I am now off to see my love. This will be my last post most likely for the day. I just wanted to say thank you for all of your honesty about everything and thank you for taking the time to try and guide me in the right way. My plight is the same but I now go into battle so to speak alone yet fully armed. Armed with knowledge of what may await me if I make the wrong choice. Of course I am still going to try to find a way to be with her so that we're both happy but if things don't work out and I see it coming. I won't be as crushed thanks to everyones thoughts on my situation. I will post here again one day. Hopefully it will be something positive but if it isn't then I either made the wrong choice or I made the *right* choice(your choice) and it hurts so much to lose my one and only love. Thank you all once again for the advice and for wishing me well on this. I'm off to see my love now. I pray that it's not one of the last times. Ironic huh? An athiest praying with no one to pray to. Just empty words drifting off into the endless stretch of hope that I call my heart. Well, thank you all.
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I did ask for advice. It may not seem like I am going to listen but every reply that I add is just to get the most precise reply out of everyone else. I already told Nosferatu that I was going to watch her and see how things work out. I am keeping all of your advice in mind. I just love her that much that I fail to lose all hope just because everybody else has had a bad relationship with a jw. It's like like giving up before actually trying because of everybody elses past. I do appreciate everyones help and advice. I'm not just looking for someone to tell me to stay with her. I just want as much guidance as I can get towards making my decision. Like I've said earlier thank you to everybody who has given me a little of their time to help me make the best decision I can.
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That's all true but why would she try that much to please me if she didn't love me. I'm sure she still does care about her religion a lot but she is a very strong minded person as I've stated before, but you are right about actions speaking louder than words. I will watch her. I'll watch to see what happens in the following weeks and months. Of course she still goes to meetings. I'm not asking her not to. I never asked her to leave her religion. I'm sure I have a lot to learn about dating but doesn't everybody. I've had my share of girlfriends and a few that were pretty serious. That is only a little experience though. Just because you get married doesn't mean you're an expert at dating right? This isn't directed only towards you but to everyone. By the way since we're on the subject, congratulations on the upcoming marriage. I wish you and yours the best. May you live long happy lives together.
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Don't worry Nosferatu. Whatever happens I will always play guitar. It's going to be my job one day. Whether as a teacher or as a musician. One thing that assures me when I wonder if she really loves me is the fact that she told her father face to face that she loved me and will probably end up married to me. She's very close to her dad too so, I didn't want bad blood between them and that's how the whole converting thing came about. He is very serious about their religion. She would be really depressed if they stopped talking because of this, and I don't want that. They have always been close. She told her entire congregation too at a memorial that I was at. They looked at me kinda pissed for a minute and then she kept talking about how she loves me and they seemed to show some compassion. Those are a few things that have assured me.
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nosferatu
I pondered that before. For a long time, but it turns out that she does really love me. Also I don't rely on her for happiness. I love to make her happy because knowing that I did puts a smile on my face. I play guitar for that too. Don't get me wrong, she does make me extremely happy but when I play my guitar and when I play with my band for an audience, that brings me just as much happiness. Creating music to me is something just as beautiful as her.
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Nosferatu
She actually has seen those sites with me. She didn't say it was bullshit nor did she get edgy. She said that everyone has their own opinions and she had actually been looking into it herself. I know she has loyalty to her faith, but like I said earlier she has just as much for me and herself. She is a very strong minded individual. She has even told me about some of her doubts about some of the things that the elders tell her. She actually found a verse in the bible contradicting what he had said and she pointed it out to him. He then gave her all this bullshit as an excuse but she didn't buy it. I fell even more in love with her then. She was that strong enough in herself to contradict her own religion with research she had done.
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I'm sure all the depression and all would resurface if I lost her, but other than that I'm fine. Don't worry though I am seeing my psychiatrist again in a few weeks. I am 100% sure that I will never go back on my athiest beliefs but I probably would think about it for her. I still wouldn't though. She knows that and she accepts it. Yes, she may grow into a state of mind where she will want more out of me spiritually, but I figure that I'll deal with that IF it comes up. Even though pretty much all of the replies are telling me negative things about my situation I still enjoy the forum if not for the advice at least for the intelligent conversation that spawns from it. Thank you all.
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ok.ok.ok.
First let me re-phrase my previous statement. She is not all I have but she is everything to me. She is a great part of my life and she means a great deal to me but I have more in my life such as my love for playing guitar.
ok. Next. exjdub. You say I would cave after putting so much time into the charade. You don't really know me personally. I don't mean to be rude or anything, but if you knew me you'd know I wouldn't cave. Especially being the Athiest that I am. I would never give in to their brainwashing. I would only feign interest enough to get them off of my back for being a "non-believer". I may seem somewhat mentally unstable to some of you but that may be so. It also gives me more willpower to fight for my own beliefs.
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Satanus
I enjoyed reading your reply. I think you missed out on my earlier post where I mentioned that I am an Athiest. So I basically would only feign interest so that her congregation would accept me as a believer. I refuse to belive in some god that doesn't exist. I would pretend to though. And for her I would make them all belive that I too shared the same beliefs. Oh and also I have seen a psychiatrist. They told me that the depression/rage is causing my insomnia. Most of that has gone away since I've been with her. Before that I was a very disillusioned person. A lost soul, an empty vessel. A lifeless shell etc, etc, etc... Thanks for your thoughts.
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calamityjane
Thank you for pointing out how I am not special at all. HAHA. But seriously I thank you for all your advice. It's just some situations that make me more critical than I'd usually be. The thing that makes me doubt that a little bit is that years ago before I met her she was with another quote unquote non-believer. She loved him then, and I found out from our best friend that her family never accepted him or ever treated him anywhere near a good as they treat me. She loved him and that was obvious to them yet they still didn't treat him well at all. So it makes me a bit skeptical about what you have said but I do think you could be right. The guy hurt her in the end and left her for another girl even after he made her believe that he loved her though .That pissed me off when I found out, but it gave me a chance to be with her. Anyway, thanks.