My partner stopped attending/was df'ed last year and this year. His family members (mom, brother, sisters, etc.) that are JW's have ignored him at family functions and haven't spoken to him in almost a year. Anyway, we just moved to a new place, and the local JW's came door knocking this weekend. Our neighbor was shocked that they came around. He's lived there for twenty something years and said they've never touched the neighborhood - it's not exactly the best neighborhood - but the rent is cheap. My partner said that it was probably a coincidence, but it just made me wonder - if someone from his family caught wind of where we moved to, is it possible they asked or a common thing for them to ask another congregation to come check on you? We're down in KY and his family is in Ohio. Just curious.
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are the df'ed sought out when they move?
by md2be inmy partner stopped attending/was df'ed last year and this year.
his family members (mom, brother, sisters, etc.
) that are jw's have ignored him at family functions and haven't spoken to him in almost a year.
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Dating an ex-JW
by md2be inmy bf is an ex-jw and i am trying to come to terms with his family dynamics.
he hasn't talked to any of his relatives who are jw's since he split with jw ex-wife.
i was raised to know that that family is #1 regardless of what decisions you or they make in their lifetimes.
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Thanks for your response.
Nope, my mother is not a JW. Nobody in my family is. I think you are right about the desperate attempt to bring him back to them by attempting to destroy his relationships with worldly people.
Another concern is my bf says his atheist grandfather doesn't know about the need to cut off family members from contact when they are dfed. His JW grandmother has kept this from the gradnfather because she knows he would be furious if he knew. This just sounds wierd to me.
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Dating an ex-JW
by md2be inmy bf is an ex-jw and i am trying to come to terms with his family dynamics.
he hasn't talked to any of his relatives who are jw's since he split with jw ex-wife.
i was raised to know that that family is #1 regardless of what decisions you or they make in their lifetimes.
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My bf is an ex-JW and I am trying to come to terms with his family dynamics. He hasn't talked to any of his relatives who are JW's since he split with JW ex-wife. I was raised to know that that family is #1 regardless of what decisions you or they make in their lifetimes. I was raised ELCA (Lutheran). I had a very easy-going childhood. How in the world can anyone alienate themselves from their own son? Their own grandson? Their own brother? Neither of us have children, but we want to have children together, and I am so scared of this influence and the effect it could have on my future children. He assures me they will never have anything to do with us as long as they refuse to talk with him without demoralizing him. I am scared they will try to come back into his life when we have children because of the children and not because they want to have a relationship with my bf.
They won't talk to him, but his JW mother and ex-wife will call my mother (who is one of the most awesome persons in the world) to tear my bf apart. They say he is manipulative and they are concerned I will be hurt by him. I have never heard of a mother calling a son such awful things before. It tears me up to see how hurt he is. I don't believe he is manipulative. We have a wonderful relationship and he listens to how I feel and backs off when I tell him to. I never felt like I did something I didn't want to do with him. Are they saying these things to try to drive a wedge between us so that he will come back to them? My mother knows their phone #'s now and doesn't answer when they call. I feel so badly that my mother has to screen her calls.