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  TV commercial seen in the United States, from a Law firm "Asking if you were ever sexually abused by JEHOVAHS WITNESSES, please call".

  by Dunedain in

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  2. scandals

  ok, so i don't know if this is "old news", and if this has been seen, and or mentioned already.

  if it was, i do apologize, but i feel i have to mention what has been seen on tv, within the past 24 hours.. first off, i would like to say that i did not personally see this commercial.

  however, it was seen by someone that i can verify 100% is telling the truth, as it was my own father who saw it.

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  My whole family saw the tv commercial on a news channel over the weekend. Blew my mind! No response from the dubs in the room.
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  My Dad wants to study with me

  by BlackWolf in

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  2. friends

  so my parents continue to pester me about getting baptized.

  the other day my dad told me that i was old enough to make a decision, and was wondering why i wasn't ready (assembly is in a few weeks) so i told him calmly that i have many doubts and if i were to get baptized it has to be 100 percent my idea.

  he was a little annoyed by this, and now wants to study the "is there a creator that cares about you" book (which is complete bs) with me.

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  Good luck Blackwolf. I really do wish you the best with this. It's a tough situation to be in but it sounds like you're handling it well. My situation was very different but similar too. I am married and had to deal with my wife who is still a JW. She's very normal but while I was fading she also seemed like she had bipolar. I think it has to do with the stress of seeing someone they love so much choosing to turn their back on God and choosing to die (although that is only in their opinion no reality, but perception is reality). My wife and I have come to a peaceful unspoken agreement about my involvement in the witnesses so I hope that you and your parents can do the same. Unfortunately the stress of each situation until that happens can be a lot to bear. Hang in there and keep venting here.
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  Taking the Step

  by beardfreedom in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first time posting after years of reading, the things i have learned here have gradually helped to open my eyes to the reality of this religion.

  though i have been mentally out for some time, lately i have stopped going to meetings and service.

  the elders are calling and i have been ignoring them, i am trying to get up the courage to finally break free and never go back.

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  Welcome Beardfreedom. Hope you find the forum helpful in your exit. Looking forward to hearing how things go.
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  Help with fading, please...

  by longgone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just left about six months ago and i'm going through the emotional whirlwind that comes with it.

  i would really appreciate some advice on how to keep this fade from turning into my being disfellowshipped.

  i'm another born in, third generation.

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  TheListener

  Just wanted to say hi and welcome. There is already tons of good advice on this thread and others so I hope this forum really helps you.

  Please remember you are not alone.
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  New, but needed to vent- thank you :-)

  by Danni Jackson in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i discovered your website this morning as i was trying to find some information about 'marking'.

  you see a very close friend of mine was 'marked' earlier this week and as i know the ins and outs of the situation (as we are close friends) i disregarded the talk immediately as i know my friend is obviously having issues but is no way a 'danger' to anybody else's spiritual health.

  basically they are dating a non-believer- hence the talk.

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  Welcome Danni. Feel free to vent. I'm glad you found the site and posted.
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  I found a list my Wife is makingof subjects i have told her about the BORG.

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so me and my wife have not been on speaking terms for about 5 weeks, and when we do .

  talk…it is arguing about the jw cult and more of a barrage from me telling here all the stuff i have learned.

  i know i shouldn't do this....but, i get so freaking p.o ed aobut what this cult has done to my family.

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  TheListener

  Maybe it's a list of things that she wants to ask the elders about. Not necessarily to out you but to put to rest any doubts you may have created. She might not be planning to turn you in.

  I agree with others though that you need to stop talking about the jw stuff with her.
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  Mouthy has Passed Away

  by Simon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  update on mouthy (grace gough)this is graces granddaughter.

  i wanted to send an update that today my beautiful grandmother passed away - surrounded by friends and family.

  - may 22 1927 - sept 2nd 2016. mouthys_granddaughter.

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  Grace was a wonderful person and instrumental in helping me break free. Rest in Peace
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  Can’t cope with being disfellowshipped…..Need some advice

  by xxBettyBoopxx in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this site is great, i have been lurking for a while now.

  but i can’t get reinstated and have used some of the advice already given.. i was df’d many months ago and go to all the meetings and do all the preparation for the meetings, but the jc committee keep refusing me.

  tomorrow at the clam meeting i am puting yet another letter in and will be called for another dreadful jc meeting.. 1. what can i say to the elders to show that i am truly repentant?.

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  BettyBoop,

  You said you were disfellowshipped many months ago. Depending on the elders and the reason for the DF'ing it may take awhile to get reinstated, even if you're doing all that is required. I don't know if 'many months' is 6 or 12 or even 18. But, there are a lot of ex-elders on here that can probably tell you a realistic timeframe for reinstatement. From my experience it all depends on the offense, how the congregation viewed you before the DF'ing and how you've been acting since.

  I am really sorry that you have lost contact with your family and friends (well, the ones that aren't secretly talking with you). When my wife and I had kids (she's still a witness) I told her they that I would not cut them off if they made mistakes in life. I think that disfellowshipping is disgusting and 100% against what the bible teaches. You might feel better if you research disfellowshipping and learn for yourself that it really isn't a biblical teaching as we were always taught it was.

  Please keep posting and sharing your feelings and you will get a lot of support here.
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  Not too my son...

  by The Rebel in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  will i say " orlando, your hair is too long, and needs to be cut short" and never will i say " orlando, invites to birthday parties can't be accepted".

  and i will buy my son books he wants to read, books that bring him happiness, and that he understands.

  and by so doing, i hope he will acquire happy memories of his childhood, so that the sensitive and delicate, in him will be allowed to grow.

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  Sounds great The Rebel. I envy the upbringing for your son.
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  LivingSocial SurvivalKit: For 1 or 2? And that is the question!

  by oppostate in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just following the "worst-district-convention-ever" there's a lot of frightened jw's worriedly and eagerly excited about the "great tribulationnnnn-tam-tam-tammmmm" starting.

  it's the talk of the town in jw land.. today, my wife is off to the sunday meeting and an after-spiritual-banquet-get-together for the speaker.

  i'm staying home for this one.

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  TheListener

  You know the answer Oppostate - for 2 but that 2 doesn't include you - it's for a potential bible study :)