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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

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  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  why georgia- wow. that's bad and very disfunctional. Have your aunt and uncle in question learned to get along yet?
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  Secret Santa Wish List 2005

  by Lady Lee in

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  if you haven't signed up yet there are only a couple of weeks left secret santa 2005. .

  for all of you who are on the secret santa gift exchange.

  give people an idea of what you like.

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  I'd appreciate anything from my secret santa's region or part of the world....or anything else for that matter. I'm not picky.
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  ps- nobody has any stories to top me or come a little close? carla topped it....but I'd like to hear more.
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  Thanks jgnat. I can understand about the mom thing even though I'm not a mom.

  Me and my other siblings and my mom all talked about it and we're going to try and find some help and hopefully get my brother to take it. If anyone knows how to approach this or has some suggestions your advice would be appreciated.
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  ah. magoo...thanks for posting that....and yikes...I hope this guy has come or will come to his senses.
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  luna- thanks for that.

  jgnat- you're right about the amplification. As far as my brother having time with my mom before or after....I'm pretty sure this wouldn't help. She's not really the cause as far as I know. But she doesn't help. This is someone who was a JW but refuses to admit she joined. She also refuses to admit her kids have any faults...unless she mad at them. If everyone says my brother got out of line last night, she says others were involved and made him get out of line. If you say she nearly called 911 last night---she says it wasn't because of one person in particular.

  magoo- what's going on?
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  Josie- you're Aunt might be a genious. I like her style even if she isn't.

  blondie- thanks for that. Thing is I think he is the way he is because he was around JWs. And his experience was different than mine and much much worse. He just won't deal with it. Won't admit anything bad happened to him. I don't know. I can tell him I'm tired of his outbursts but in the longrun I can't see how I could push him out. I just don't know how to make it more clear that he needs help.

  Josie- I worked at Target for a little while. I had people coming at me in front of customers because they thought I had gum in my mouth or I told an old woman obviously in her late 80s that I didn't need to see her ID after she struggled opening her pocketbook (this was when Target carried cigarettes) so I got "talked to" by security and several managers....I still don't understand why I needed 5 managers. I couldn't take it and left abruptly.The manager told me that I "shot myself in the foot" because not only was leaving I leaving but I was leaving without notice...it's good for the cash BUT never take it seriously. hmmm....seems I have a lot of anger about Target...I'm going to have to work on this.
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  Hubert- You guys have done well in weeding out the cause of fights.

  katie- I wish I could exclude him sometimes....but the thing is everyone gathers at my mom's for the holidays. My mom (being the JW gone non-JW she is now) would never exclude any of her children...YES, it's gone from the JW extreme of shunning to the non-JW extreme of never shunning.

  To tell you the truth though, I'd hate not having him around BUT I just can't put up with his fits anymore.
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  family fights on the holidays...

  by under74 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.

  i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.

  any experiences?

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  wow, how exciting, my family doesnt act like that. Sometimes I wish they would, get everything out in the open.

  Well...thing is I don't think it's all out in the open. My thinking is that it's built up anger, resentment, very high expectations and arrested development.

  Exciting....maybe for some. I just ended up chain smoking outside in the cold afterward to calm down. I guess there was some adrenaline going but in the end it just made me depressed. I'm not sorry for confronting him BECAUSE he's a bully. But I am sorry he's a bully. He's my brother. I love him, he knows he has these issues but he won't take steps to end them.
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  GREAT NEWS RE CANCER TREATMENTS!!!!!!

  by Dansk in

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  http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4469114.stm

  middle-aged are surviving cancer

  treatments have improved

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  that's good news. I wonder what the statistics are in the US...I should look that up.