Posts by bikerchic

the next time i see the jdubs standing or sitting by their carts sipping their coffee lattes or updating their facebook pages, i am going to approach them with the following thought process acting as an interested person.. do jw's believe the end is near?.

do you consider your preaching work to be urgent?.

why do you just let people walk by if their very lives are at stake?

bikerchic

I saw my first cart sitters today. It made my stomach turn, yuck! I was coming out of the local library and they were sitting off to the side, the side my car was parked on, I'm glad I had the presence of mind to not look at them. I drove right past and made it a point to not look again.

The weird thing is as I was pulling out of the parking lot onto the street I noticed (for the first time) the KH was right across from the library! I never noticed it before. It's off of a side street and sorta hidden. I've been seeing their tracts for the memorial in various places and I always make it a point to throw them away, save some poor soul from investigating it.

I'm glad I live in a place where no one knows me, I haven't had to think about all the JW stuff for a long time which is really nice.

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Question about an elder and if I am crazy

by life is to short in

ok so i have a question.

i was a very, very true believer until i saw the child molesters in my hall and how that whole thing was handled.. my husband is older than i am and had been an elder for 12 when we married.

so fast forward to 06, we are in a hall where i thought all the elders were ok at the worst and great at the best.

bikerchic

Hi LITS!

You've gotten some great responses here so far and the only thing I have to add is what many have already told you......NO YOU'RE NOT CRAZY!

Another think is keep reading this site anything that interest you and eventually you'll see that giving up the cult is the best way to sanity! I might suggest you read all you can from Barbara Anderson on the child abuse issues and AndersonsInfo. That will help clear up a lot for you I'm sure.

Happy reading!

~ Kate

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Formatting issues

by bikerchic in

how do i turn off the formatting when i use the quote button?.

when i want to start a new paragraph and can't get out of the quote section?.

that made it worse, help!

bikerchic

Thanks this should help! I'm not on my laptop right now but will try it out soon.

~Kate

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DEATH: How have you prepared? Funeral, cremation, donate body to Science?

by TerryWalstrom in

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well, hell!.

i had dizzy spells and near-fainting and nausea for a few days, so why wouldn't i start thinking about death, ya know?.

am i just very lax in my responsibilities in having no plans at all?isn't that irresponsible?

bikerchic

millie210:

Did they really go out to eat with you and your son?

I am stunned.

Actually they did not know and evidently still don't know my apostate stance. You see my goal was to care for my Mother as her needs were too much for the "friends" to handle along with all the other duties of the JW's. As far as my Mom knew I was just not attending, it was a classic case of don't ask, don't tell. I was serving a purpose for her and the congregation and my active baptized fleshly sisters. It was my pleasure to help my Mom.

At her final passing maybe I had the last laugh? At least I felt I beat them at their own game. And yes it was hard keeping my mouth shut some times.

@Incognito: that is excellent information! Thank you for that!

~ Kate

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Formatting issues

by bikerchic in

how do i turn off the formatting when i use the quote button?.

when i want to start a new paragraph and can't get out of the quote section?.

that made it worse, help!

bikerchic

How do I turn off the formatting when I use the quote button?

Like this?
When I want to start a new paragraph and can't get out of the quote section?
That made it worse, help! I can't get out!

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DEATH: How have you prepared? Funeral, cremation, donate body to Science?

by TerryWalstrom in

jw
friends

well, hell!.

i had dizzy spells and near-fainting and nausea for a few days, so why wouldn't i start thinking about death, ya know?.

am i just very lax in my responsibilities in having no plans at all?isn't that irresponsible?

bikerchic

Whew, Terry from the sounds of things you're doing well now or at least you still have your wits about you! I do hope all is well and you've gotten a clean bill of health.

I recently had surgery and while checking in pre-surgery I was asked if I had a POA or a Will, to which I said "no" to both, my bad. I had thought before hand about the blood issue, and spoke to my doctor about it, and no, not because I would not accept a blood transfusion but because I have a rare blood type and he reassured me this wasn't necessary a "bloody" procedure, he didn't see a need to bank blood and that they hardly do that anymore. I had all the Labs, EKG and other test done before surgery.

The questions of a POA and a Will totally slipped my mind. I have all the paper work here at home to fill out the POA and will soon seek out an Attorney to draw up a Will, and get it all legal. I know too well that these things are for my living relatives having gone through all of this while taking care of my elderly Mother.

My Mom did something I think was very smart for a single, elderly, JW woman, she bought and paid for her cremation before her death which was a huge help for my brother and sisters, as well as the Congregation she was in. She went through this company for her services: http://www.neptunesociety.com/ I don't work for them but was very impressed with how they handled everything to her specifications and were extremely helpful to us in a very stressful, and emotional time. So I am happy to pass on their information for any interested ones.

As far as her services, she wished for a service at the kingdom hall and I honored that wish for her as well as I honored her wishes all the while I was her POA about the blood issue, knowing she would not want to have blood. The bulk of the arrangements for her service were on me as most of her JW children lived out of the country and I was close in town and knew most of the elders here due to taking care of her for the 4 years before her death, some of them I knew much longer. I have to say the congregation stepped up to the task and did all the arranging of music (I offered a different sound track!) And they did the printing of the program and again I offered a different poem to be used! They felt a scripture would be better! Their dime they got what they wanted and I felt Mom would want!

Imagine if you can a service at the kingdom hall with an Apostate (me) greeting the "friends" as they came in! And then imagine if you can, several of these elder's and their wives enjoying a meal with me (and my df'ed son) at a local restaurant! Awe.......maybe I shouldn't have? I can't help but think Mom would have been pleased, she loved the restaurant, Mexican food was her favorite!

So thanks again for the reminder and yes I do think it's very important to take care of these things before hand because we really never do know when we or our loved ones will need these important things to take care of our final days.

Good topic! Now I have homework to do while recuperating for the next 6 weeks before going back to work.

~ Kate

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Fluff: Any "Mr. Robot" watchers?

by Dagney in

so many good shows these days.

however mr. robot is really well done and interesting.

wondering if anybody else has been watching.

bikerchic

ive heard a lot of good reviews on it. I have been recording it all season and plan to catch up on it while I have some time off work coming up soon. Good to hear you like it.