In life, we cut ties with those we think are toxic to us but maybe not in an extreme way like the jobos do.
Yes, I get it, the leaders are responsible for manipulating people. They have a lot of guilt.
But there is personal responsibility too.Because of the psychological manipulation, good people do bad things, but if they are truly good and strong, they will eventually do the right thing. IMHO.
I did.
I was physically abused for disobedience to the cult many times, and financially abused to the point of having no escape, and psychologically manipulated from childhood on.
But I did let myself acknowledge that goodness and truth have nothing to fear from exposure to other views.
I shun toxic people to this very day, and there is nothing wrong with that.
The difference between me and dubs is that I have an honest definition of "toxic" now. It took a ton of courage and risk to figure it out on my own and escape from the situation that required me to shun the wrong people.
Come to think of it, I have never had an opportunity to apologize for shunning anybody. I am very sorry.