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missy04
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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Redhotchilipepper... get fixed !
by candidlynuts infor some reason she cant get here.. someone send out the st bernards to save her!
just remember red.. i have no life so i'll be here when you finally get back lol
i miss you!
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missy04
Redhotchilipepper, we miss ya!!
Merry Christmas!!
~Sarah
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Redhotchilipepper... get fixed !
by candidlynuts infor some reason she cant get here.. someone send out the st bernards to save her!
just remember red.. i have no life so i'll be here when you finally get back lol
i miss you!
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missy04
maybe the Witnesses ate her.
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
My wife was in a situation very similar to yours. Her parents were older, her father was an elder and they were hard core JWs. They put every sort of guilt trip possible on her and kept her at home until she was 27. Now that Nina has distance (and 21 years of marriage) she looks back on the decision to stay there as one of the biggest mistakes she made.
Geez,...I can't even imagine how it would be if my parents were JW's. It must have been really hard on her. I'm sorry she had to go through that.
~Sarah
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
Missy, for a very long time I gave and gave and gave because I thought that is what one was supposed to do. I *never* put myself first... and guess what... people milked me for all I was worth and then tossed me to the side when I was spent.
Elsewhere,
I am sorry that you were treated this way...people can really take advantage of giving, caring people.
Glad it all turned out good for you though!
~Sarah
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
all the above said... (which i agree with) remember theres NO Hurry so dont be rash. make sure you have your ducks in a row before you move out. because it is a big ugly world out there so be prepared. i struck out on my own at 37 /38 yrs old and ended up living in a van for a time. .so remember its not easy, its not impossible.. but its not easy. make sure your up for the challenge and go for it if its what you want.
I agree with ya. I know I don't want to make a decision that won't end up working out well...the temptation is to just leave but I know that wouldn't be a good choice until I have everything all planned out.
~Sarah
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
Oh, and one of my rules for where to live: Always live at least 30 miles from your parents. This way they are close enough for visits, but not close enough for them to "drop by" every day.
Good rule of thumb!! I was actually starting to consider 1,600 miles away in Arizona! lol
~Sarah
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
Missy,
You're a very nurtuing and sympatheitc person....with that in mind, I hope you move out soon. Your parents are dependant on your good qualities, however.... they need to respect the fact that you deserve to live your own life. You can't live through other people like this. I hope things work out...
- Preston
Thanks, Preston. Yah I wish they could realize that I do need to live my own life. Whether they understand or not though I am going to end up doing that.
~Sarah
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
Winston Smith,
I think I will definetely look for that book!!
Thanks bunches,
~Sarah
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What do ya do when...
by missy04 inyou're 18, (considered an adult), want to move out of your parents house to get away from your dysfunctional mom, and can't because you feel guilty leaving your mom and dad because your parents have alot of health problems?.
i absolutely cannot function in this environment.
it's just nuts.
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missy04
I know exactly what you are going through. I went through the same thing with my folks, only I was 21. My mom would start on me about if I leave and she dies it would be my fault.
Sounds exactly like something my mom would say. I am glad you made the decision that you did and that it turned out well!
~Sarah