Posts by rebel8

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My Story

by WeatherLover in

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i'm a 4th generation jw.

i started to realize it wasn't the truth over 2 years ago in late october/early november 2014. i don't know how exactly it happened.

i remember i had just heard about confirmation bias, and it hit me: i realized that i would be guilty of confirmation bias if i didn't look at the other side.

rebel8

I really can't stand the thought of bringing my mom to tears.

No healthy, normal mother would be sad about her child being honest, using his intelligence and logic, and doing the right thing.

If she is brought to tears over this, it is because her chosen religion has misled her to believe falsehoods about nonbelievers.

Therefore: Not your fault.

Imagine if we were talking about a person who believes in Thor, doesn't believe in going to college, dating, having careers, and insists everyone skip medical care, holidays, and many other normal/healthy things to serve Thor. Are you supposed to go along with this just because she might cry if you don't?

to stop preaching a message that I don't agree with

Yes, and more. The message destroys and actually ends lives. I nearly bled to death many times during childhood because of it--no exaggeration. And think of all those who have committed suicide or done other deeply self-destructive things because of the teachings and shunning. You can't preach a message that could result in someone's death. It's not right. (You know this.)

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Evolution knowledge prevailing over a Jehovah’s Witness!

by anointed1 in

yesterday i had an interesting visitor—my long-time school friend.

we both studied with jws together, and he progressed to dedication and baptism whereas i stopped before the final step and got transferred to another place.

after the routine conversations, he said: “you know how much your family members long to see you take up the truth ….. before it is too late, i would suggest you start tasting jehovah.”.

rebel8

I can't believe nobody is mocking this comment:

I would suggest you start tasting Jehovah.

Let's generate some comebacks:

So you mean I should become a Catholic so I can take communion and eat the body of god?

I did taste him once but I didn't like him. I kept trying him, because I thought maybe he was an acquired taste, like beer. I just never learned to like the taste.

I did and he left a bad taste in my mouth.

Does he come in salted caramel mocha latte flavor?

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What have been some of the funniest local needs talks that you have heard?

by DaPriest in

i remember once in berlin south germany there was a local needs part for the men only, and how they should use the toilet.

in all seriousness for ten minutes a retarded nigerian was going on about how men need to sit down when using the toilet.

no mention of anything else.. it transpired that some little kraut boy from an "interested" family would aim for the side of the toilet and leave a great big puddle for others to clean up.

rebel8

Back in the early 1980s when they were disfellowshipping unbaptized people (which they called disassociating), we had a lot of special needs talks. Most of the 12-18 year olds in the congregation were disassociated within a few months' time.

The announcements back then would be followed by a scripture reading about what they had done wrong. Imagine the sick &*(%$#@ing cultists announcing a 13 year old being ritually shunned for fornication!!! OMG! Then these were followed by a special needs talk about how girls needed to control themselves because they are like cows in heat and it is up to them to prevent sex blah blah blah.

There were others about clothes, makeup and hairstyles. Boys who shaved their sideburns, wore skinny ties or spiked their hair were not allowed to carry the mikes. (This was the 1980s.)

Girls who wore black pantyhose, straight skirts, skirts with slits, skirts that did not fully cover the kneecap--god they were focused on skirts!--lipstick, spiked hair, yadda yadda were unspiritual and bad association.

Then there were the anti-college talks. The only acceptable future plans were full time service. Planning for anything less is not putting the imaginary bearded sky daddy first.

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Does the Jehovah's Witnesses religoius cult create people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder ?

by Finkelstein in

the american psychiatry association lists nine symptoms – if someone ticks five of these, they could have narcissistic personality disorder.

the nine points of narcissism.

has a grandiose sense of self-importance.. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.. believes that he or she is ‘special’ and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people.. requires excessive admiration.. has a sense of entitlement.. is inter-personally exploitative (takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).. lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.. .

rebel8

xian fundies tend to be this way. It attracts people who have an immature emotional need to be better than everyone else. And they get that need met in fundamentalist settings.

Fundamentalism also disregards the importance of intellect, logic, learning and critical thinking. Possessing those things tends to eliminate egotism.

Once you learn and understand the fact that there is no god and we are all equal products of an indifferent universe, it's more difficult to be narcissistic.

most personality issues are attributed to exposure. If you are surrounded by narcissists, then it is easy for you to become one

Yes, and possibly genetics as well, which is an issue for jws because many are born in or bred from >1 family of jws.

