Umertoecho, that's really underhanded for a wife to do. That would definitely damage my trust in my spouse. What I don't get is if she knows you say things she considers "apostate" or whatever, why does she need to record you, especially if you were being recorded while talking to two elders? Sorry to hear about your situation.
Nevaagain, still, to know TTATT and have to attend meetings, meetings for field service, CO lunches (two of them in one week!!!!) and all the rest would just kill me. I couldn't do it. I give you credit for doing whatever you have to do in your life to stay sane. Just be sure to care for yourself and make sure you are happy too. It's not always about everyone else, sometimes it's just about us.