I understand you don't plan to have children, but children don't always care about your little plans. They are quite self-centered little people, with an uncanny knack for showing up at the most inopportune times.
I am not a dub, but I am married to one. From what I understand, the big thing is the phobias that have been instilled in you to keep you compliant. You may not care enough about yourself to have those phobias overcome your newly found disgust with the JW life.
But if you have children your phobias will come back with a vengance. What wasn't enough of a fear for you to stay a dub will be multiplied by 1000 when applied to your children. The "former-dub-who-marries-a-worldly-but-then-has-kids-and-freaks-out-and-gets-reinstated" is so common it is a cliche.
You must hunt down your phobias and kill them.
I understand that Randall Watters has some good "deprogramming" videos on his web site, freeminds.org. You also might want to consider counseling. Like anyone who has been victimized or abused, you need to understand that experience and how it is affecting you. Only when you understand at a conscious level, how these things affect you, will you be able to deal with yourself consciously.
I think this is particularly important since you are going to attempt a fake-and-a-fade. You need to protect yourself from all those old phobias and appeals.
Have you considered trying to get some of your family to leave with you! I and others are reading and implementing Releasing the Bonds by Steven Hassan. It is a how to get your loved one out of a cult book. It is quite good. Since reading it I have had many successes.
Good luck. (I intentionally did not ask that the laws of probability be in your favor)