COUNTRY GIRL: THX
You is pretty smart faw a country chick! And "cajones"? Great Balls a Fire !!! Wher'd ya learn that there talk? Oh my!
marcosgarcia
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
KLS: Yes, you are right in that when I was postive, she saw it as acceptance of the JW practices. My behavior was totally misinterpretated. I had to make it clear that I am not interested in their teachings, I do not support it and it is not for our children. We never chose that JW religion, we already had one and we never ever agreed on the children becomng JWs. She never discussed it becasue she knows I disagree, instead she and her family went behind my back without my consent. That is wrong. What one of the sisters told me was that as long as I was head of house the children follow my religion, but as soon as I am no longer HOH they would be there to step in. No doubt it would give them great joy trying to "save" my children. Unfortuantely that fuels the fire and drives me to go completely against the JW teachings. I go out of my way to expose the children to "worldly environments" (which to me means normal environments). I get woried when they don't want to do things.
It's no fun being a martyr if nobody's trying to kill you.
I really like those words and it is what I have been unknwoingly practicing. Whenever she has a meeting I take the children -- no problema I drop everything and go. This is not to support her, but to protect the children. I try so hard to be pleaseant that most often I say nothing. I think she is expecting confrontation and an argument. She wants to preach and constatly brings up religion which I remind her was not what we were discussing. I think it pisses her off that I don't engage in her dueling religion conversations.
All of the points brought up have been insightful.
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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Opppps! My comment about Ann Landers was for Nathan Natas, I forgot to address you Natas, sorry I am still new.
Also to Jgnat: YES ! I do make meeting night fun... they go places with me and we have a ball. I make a point of it and I slack up on their religious classes. It was funny one day on the way to religious study class, I asked them what kind of day they had -- mine was a bite in the butt and they said not so hot for them either. I said lets bag the class -- I need ice cream! And we did! Man did they think they feel like hotshots!
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
You are better than Ann Landers ! Great info ! I mean it you are sharp ! I feel like such a dodo on this site. Took me so long to figure out how to post and I was terrified to say anything in chat. I thought everyone was like joker -- a JW trying to do I'm not sure what. Just so wierd. BTW (Hey I just figured out BTW)!! Man I am getting smart, but BTW I thought your comment Of "Which one?" when someone said they shared a birthday with a famous person was hilarious. I was actually chuckling at my computer....thanks for the laugh you have a witty sense of humor.
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
Take pictures of these people, and tell the cops strangers are stalking your children
Hey that is a good one!
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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Thanks. Those are some guidelines I will consider.
I was looking for some pointers like those. I do not want to turn them off by interogating them or pushing them. I know eventually they will make up their own minds and i cannot stop that. I have told them my love for them is unconditional, I am their father and they can always speak with me. I have told them there is nothing wrong with celebrating life. Birthdays and holidays are special becasue that is when we are together enjoying each others company, living and clebrating our life together. Those are the special times I remember and look forward to. I have told them that saluting the flag is a sign of respect and there is nothing wrong with showing respect. I want them to be comfortable with themselves and not be afraid to live life. They are only children once and it should be a happy time. I am trying relaly hard, but need a lot of help.
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
Okay I will not approach the Hall. Although I will continue to remind the teachers to stay away from my children.
What I am hoping for and this sounds sooooo awful is that she would shun us all (me and the children) and leave, go pioneer or something. She has thrown away many things that I assume she thinks are demons?And as for holidays/birthdays me and the kids are on our own --- I do all that. She is more of an obstacle impeding us from living our "normal" lives.
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
OK I will check it out. I have checked the websites, and I have Diane Wilson's book Awakening of JWs. So it sounds to me like I am a bit naive and they will be teaching my children and then tell me they are not? The kids are definitely in the middle and that is the sickest part for me. So approaching the elders will not help me? I have pulled the chidren out of the freaking KH twice during talks so I am sure I am all the gossip of the Congo. I have no idea who is in charge over there and when I asked who was I was told no one owns the hall they just meet there. Of course there is a hierarchy and an organization. Should I confront the teacher and the elders?
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
So the children were brought up as JWs? Are they still in ?
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JW Spouse problems
by marcosgarcia ini am not a jw, my spouse is getting way into it -- 4 times a week.
i am not sure what she is doing - and i am not interested in jw -- it is not for me or my children.
a sister was coming to my home -- without my consent and giving a "study" to my children.
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marcosgarcia
Any children????