend leaning your weight on a STURDY chair on your good leg, and washing hair over a sink (kitchen works pretty well if it's deep) use a pitcher to rinse the shampoo out.

I hope you have a friend who can bring in paper plates and cups and simple single-serving type snacks and drinks. Please believe me when I tell you, you do not want to get fancy with trying to be 'brave' and doing everything on your own as you normally would.

As someone who falls and sprains/tears something badly at least twice a year on average due to balance issues, this is one subject I have all too much experience in.

Forget cooking, eat pizza, and as much as humanly possible, stay OFF the leg. Avoid stairs if at ALL possible and if you have to go up or down, do it only once a day and go on your bum. Do NOT attempt to go up and down stairs on crutches. It never ends well.

I can't tell you how many times I had to learn this the hard way, or that I saw friends do it. One person ended up with a concussion and broken arm because she slipped in her cast and hit her head trying to empty the dishwasher with a broken leg..

the goal is to be as comfortable as possible while not inflicting any further injury. it still as much as you can. I wish you speedy healing!

essie

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any of you been treated like this?

by bluebeads in

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i'd have to say at least 80% of jw's in my area are related in some way or another...kinda makes me feel sick thinking about it.

talk about reproductive anomalies with the gene pool getting so concentrated.... anyways i've noticed that families such as immigrant families or "new" ones who are not related at all to anyone are pretty much left out.

i know family is family... but in the truth isn't every one a "brother" or a "sister".

Fleur

Hey Fleur,
I think we're related. My family is huge, consists of about 5 generations of j-dubs and is related to everyone!!!
Are we cousins?

Dunno Highlander...if you're in Iceland really I think it's doubtful but if you're in the US send me a PM LOL we might be!

essie

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Where or what would you be today, if you would have never became a JW?

by JH in

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often i wonder what i would be doing or even where would i be living, if i would have never met the jw's back in the late 80's.. maybe it wouldn't have made any difference, or on the contrary, maybe a huge difference.

the only way to really know would be to go back in time and change what happened and that's impossible.. .

Fleur

I might only be in the chorus of some off-off-off broadway show, but I'd be singing, I guarantee you that.

essie

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Some apostates are more equal than others...

by slimboyfat in

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ever noticed that the most cleverest apostates are the ones that were "brought up in the truth"?

i mean people like little toe, leolaia and narkissos who provide the most intelligent dicsussions on the forum - they never chose the witnesses, but were dragged up in it.

do you think maybe they can't help but look down on the rest of us who were stupid enough to actually choose to become witnesses?

Fleur

I for one don't look down on anyone no matter if they've ever been a dub or not, regardless if they were raised in.

My grandmother, the dearest person in the world to me, brought my family into the religion back in the 40's. Including converting her own parents.

I loved her more than any human on earth until the day that she died (now I love her even more) I never blamed her for bringing the family in and I never thought she was anything less than brilliant.

So that's my perspective. People who become dubs are smart, good hearted, trusting, and get screwed. End of story.

essie

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This white guy can dance!

by MsMcDucket in

he's so funny!

and he's definitely must have been doing aerobics!

dang, i'd be dead after this routine!.

Fleur

Oh, is that the evolution of dance routing? Guy's name is Judd something...we were ROFL at that...I would definitely die of a heart attack even if I had the balance to dance for that long LOL

Hilarious. I heard he's working on a sequel!

essie

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any of you been treated like this?

by bluebeads in

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i'd have to say at least 80% of jw's in my area are related in some way or another...kinda makes me feel sick thinking about it.

talk about reproductive anomalies with the gene pool getting so concentrated.... anyways i've noticed that families such as immigrant families or "new" ones who are not related at all to anyone are pretty much left out.

i know family is family... but in the truth isn't every one a "brother" or a "sister".

Fleur

yes, they are. And yes, it is creepy, the inbreeding.

My family is so huge and so many generations in the religion that we are, quite literally, in some way related to someone in most of the congregations in our district and several districts in different states.

Very, very creepy.

hugs for you...it's so tough being the only one in your family who gets it...believe me I know. I am the only one in mine and it can be maddening...keep talking it's the best thing to be with people who understand your struggles.

hugs

essie

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What do you love spending your money on?

by JH in

i always did love tv's and cars.

i really don't know hom many tv's i bought in my life.......15 or 20?

and cars also......i think i'm up to my 15th .

Fleur

music, music, music. And Books.

words and music...my life in two words.

essie

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Intolerance - a new breed of ex-JW

by LittleToe in

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i cant help but think of the analogy of pendulum swings when i think about how vitriolic some are towards religion (of any description), the bible (and other scripture), and christianity (generally, regardless of there being a wide range of denominational flavours) in particular.. it seems to me, from my perspective of sitting here on a remote scottish island, that there are a fair number of folks who may have left an intolerant and generalising religion but forgot to leave those attitudes with it.. just my 2p, coz to be frank i'm getting sick of it.. by all means enjoy some self-expression, it's a relatively free planet, but have a heart....

Fleur

Hi there Little Toe.

While you may find that a lot of Ex-jw's seem anti religion, I find that a LOT of my friends, whether or not they have ever been JW's, still try to preach their faith.

I react VERY badly to this. I have an almost phobic reaction to being preached to no matter how the sermon is presented: and I have asked several Pagan friends who were really heavily trying to convert me after I announced that I didn't believe I was Christian anymore to please stop, that I respect their faith but I just don't want to discuss it.

To me discussing religion is worse than trying to discuss your sex life. Both are so personal and intimate to me that I consider either subject off limits.

My real friends understand this about me and do not get offended, we simply find other things to discuss. If that makes me intolerant...well maybe I'll grow out of it. I am respectful, but part of their respecting me means that for the most part, when I get together with friends, we check our religion and politics at the door.

Have a happy sunday!

essie

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Breast Surgery - Update

by liquidsky in

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well i had my surgery on friday.

i don't know what i was so nervous about, it wasn't bad at all.

i'm a little sore but the pain meds help alot.

Fleur

Congratulations on your wonderful news!!!

hugs

essie