Posts by Banshee

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Good News For the Little Girl In The Disney Room

by Country Girl in

the little girl pictured in the awful pedophile pictures that was believed to have been in a room in a disney hotel has been found!

thank heavens.... this is the thread for the original story:.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/8/89751/1.ashx.

Banshee

Omigosh! I feel sick to my stomach. That poor little girl.I hope the guy gets the maximum penalty for this!

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Am I the only one ...

by talesin in

ugh.

it seems that the jw, along w/ other stuff, has led me to a solitary position in life ... how about you ... is that why you are here?

tonite?

I was lonely for quite a while after I left the JWs. It was all I had ever known and I was estranged/cut off from family & friends (except a couple of disfellowshipped relatives & the one worldly friend that I would not give up no matter how much pressure from the parents!). I was in a few pretty unhealthy relationships (romantic) after I left. For a long period of time, I felt lonely constantly....even when in a crowd of people or a group of "buddies".

Later, I learned that it was OK to be alone and that I could be happy...I just had to get straightened around inside, accept myself and learn to like and maybe even love myself (I had to have a LOT of help from others in order to understand this! Slow learner!) After my bigtime relationship failures, I realized it's better to be alone than in a sick relationship with someone. A really dear friend used to say to me, "Spring, happiness is an inside job." I found out it's true. So, you got the right idea, talesin.

When I stopped looking for someone & stopped thinking I needed someone & got happy being alone....well, I bumped smack into the great guy who is my husband today. I'm up because I feel crappy (some flu bug) and I like to read or do something to get my mind off of how bad I'm feeling.

Oh, and the true, lasting friends will come, in time, if they haven't already. ((((talesin))))

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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 5-15-05 WT Study (Children Pt 2)

by blondie in

(psalm 36:9) parents, how do you view receiving such a precious gift from god?.

(scriptures: 1 snippet, 1 cited).

(scriptures: 2, cited; 2 snippets).

Banshee

Terrific job, blondie!

I like how you pointed out all of the guilt-inducing phrases and statements. What a shame-based religion it is!!! Thanks for pointing out what I noticed so much as I was growing up as a JW; namely, that they hardly ever mention the actual names for sex organs in their articles/chapters about sex in their literature. Also, the way they write about it always gives off the feeling that sex is a shameful subject.

About the Learn from the Great Teacher book, I clicked on the link to the scanned pages that Silent Lambs has on their site. YIKES!!! That stuff was truly upsetting to read. I agree with pistoff about how they put the responsibility on the child! Also, they do not tell the children anything about going to a school counselor or any authority figures outside of the parents or KH.What if their abuser is one of the parents!? Also, a lot of the wording in this seems too explicit for very young children. Which is strange, considering their usual reticence about sex. Why so much more explicit in a book that is written primarily for children?

This WT article exemplifies what my husband has said about the WTBS literature after reading a few articles: "This stuff sounds like the ravings of a paranoid, insane person!" I noticed in the article how much they used the "the Devil & the worldly folks are chasing you" theme! Yeah, scare the holy crap out of the parents and the kids. That will surely keep the kids in the organization! Uh-huh.

Thanks for your Comments You Will Not Hear section, blondie! It always makes me grateful I'm out of that cult and I can keep an eye on what my mom & neices are reading/hearing at the KH.

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Spring has Sprung - what is your favorite flower?

by AK - Jeff in

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mine is iris at the moment, although i love them all!.

jeff

Banshee

Roses are definitely my favorite type of flowers. Other favorites are tiger lilies (association with great-grandmother) and daisies.

But it is tough to pick out favorites when I love all types of flowers, really!

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Brothers Meet Again After 26 Years!

by toladest in

dan f's horrible abuse separated a family.

but it is time for the healing to begin.

dan married lynne in the early 70's and with her came 2 stepchildren, dawn & darrin.

Banshee

Thanks to toladest & Vicki for posts about this heartwarming reunion story.

BTTT

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Three years ago this month, I left the JWs...

by logansrun in

jw
friends

the exact day, lost in a memory that was unconcerned with the details of the moment, is unimportant.

what is important is that three years ago -- in may of 2002 -- i left the jws.

it was at the end of the month, for i realized soon afterword that this would be the first month since becoming a publisher that i did not turn in my time.

Banshee

logansrun,

I think it was October or November of 1993 when I phoned the members of my immediate family (who were all active JWs then) to tellthem that I no longer wished to be a JW and would prefer that none of them try to bring me "back to the fold". I was 19 years old, living with a disfellowshipped relative who was showing a lot more "brotherly love" toward me than I'd received from the JWs during a very difficult time in my life.

