This is too long I am afraid. I am reminded of the Mark Twain witticism: I wrote you a long letter because I didn’t have time to compose a short one. There is much truth in this. Brevity requires real thought and consideration: and it pays off.
You need to know that I accept you and love you dearly...
I come to realise that we ourselves need to accept that no one else needs to do anything. In fact other people invariably won’t do anything just because we want them too. They don’t have to listen, or accept, or see our point of view, if they choose not to. They need to want to themselves.