a new montra that was recently adopted by the wife and i is this:.
dont give them more power than they deserve.. here's why i say that, and i point this to those of you still in the congregation, still trying to decide what you want to do.. recently, our family had a little family reunion gathering of sorts, and we were in the company of some extended family that were either df or da, to varying degrees.
we made it very clear, to any and all in attendance, that we wanted to be respectful and kind, despite any previous perceptions about our "status".... and that our feelings on a lot of things had "softened", and "changed" over the last 2 years.. i am being purposefully slightly vague, but i think you get the point.
This is my mantra as well. All their authority is peer-conveyed. Once you do not recognize it, it does not exist for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEIJ3YqPbqg
Have you considered blocking their texts and emails? It is quite a satisfying way to take your power back. They don't even get to harass your voicemail. It irritates the heck out of them.
this is becoming more common.
this is from the last part of the article: .
"this was about sexual gratification and you are a hypocrite because you became an elder and you investigated a sexual matter even with this in your sexual background.".
i think these historic cases of abuse could easily get way out of control. most times theres no evidence--and its just one persons word against another. also--accusations could be made against any of us.
You do realize this individual admitted the crime and was convicted by trial, right?!!!!
this is becoming more common.
this is from the last part of the article: .
"this was about sexual gratification and you are a hypocrite because you became an elder and you investigated a sexual matter even with this in your sexual background.".
Creepy. Pedos don't change, in my professional experience. They can't.
I was just talking to another former therapist about treatment effectiveness. She specialized in these types of perps. She said she thinks one or two stopped offending over the course of her career, and she stipulated she can only confirm they hadn't been caught again.
As to the remark in the OP, "This is becoming more common," do you mean media stories about it are more common, or the crimes themselves? If the crimes, what are you basing this on?
last sunday i visited a hall to see a friend.
the brother giving the talk spent the first 20 minutes talking about how bad the world is and then the next 10 minutes he pointed out how god's kingdom is the answer.
one thing he mentioned is all of the millions of starving children in the world and how the money that we spend on just a few bombs that are dropped in the wars could feed thousands of children.
I was in a store yesterday and they were selling xmas cards for Unicef. There was a sign that said how many vaccinations each pack of cards would buy, how much water or food, etc.
It would be interesting to calculate that based on the wealth the wts has. If only we knew how much that was.
Of course, we could pick one thing they waste their $ on--such as a new building--and calculate how many people could be fed with that money.
i know it's dumb to think it would make sense.
i've been telling myself to lay low because everytime i ask a question now my husband says i have a negative attitude and i sound like an apostate.
hmmm wonder why.
berry is right--you have an awesome opportunity to compose and send the letter together.
Take your time and be sure he totally agrees with what's in the letter. You don't want him going all Jezebel on you once the backlash comes.
last sunday i visited a hall to see a friend.
the brother giving the talk spent the first 20 minutes talking about how bad the world is and then the next 10 minutes he pointed out how god's kingdom is the answer.
one thing he mentioned is all of the millions of starving children in the world and how the money that we spend on just a few bombs that are dropped in the wars could feed thousands of children.
my middle brother called me a couple of hours ago.
our youngest brother, josh, who was 38, was found by his friends in his apartment.
he hung himself.
Oh that's terrible. I'm so sorry.
Shock is understandable.
Your feelings will come, and they will probably be mixed--sadness, horror, anger, and maybe eventually relief that he is no longer suffering. These are all ok things to feel.
He probably just wanted to be free of the pain, and now he is.
here's mine: i'm 14 years old, just baptised and a old boy married elder of about 60 odd comes up to me and says " ooooooooooh!
"purrpurr"!
your getting such a lovely figure on you!
Claiming a young girl took birth control pills for a hormonal problem and grew a penis. This was a specific girl. I can imagine few more hateful rumors to start. Then they said she fell away and became a prostitute because the pill made her sex crazed.
Announcing that 13-year old unbaptized kids committed immorality, and giving their names in the announcement.
Telling me, as a 10-year-old, that I was "damaged goods, like a rape victim" because I had been given transfusions before becoming a jw. Stating I would never be clean from it unless I died and was resurrected. Stating I would probably never find any jw male willing to be my husband because I was damaged in this way.
Sickos.
hi, i just joined the board and wanted to present myself.. i'm active, in fact very active in congregation activities serving "where the need is great" in a foreign language congregation somewhere in western europe.
as a young brother, i'm seen as an example as i'm doing all a good witness should do.. i had doubts years ago but i decided just to ignore them and move to another congregation to preach more.
that worked for some years but i'm now at the exact same point.
This is good advice from The Society:
Zion's Watch Tower and Herald of Christ's Presence October 1879 (reprint) p.38 "The Ten Virgins"
We do not object to changing our opinions on any subject, or discarding former applications of prophecy, or any other scripture, when we see a good reason for the change,-in fact, it is important that we should be willing to unlearn errors and mere traditions, as to learn truth... It is our duty to "prove all things."…by the unerring Word,…"and hold fast to that which is good."
For more quotes from wts literature encouraging the same thing, go here. Of course you can confirm these are true quotes by searching literature yourself.
Search out a life worth living, enjoying and using it to its fullest, contributing to your community and being the best person you can be.
the theme of the jw calendar 2016 is building, building, building.
all the calendar pictures are about building wts property with cheap labor witnesses.. and then, just before the year approaches the building has halted.. it seems a short term decision.
a strange correlation again.. gorby.
