became JW in 1973 - married two children - carpenter - semi pro musician - buying house - worked all hours to live - had four jobs - persuaded to give up music (I returned to it eventually) Became very staunch JW even though it was actually self punishing although I now appreciate that I did learn such an enormous amount about spiritual things but the pressure and stress became a distinct aspect of my marriage breakdown D/F in 1983 for self confessed extra marital relationship - couldnt feel repentant due to domineering attitude of elders - Accidentally discovered internet community of ex JWs in 2002 and Raymond Franz and other key writing - Disassociated myself in 2003