jgnat wrote:
Just because, I am guessing, AA explores co-dependency, enabling, and blame. Besides, it gets you out of the house and out with other people.
It also explores spirituality and self-worth and personal growth.
And the price is right. Much cheaper than private psychiatrist. As I recall, it's a donation to help with the basic costs for the group (coffee, snacks, paper, pens, room 'rental'). Way back when, we each contributed $1 per person, per meeting. At one time there were other 12-step programs that were based on AA principles. CoDA (co-dependents) was one that I found extremely enlightening but the group that I really identified with was ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics). I attended meetings with a friend just to see what she was learning and was amazed at what I learned about myself.
These groups are generally pretty social (even if just for the hour or so of the meeting). You may find that none of what is presented applies but most likely you will find, like you did here on JWD, that there are common threads and the people in the group will understand some of your situation and will respectfully help you find what you need to heal and grow.
Even now (15 years later), another friend of mine invites me to AA functions when I'm feeling lonely. I sometimes go just because they are fun and clean.
I know it seemed an unusual suggestion, but you might want to find a meeting close to you and pop in. If nothing else, just for the new experience. You won't have to lie. In fact, it's better if you don't.
Keep in touch.
-Aude.