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"It is the victims right to approach authorities" The weak excuse used by the society

by stuckinarut2 in

we have seen that the society falls back on the line "it is the victims right to approach the authorities" during all the abuse claims.. they use this excuse to try and defend the passive lack of action in failing to report suspected cases of abuse.. a comparison came to mind:.

if we came across a person lying in the street who says they were hit by a car, would we say "it is your absolute right to call the paramedics and police"?.

or would we take the initiative and call those authorities ourselves to help the person?.

rebel8

I was a manager in a hospital and somebody else's staff member called me to talk. I had never met this person and she didn't report to me, but she heard maybe rebel8 would listen.

I went to her and she had been attacked by a patient. I think she had an injury but was still able to work. She had told her manager she wanted to file a police report--this patient did this deliberately. Her manager replied that she was free to file a police report if she wished, but she would not be aided by the hospital.

IIRC, they even discouraged her from calling the police to the hospital, suggesting she do that outside of work.

While this is true, the employee really needed the support of someone in management. She was quite disturbed about the incident. The hospital's response made her feel concerned she would be punished for reporting it. She reasoned that if the hospital was so cold as to not even support her as she had the courage to have the perp prosecuted so he never did it to someone else, then they must actually not want her to report it.

While the statement in the OP (that victims have the right to report the crime themselves) may be factually true, the failure to offer support in that process probably does have the same effect. Add to that the borg's pervasive history of punishing victims, and you can imagine the victim's concerns.

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Jehovah sure loves foreskins!

by rebel8 in

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friends

an atheist (never jw) friend of mine is an rv for a jw who he is trying to deprogram.

he started this totally on his own and just telling me about it.

it's quite amusing what he comes up with.. point 1: why the s & m stuff with foreskins?

rebel8

ewwww, Vidiot!

See what you did, rebel8?!!! Lol

Well, I've started controversies many times. LOL

But truly, this time, I am just telling you a story of what a non-jw is doing to try to deprogram a jw. This was not instigated by me in any way. The topic of foreskins was chosen by him.

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So, the Womens March ... What Is It For?

by Simon in

it seems like mobilizing after the election, which seems pointless.

i keep hearing demands for equal rights but don't understand what rights they are missing exactly.. normally a march is to show the support (and potential votes) for a cause, but ... votes for what?

... and the election happened already.. is anyone else confused?

rebel8

It is nice to feel a sense of community and support, but beyond that, I don't know what the march accomplishes.

I have zero expectation that Cheeto gives a flying you-know-what about women's marches.

There are so many well-intended advocacy efforts done improperly that result in no or negative impact. This is especially true when there are strong emotions and lack of professional guidance. We see this a lot in the ex-jw world.

I was tempted to go, and tried to find out about the event and its aim. The website (for my city's march) had 2 vague sentences about its purpose, which was basically, "Stand up for your rights."

Advocacy without a good strategy is just venting your feelings. I can do that at the corner bar.

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Jehovah sure loves foreskins!

by rebel8 in

jw
friends

an atheist (never jw) friend of mine is an rv for a jw who he is trying to deprogram.

he started this totally on his own and just telling me about it.

it's quite amusing what he comes up with.. point 1: why the s & m stuff with foreskins?

rebel8

what is the WTS position on circumcision of men in their organization?

Let's start a rumor.

In the New System, there will be a Latter Gentile Class. Foreskins will grow back gradually, proportionate to how perfect the man has become.

When Satan is let out after the 1000 years, he will be allowed to win permanent freedom if he can bring jehovah 3000 foreskins, breaded and deep fried, with a side of ranch dressing.

And to anyone who is reading this: If you are telling yourself this is ridiculous, consider the fact that it is not more ridiculous than what the bible actually says.

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Country Crock Ad.. . .by Bethelite?

by JWdaughter in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7j54qnhasng.

so, i saw this ad and it felt so uncomfortably familiar.

and weird somehow.

rebel8

I heard they are coming out with a special edition of the product.

Sham's Spread Crock O'Shit, [new] lite version. It has a pic of paradise petting zoo on the label.

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I really hate the word "ones".

by schnell in

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friends

necessary as it is at times, i hate this word.

for one thing, "ones" is a plural form of the number 1. that is dumb, and it's reason enough to avoid it where it isn't entirely necessary.. one could argue that it never is necessary, but it can still come up in colloquial dialogue when discussing objects.

jw leaders use it to discuss people.. interestingly, jws even did this to jesus christ in their own translation of the bible, referring to him in ephesians 1:7 with "through the blood of that one" where another translation would say something like "through his blood".

rebel8

ITA

It is weird in-group language--a telltale sign of a cult.

"one of jehovahs witlesses">>>who says that about any other religion? Let's see:

"I'm one of Catholics." NOPE
"I'm one of Hindus." NOPE
"I'm one of Baptists." NOPE