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  Help with fading, please...

  by longgone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just left about six months ago and i'm going through the emotional whirlwind that comes with it.

  i would really appreciate some advice on how to keep this fade from turning into my being disfellowshipped.

  i'm another born in, third generation.

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  TheListener

  Just wanted to say hi and welcome. There is already tons of good advice on this thread and others so I hope this forum really helps you.

  Please remember you are not alone.
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  New, but needed to vent- thank you :-)

  by Danni Jackson in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i discovered your website this morning as i was trying to find some information about 'marking'.

  you see a very close friend of mine was 'marked' earlier this week and as i know the ins and outs of the situation (as we are close friends) i disregarded the talk immediately as i know my friend is obviously having issues but is no way a 'danger' to anybody else's spiritual health.

  basically they are dating a non-believer- hence the talk.

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  TheListener

  Welcome Danni. Feel free to vent. I'm glad you found the site and posted.
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  I found a list my Wife is makingof subjects i have told her about the BORG.

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so me and my wife have not been on speaking terms for about 5 weeks, and when we do .

  talk…it is arguing about the jw cult and more of a barrage from me telling here all the stuff i have learned.

  i know i shouldn't do this....but, i get so freaking p.o ed aobut what this cult has done to my family.

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  TheListener

  Maybe it's a list of things that she wants to ask the elders about. Not necessarily to out you but to put to rest any doubts you may have created. She might not be planning to turn you in.

  I agree with others though that you need to stop talking about the jw stuff with her.
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  Mouthy has Passed Away

  by Simon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  update on mouthy (grace gough)this is graces granddaughter.

  i wanted to send an update that today my beautiful grandmother passed away - surrounded by friends and family.

  - may 22 1927 - sept 2nd 2016. mouthys_granddaughter.

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  TheListener

  Grace was a wonderful person and instrumental in helping me break free. Rest in Peace
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  Can’t cope with being disfellowshipped…..Need some advice

  by xxBettyBoopxx in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this site is great, i have been lurking for a while now.

  but i can’t get reinstated and have used some of the advice already given.. i was df’d many months ago and go to all the meetings and do all the preparation for the meetings, but the jc committee keep refusing me.

  tomorrow at the clam meeting i am puting yet another letter in and will be called for another dreadful jc meeting.. 1. what can i say to the elders to show that i am truly repentant?.

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  TheListener

  BettyBoop,

  You said you were disfellowshipped many months ago. Depending on the elders and the reason for the DF'ing it may take awhile to get reinstated, even if you're doing all that is required. I don't know if 'many months' is 6 or 12 or even 18. But, there are a lot of ex-elders on here that can probably tell you a realistic timeframe for reinstatement. From my experience it all depends on the offense, how the congregation viewed you before the DF'ing and how you've been acting since.

  I am really sorry that you have lost contact with your family and friends (well, the ones that aren't secretly talking with you). When my wife and I had kids (she's still a witness) I told her they that I would not cut them off if they made mistakes in life. I think that disfellowshipping is disgusting and 100% against what the bible teaches. You might feel better if you research disfellowshipping and learn for yourself that it really isn't a biblical teaching as we were always taught it was.

  Please keep posting and sharing your feelings and you will get a lot of support here.
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  Not too my son...

  by The Rebel in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  will i say " orlando, your hair is too long, and needs to be cut short" and never will i say " orlando, invites to birthday parties can't be accepted".

  and i will buy my son books he wants to read, books that bring him happiness, and that he understands.

  and by so doing, i hope he will acquire happy memories of his childhood, so that the sensitive and delicate, in him will be allowed to grow.

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  TheListener

  Sounds great The Rebel. I envy the upbringing for your son.
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  LivingSocial SurvivalKit: For 1 or 2? And that is the question!

  by oppostate in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just following the "worst-district-convention-ever" there's a lot of frightened jw's worriedly and eagerly excited about the "great tribulationnnnn-tam-tam-tammmmm" starting.

  it's the talk of the town in jw land.. today, my wife is off to the sunday meeting and an after-spiritual-banquet-get-together for the speaker.

  i'm staying home for this one.

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  TheListener

  You know the answer Oppostate - for 2 but that 2 doesn't include you - it's for a potential bible study :)
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  Hi everyone, just signed up here

  by samj in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi, i just signed up.

  i'm 35, i've been baptized 20 years, married 15 years.

  it seems like the wife and i are going in opposite directions spiritually.

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  TheListener

  Nice to meet you samj. I faded very slowly and it was soooo painful. After a while I just couldn't stand being at the meetings and hearing the crap they spewed from the audience and platform.

  I wish you the best of hanging around the dubs but being mentally free.
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  Bunker Video Sparks Family Drama!

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i guess you are guaranteed to survive the "great tribulation" if you don't be a "kevin".

  my family members are doubling down on their fervor about meeting attendance.

  they are having an effect on some of my wishy washy long time inactive family.

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  TheListener

  Thanks Blondie. I wonder how a Go Bag for natural disasters differs from a 'Geddon Bag or Bunker Bag. Just something else for those witness website to sell to my wife.
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  Bunker Video Sparks Family Drama!

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i guess you are guaranteed to survive the "great tribulation" if you don't be a "kevin".

  my family members are doubling down on their fervor about meeting attendance.

  they are having an effect on some of my wishy washy long time inactive family.

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  TheListener

  I don't get the bunker mentality. Did the dubs in the video really think their secret knock was a protection? As if the knock was wrong that the door wouldn't be kicked in? Did they have supplies down there? Toilets?

  Didn't they think the neighbors would find it unusual that they have all these people coming in to visit and they never leave? did they all walk to the bunker house or drive cars and take up all the guest parking spots?

  Perhaps the dubs need to start putting together Bunker Bags with food, water, toiletries and an anti kevin t-shirt.