I always felt bad for the new boys who would come to bethel and had girlfriends back in their home congregation or gained a girlfriend quickly after coming to bethel and felt stressed out their entire first year obligation and then left as quick as they could. They were miserable most of the time.
And truth is that with all the stress and weird things that go on at bethel it could be a lot of fun. Lots of young guys in a pressured environment meant lots of nerdy rule breaking and trying to get away with stuff. It was a very "us against them" mentality with the younger ones and the heavies. At least that was my experience.