I remember how lost and adrift I felt after making and announcing this decision. I had no knowledge of any ex-JW Internet community at that time and therefore had only a couple of people to look to for understanding and emotional support (disfellowshipped relatives). I pretty much went on a very self-destructive course for several years, from time to time wondering if the JWs were right and wondering if I would be destroyed in Armageddon. Sexual and physical abuse issues were all mixed up with the religion, as well. I can remember literally flinching, numerous times, when people brought up God or anything relating to the Bible or spirituality. For quite a long time, I was engulfed in feelings of loss, anger, bitterness and despair. I drank to excess often in order to assuage the pain I felt. I became increasingly aggressive and harsh in my attitude towards and dealings with others, followed by episodes of guilt, shame and remorse.

I became disillusioned and cynical after jumping into the "big, bad world". However, I learned a heck of a lot and benefitted from the kindnesses of strangers and I found out that there were a lot of decent, caring and loving people out in that world, too. After I got into recovery, I discovered more of those same types of people....I truly had some "angels", as I refer to them, put in my path. I was able to be there for my brothers and father when they decided they'd had enough of Dubdom. My mom is still in but she and I have been able to have a pretty decent relationship these past few years, since there are issues about which we have decided to agree to disagree.

I've become less cynical, a little more trusting (albeit slowly & cautiously). I've got a whole new set of friends; and these are the true-blue, through-thick-or-thin kind. I met and moved in with and then married the love of my life. I am truly blessed.

Sorry this reply is so long!I guess your initial post just triggered a lot of memories. I guess I am saying that I understand, to a certain degree. And, also, you are right where you are supposed to be on your journey. You are so much further along the path than I was three years into this process. I have a friend who says, "Twenty miles into the woods, twenty miles back out." It takes time....and we'll none of us have all the answers. I think the most important thing is to remain on the quest. Best wishes to you!

Sincerely,

Banshee

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Any gardeners out there?

by Banshee in

well, are there any people on this db who are into gardening?.

i really love it, myself.

i am putting in quite a few vegetables this year.

Banshee

nicolaou: When I lived in Southern California, there was a great big fig tree in the yard. I loved having the dried figs and fig preserves...yum. Sounds like you derive a lot of peace and enjoyment from your garden--cool.There's just something about it, isn't there?

LyinEyes: Rock gardens are cool.....and I am sure you'll get the hang of gardening. You are doing the right thing by taking it slow. If you get too many things going at once, it could get overwhelming and lessen your enjoyment. Thanks for responding to this thread.

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Brothers Meet Again After 26 Years!

by toladest in

dan f's horrible abuse separated a family.

but it is time for the healing to begin.

dan married lynne in the early 70's and with her came 2 stepchildren, dawn & darrin.

Banshee

Thanks for sharing this story. I wish both brothers all the best and hope they can both continue on the healing/recovery path. The rewards for doing so are great. I should know. Like blondie, I am also an abuse survivor. ( I have not posted my personal story on here because I like my privacy but I have shared with other survivors in the "real world".)

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Do any small creatures frighten & freak you out?

by Rod P in

here's the dirty dozen: .

1) ants- imagine being buried in a sandpile up to your neck with sand.

along come a bunch of ants from an ant colony, and they crawl all over your head, in and out of your nose, your mouth, your ears, your eyes, and all thru your hair.

Banshee

Yes!!!! I am terrified of bees and wasps...after having a very bad, painful experience with bees as a child.

Roaches and silverfish creep me out because my grandmother had a dirty house & it was infested with them. I remember as a child visiting her house, turning on a light in one of the rooms and hearing/seeing the roaches scatter. Ugh!

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Organized to [Pervert] Jehovah's Will (od): Opening Letter

by OldSoul in

a critical expose of the publication organized to do jehovah's will.

i will post scriptures in context wherever they appear, the portion pointed to by the governing body will be highlighted in yellow.

letter from the governing body of jehovah's witnesses (the masters over your faith): paragraph 1:.

Banshee

<<"As dedicated Christians enjoying the freedom for which Christ set them free, they let God's Spirit and his word govern their lives....">> (Did I actually believe this crock of poop at some time?

Reality:

As dedicated cult members saddened by the lack of the freedom for which Christ set them free, they let Governing Body and its literature govern their lives.