I was fortunate that I was inquisitive and allowed for alternative modes of thinking. Bethel had a dual personality. The super-fine Christian side and the business side. I had the mistaken illusion that the Christian side would overcome any procedural or secular problems. Then I discovered there was a third side, the hypocritical side.
Mostly, I could not understand their adherence to some arbitrary rules that they came up with or followed from somewhere else. This is why I had to leave after 2 1/2 years. For example, I wanted to have my blue jeans pressed as I did in Brooklyn (I spent about 8 months there). I would send them down and pay to have them pressed at the dry cleaners; yes, we all had to pay for that. Apparently, Knorr had this fetish that only homosexuals in Brooklyn Heights wore blue jeans. They would not be banned altogether but were discouraged from wearing them neatly outside of work by making you pay.
So, when I asked for my jeans to be pressed at the Farm, I was told I couldn't because the rule was they just didn't do it. They never gave me a real reason besides that in Brooklyn, they were discouraged. So, I come back with the fact that as it is done in Brooklyn, I was willing to pay for them to be pressed. The response was, "Well, we're not Brooklyn!"
So, on the one hand, they wouldn't press blue jeans with the regular laundry because it was not done in Brooklyn but they would not press them if you paid like it is done in Brooklyn, because they are not "Brooklyn." As you can tell, that was an unwinnable situation. Mind you that this transpired after multiple discussions with the laundry "servant" and even after speaking with the home "servant" who supervised the laundry shop.
I didn't give a rat's ass about the jeans really. It just turned out to be an issue because of their infuriating logic of doing things. I still don't understand the reasoning behind that way of thinking and the unwillingness to change. Well, after talking to a couple of nephews that went to Bethel many years later, they informed me that all that had gone away. I hope that in arguing this (along with many other BAs), I was somehow able to influence and contribute to ending the illogic of such rules. That doesn't take away all the shit I went through just to survive in that place.