So sorry for your loss Brother Mike,
It really hurts to lose loved ones. Please hang around and try to learn from those of us who have been through it all and just try to ignore the ignorance of some. If some comments offend you, just let them pass over you like water. I learned that the hard way in my 9 year on this forum. Sometimes I would get nasty with a few posters but I have learned to like some of them in the meantime. We are all on a journey.
Take care,
HappyDad