TheListener

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  Setback

  by EdenOne in

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  10 years ago

  i saw this coming since my mother-in-law's funeral .... the congregation's "love-bombing" over my wife had its impact.

  i watched her drawing closer and closer to her friends in the congregation.

  then she decided she would attend the memorial.

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  Wow, a lot of great feedback on this thread.

  Dubs seem to swing back and forth like a clock pendulum. From hot to cold and back again. From my own experience I know it's hard but if you can keep being patient she may very well swing back again and this time be more convinced that it's not the truth. Being a dub takes a lot of effort and unless she is 100% convinced it's the truth she will tire out. IMHO.

  But, I just want you to know that I understand the feeling of loss and frustration that you have right now. It can eat you up and make you act very differently from your normal personality if you let it. Please keep posting here and venting here because there are a lot of great posters who will listen and reply.

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  Conti Verdict - what will this mean for congregation?

  by sparrowdown in

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  2. beliefs

  10 years ago

  will the outcome of this case translate into any major changes for the way congregations are run?.

  what do you think?.

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  Although I feel that the average witness will have no idea why any of the changes have occurred.

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  Wife wants a Family Study after the special talk...but initially refuses Bible only study.

  by garyneal in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  10 years ago

  my wife asked me to attend the special talk with her because she wants to attend something like this as a family and feels that she "enjoys worshipping together" as a family.

  i have not been to church for at least a year and have pretty much abandoned the practicing of my faith but i can remember how i used to want to have a church going family so i obliged.

  i feel kind of apprehensive about doing these things because she wants the kids and i to be on our best behavior and has even fussed at me for playing tablet games during other talks.

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  Garneal, my wife could not tell you what the current WTS teaching is on most subjects other than trinity, blood, hellfire, heaven and the end is soon soon soon, but she believes everything and attends regularly.

  We have come to an unspoken agreement where we basically don't discuss witness stuff in our home. I can't imagine what stress trying to do a regular reading of the bible together would cause.

  I have found that in the past when I have made what I think is a great point with her and that maybe just maybe she agreed, it only lasted until the conversation was over and then she forgets all of it and continues on as if no discussion happened.

  Good luck with your bible reading but don't hold out too much hope that it will magically help her see TTATT. The 'wait on Jehovah' or 'we'll understand it in the new system' is their ultimate fallback no matter what they hear or learn.

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  The "great crowd" before 1935 and since

  by Doug Mason in

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  2. friends

  10 years ago

  what was the seismic shift in thinking that rutherford required when he created the great multitude in 1935?

  when did the great multitude, or the great crowd as it is now known, become jehovahs witnesses?.

  http://www.jwstudies.com/the_great_crowd_before_1935_and_since.pdf.

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  Man it's so embarrassing to say I believed in their nonsense. It's even more frustrating that my wife still does.

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  Old Hat

  by Phaedra in

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  2. friends

  10 years ago

  15 years ago i joined this forum under a generic alias.. if it weren't for the fact that i have close family weaved into this tapestry of a religion i think i could have moved on long ago.. when you're connected, you're connected.. to those in the same boat, you're not alone.. we get it, and you.. hugs,.

  phae.

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  I get it too. My wife and family are still in but I've saved my kids, I think. I read here to stay informed on the latest WTS information. I would love to find the one argument or idea that would save my wife.

  The stress level caused by raising kids with one witness parent and one who faded is really really high. At each stage of your kids lives there are decisions to be made and each parent has a completely different view on most of them. It feels like if anything goes wrong with the raising of the kids it's the non-dub parents fault.

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  Crisis of Conscience

  by WasOnceBlind in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  10 years ago

  wow, what a great book.

  i started reading it today and have not been able stop.

  im already 80 pages in!

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  I've always wondered how Cynthia felt about Rays crisis of conscience. Did she follow him out right away or did she still believe everything even as he was mentally free.

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  Discussion with my wife

  by New day in

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  10 years ago

  i had an interesting conversation with my wife today.

  she revealed that she had been deeply hurt by bros and sis reactions to her as she has not been to meetings for a while due to physical and emotional probs.

  when she meets jws in the street they cannot cope with her and are often very cool towards her.

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  Great conversation. Maybe your wife is a lot like mine, doctrine doesn't matter, it's a social club. That may be the best way for you to reach her real personality. Imho the more supportive and loving you are the more contrast she will see between the dubs and you.

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  why report more partakers?

  by rebel8 in

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  2. friends

  10 years ago

  of all the threads here about the number of partakers increasing, i don't recall theories as to why they report this.

  they could stop reporting numbers altogether or lie.

  instead they say, in essence, "our teachings about end times and heavenly hope are still wrong"..

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  I think the witnesses have always had a more than average share of crazies. So why are so many people partaking the last few years? Why the increase? You'd think that the elders would kindly talk to some of the partakers and explain things to them and the number would go back down.

  Each year the GB are probably praying that this will be the year of a decrease in partakers. I'd love to see a huge partaker increase. That would really freak the dubs out.

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  Why do I suddenly want to start reading JW literature and going to Kingdom Halls?

  by yogosans14 in

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  2. friends

  10 years ago

  is good calling me back or am i just letting my emotions get the best of me?also i really want to be closer to my jw family.

  btw i was never baptized and i consider myself a born again christian i go to a baptist church and wath televangelist and i have expirenced gods presence like never before but sometimes i get fearful and think "what if jws are right and i'm wrong" than i'm screwed!but if there wrong and i'm right it doesn't look to good for them.. i would prefer if nobody posted "god isn't real" type comments.

  i truly believe he is real but i respect why some are atheists..

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  P err heaps choosing a couple core dub beliefs and really investigating them will show you that they aren't right.

  It worked for me. I used to wake up freaking out that the new system was coming and I wasnt going to make it. It took a lot of research and time to finally get over that fear.

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  why report more partakers?

  by rebel8 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  10 years ago

  of all the threads here about the number of partakers increasing, i don't recall theories as to why they report this.

  they could stop reporting numbers altogether or lie.

  instead they say, in essence, "our teachings about end times and heavenly hope are still wrong"..

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  TheListener 10 years ago

  I think the leaders are 100% bought into the fact that they are Gods chosen ones so reporting the higher numbers doesn't bother them.

  If you are 100% a believer then if the numbers are higher there is a godly reason and you must figure it out, not hide the numbers.

  I don't know just my thoughts.

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