I think your Grandma will love your euology :o) Bless you for being such a caring grandchild. If you are
up to it, would be nice for you to share it with us. Stay strong.
AJ
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Grandma passed away this morning
by OnTheWayOut inmany of you read my thread about a jw in the family not visiting his parents or telling family.
how to contact him.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/128234/1.ashx.
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Two steps forward...
by Paralipomenon inwell, a bit of an update.
i'm still trying to get my wife out of the organization, or at least to stop the half hearted adherence to the strict rules when it comes to our children.
after our last rather heated discussion where we realized that this issue might actually break us up i haven't approached the subject much at all.
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Para, I applaud your efforts. I think teamwork is a great idea...but be sure she knows that your wife must NOT have a clue
that you are doing this together. Your wife will never trust you again, and she will probably revert deeper into the JW cult.
Be sure your neighbor understands how volatile this can be. Most 'worldly' people have no real clue as to how damaging
the JW teachings are.
As for you, I would like to hear you say that YOU take charge one night at prayer. You are the head of the household, why not
say to your family, Let's hold hands now and I will lead a prayer of thanks and ask God's blessing on this food...and on the
beautiful lady who prepared it. Or something simple. Take charge a little bit without making her defensive. Same with the kids
at night time. Where are you when she puts those tapes on? Buy a kids' bible stories at Walmart, or any other simple Bible
teaching story book that is not made by the WTS and say that it is your turn to interact with your kids. BELIEVE me, the kids
will remember and treasure these moments more than listening to JW propaganda tapes! Get more proactive with your family.
Just my 2 cents, but I hope you'll try these suggestions,
AuntieJane
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My Personal Experiences thus far
by Ken O ini was brought up around the "truth" as a child.
my parents studied some then later after they were divorced, we (mom, sis and i) moved in with my grandparents, who were inactive witnesses.
though inactive, they still touted all the wts lingo and doctrine.
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Welcome! I hope you will stay around here for a long time. You will find lots of support. I am not a JW, never was, but have family members in and other reasons that I came here. I would say to settle down, don't push your new freedom thinking at your wife. Show your wife how much you love her, focus on her and your kids. Love bomb your family like the JW's do...and mean it. If you have faith in God still, and I mean a true faith not the JW, buy a simple little Bible story book and read to your kids. Just an evening bedtime little short story. Invite your wife to sit with you. If she gets upset, remind her that you are the head of the household and you are just sharing Bible stories with the kids. The kids will feel the true love; you have to be strong and not get stressed over your situation.
Does your wife have sisters/brothers who are not in? Does she communicate with them? It would be great if there are other family members you can be around together.
sign your kids up for any events that you can to take them away from those meetings!
I have been amazed at the people on this board, just like you, whose spouses eventually came around. But please, be patient. and try to stay away from that nut case mother in law!
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Please say hello to my wife.
by nicolaou ini've been posting here for quite a long time, so long in fact that it just doesn't feel right that my wife isn't a part of it.
earlier today i created an account for her with the username heron, she'll know why.
i'm not sure if my wife will ever post here but i would feel much more comfortable knowing she is aware that i do.. this is the one post i am going to ask her to read.. so, i'd really appreciate it if you could say hello to my lovely wife.
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Hello Heron, I don't post here much but Welcome. I want to say it sounds like your husband cares for you very much. How blessed are you! I am not, never was a JW but have some family members in, and my daughter dated a young man in high school. This website, as well as Freeminds were and continue to be a wealth of information. Most of the general public only know that JW's are those people who come to the door with their Bibles and don't celebrate birthdays. Oh, and the blood thing. But that's it. I have learned so much from so many good people who have been misled, or whatever term you choose, but have shared their experiences here for us. I do what I can to educate others whenever the JW subject comes up in conversation.
Anyway, not to go on...but WELCOME!
Auntie J
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Advice for daughter please
by AuntieJane inok, i'm a perpetual mom.
my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.
but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.
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thanks again all. I decided to hold back, just gave her a hug, some freezer meals, and wished her well when she left.
Praise, you are right, they need to make their own mistakes and I've been bad about this with her, but have worked on
it the last year. So I will be stronger. And Scully, thanks for your words of encouragement; and the link to your paper.
I'll read it soon, kudos to you from just scanning it myself right now!
I agree procrastination is not always bad, but in this case...well, visiting My Space and Facebook composed most of
her time according to the history on My computer that she used all during break. I kind of doubt, after looking at fly lady,
that she'll get into that, but I WILL :o) If she was younger, or older, it would be fun for her, but I think she'd laugh at it right now.
FYI I did call her older sister, whom she admires and spent Xmas time with here, and asked her to email a positive hello
to her . (they are bad at keeping in touch, 7 yrs apart and several states away). But older sister understood my request to
just step up a little more communication and try to plant some seeds of direction based on her own experience. She has always been a take charge person, though, whereas little sister, B, has been a stop and smell the flowers as long as I need to kind...marching to her own drummer. Creative, expressive. A good thing, but if you want all there is life has to offer, you aren't going to get it by procrastinating as much as she does. Big sister will be and always has been a good influence; don't get me wrong, I am glad they are each their own person.
OK, enough said. Thank you all for your input, I'll watch for any other replies. This has been helpful.
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Advice for daughter please
by AuntieJane inok, i'm a perpetual mom.
my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.
but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.
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Sass, you are right too. She's not a kid, but has been more immature than my others ever were. So you think not to
say anything at all ? It seems I could say something, at least to put the thought in her head. I do believe in tough
love, letting them find their own way, though I am known to be the mom who gives un-asked for advice. My own
elderly mother still gives me advice like that and I may cringe at the time, but dang-it, she is usually right, I just
still don't like to admit it! I love her to death, too.
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Advice for daughter please
by AuntieJane inok, i'm a perpetual mom.
my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.
but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.
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Avid,thanks for the reply. She is paying her own way. We helped her for 2 yrs Assoc. degree, then beauty school. This is all on her own.
Becca, Thanks so much. I needed to hear your words. I am proud of her; she is more of a free spirit. I have 2 'traditional' adult kids, then this one who marches to her own drummer but always has. It's OK with me, but it bugs the heck out of me to see so many hours of time 'wasted'...esp when she is so creative and talented. maybe Kitten has the rest of the answer!
Thanks, Kittenwhiskers for the website. I am excited to check it out! It will no doubt be beneficial for me too!
AJ
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Advice for daughter please
by AuntieJane inok, i'm a perpetual mom.
my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.
but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.
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Advice for daughter please
by AuntieJane inok, i'm a perpetual mom.
my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.
but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.
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LoL E, love your sense of humor!
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Advice for daughter please
by AuntieJane inok, i'm a perpetual mom.
my 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did ok this past semester.
but not what she is capable of, grade-wise.
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Ok, I'm a perpetual mom. My 24 yoa daughter has been back in college and did OK this past semester. But not what she is capable of, grade-wise. Since she's been home on Xmas break I see she spends way too much time on the internet, and procrastinates really bad. She has been working, and pleasant to be around, though. She did work on herself this last yr and I have praised her for that. I want to say something about these two bad habits (which, I admit she has 'inherited' traits of both her father and myself ;o)...but I want to tell her in a positive way, without her blowing me off. She'd do this in the past, but with the maturity I've seen peeking through recently, I think she'd take some constructive criticism if I can word it in a positive light.
Most of you have such a good way with words, I'm asking for your help!