Opps sorry I sent a blank. Here is my scoop.
1.Get some counseling. You need to talk with someone. Sometimes we get depressed and make our problems worse. So you need that second party to confide in. A friend or family memeber is not good enough, you need an unbiased professional that can help you sort things out so you can decide what works for you.
2. LIVE LIFE! I mean really grab it and get out there and please yourself. From what I have seen on the board, many of the ex JWs don't know how to live. They have been programed so darn much on how to behave that there is no "ME" . They don't seem to be able to answer the queston "What do I want out of life?" They seem so afraid and out of touch with the real world. It is difficult for them to come out of that protective shell they lived in. Often they never make it out and retreat to the old ways becasue it is easier and safer.
How about this, try some new things. I'm a guy and I took a cooking class, a first aid class and a dance class. Was I nervous? Of course. And there were times when I felt foolish, but get over it. Doggone it if you don't get out there and do stuff you will never meet anyone. Don't do things with the idea of husband hunting,just do things to please yourself. You will be surprised at how much you learn and how interesting you become. You will have things to talk about. So find something you like to do and expand on it. Get involved. Don't sit and mope and watch TV get out and do things. You might meet someone and if you don't atleast you enjopyed yourself and I know it soudns hokey, but you'll be a better person and can carry on a conversation about your interests.
Mind you that in love it does not matter what you look like. There is someone for everyone. I think the lookers have more problems for a long term relationship, they can be a hottie, but boring as heck and high maintenance (you have to do it all for them--- stay away from those). The interesting person is the one that makes the best companion. Go out and find yourself. Who are you and what do you like to do? Can you answer that? Another thing I find rewarding is helping others. It makes you and them feel good: I don't think JWs are encouraged to do much charity work they are too busy preaching to be bothered with making the world we live in (not Paradise on Earth) a better place that they miss the bus to being happy here on earth. BTW What have you done on your own? do you liek to be with yourself. I bet you are a lot more interesting than you think. PM some time if you like. I have a ohhhh so strange life. This board has helped me so much. People here encourage you and there is a ton of ino here. Good luck and hang in there.
