My mother always gave $$$ to the WT and no one else but it didn't matter when she needed the congregation's help the most. Yes I was called upon to "help" after 40 years of shunning and was told my uber elder cousin that it wasn't the WT's responsibility to care and help people in the congregation it was the family's! And he had "decided" that now was the time for me to help even though I'm disfellowshipped. Unlike other religions who will help if needed.
She passed away in September and they had the memorial in October and now they are done with me again forever! Feel the love.