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  What exactly is not allowed

  by Jdarley in

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  2. relationships

  ok, my bf is witness, and i am studying to become baptized.

  but he and i have sexual control issues that we are trying to work on.

  (we cant keep our hands off eachother and control our desires).

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  Check_Your_Premises

  Oh boy.

  I guess the "extra" concern I have for my daughters stems from the obvious biological consequences of premarital sex.

  Plus, I know how men think. My daughter doesn't. Sex (generally) has different meaning to women and men. My daughter will likely associate it with a deep and meaningful level of commitment and intimacy. Many of her possible suitors will associate it with scoring points, and release of tension. Unfortunately, women like all people tend to think that everyone else thinks like them. I have found that many young women have experienced a great deal of heartache because they mistakenly applied and hoped that their assumptions about the sex act would be shared by their partner.

  So thanks for the Archie Bunker check and all, but the girl is trying to find out if she is going to get into trouble here. Let's stay on topic. And by the way, I do plan to chain my son to the porch, since you are concerned about fairness.
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  What exactly is not allowed

  by Jdarley in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok, my bf is witness, and i am studying to become baptized.

  but he and i have sexual control issues that we are trying to work on.

  (we cant keep our hands off eachother and control our desires).

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  Check_Your_Premises

  Hey JD.

  I would concur with serendip's advice.

  I have two daughters.

  One movie scene I liked was in the Godfather. In one scene, when Michael was dating his future wife in old world Sicily he would walk with her. Then in the distance, they were followed by her female family members. The idea was to give some privacy, which is necessary in courtship, but also not leave the young couple at the mercy of their carnal desires.

  You can tell I have two daughters. I also tell my oldest she should let me pick her husband for her. For some reason she thinks that is dumb. I think if we compare my choice and hers 20 years after, we will both agree that mine was the better choice.

  Sorry. I have daughters.

  As to your question of what is or is not sin. Well I guess I would refer you to Matthew 5. The point Jesus is making there is that even if you have a list of what is and isn't allowed, you can still sin. The point is that sin is not the physical violation of a rule, it is a matter of falling short in your heart. Loving and desiring the wrong things. That is simply our nature. If we only needed to follow rules, we would only need a teacher. But our sin is in our nature. We need more then a teacher. We need a saviour.

  That is also why salvation can never come from following a list of rules. Salvation can only come through faith in Christ. If you could earn your salvation by following rules, Christ wouldn't have needed to be sacrificed. That is from Galatians. I can't remember which verses.

  God's law is written in your heart. Pray and ask Him if you are sinning. He is the one you need to be concerned about. Not some group of men.

  CYP
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  I am new to the forum!! Help!

  by Jdarley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have come to this website/forum looking for friendship and guidance along with a bit of support.

  i hope here i can learn more about jehovah.

  my family is soo against it, and i hope i can gain more knowledge here, for i am thirsty for it.

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  Also 100% of my family looks at it like a cult, and dont want me involved.

  Why do they think it is a cult? What is a cult anyway? I mean, before you could say the jw is a cult, you would have to know what a cult is.

  For instance, my sister was in Scientology. Now that is a cult. They don't even believe in Jehovah! Here is a neat link that talks about them and why they are a cult. The first part is boring, but there is a checklist below that explains some of the reasons they are a cult.

  http://www.xenu.net/archive/infopack/7.htm
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  I am new to the forum!! Help!

  by Jdarley in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have come to this website/forum looking for friendship and guidance along with a bit of support.

  i hope here i can learn more about jehovah.

  my family is soo against it, and i hope i can gain more knowledge here, for i am thirsty for it.

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  Check_Your_Premises

  Hey JD! Welcome to the forum.

  It is always so nice and encouraging to see young ones who yearn for and find Jehovah on their own. Sorry about your family situation. Maybe you could tell them about this forum. That way they could ask questions and get to understand what you are doing and why it is so important to you.

  There are some people who aren't jw here, or who used to be. Some folks will tell you to avoid such people because they are a danger to your faith.

  I guess that never made much sense to me. I figure if I have the truth, it should be able to stand up to any questions or scrutiny. Plus I want to know what people who don't believe in the truth think. That way I can find out the best ways to argue against them.

  So please stick around and let us get to know you better.

  CYP
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  NBC targets cults with brainwashing drama

  by Dogpatch in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know rick ross and this should be interesting.

  amy manchester is a christian and part of the project, and asks for prayer for this show.

  i hope they don't make it look like deprogramming is the "way to do it.

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  Check_Your_Premises

  Hope it goes well, and I hope they keep it reasonably accurate.

  THe big problem with drama is it has to be dramatic. I could see this being really cartoony. If they show JW's as raving lunatics for dramatic effect, then it will probably do more harm then good.

  On the other hand, if it really shows the subtlety of mind control as well as objective criteria for determining whether a cult is a cult based on how they behave, it could be really powerful and beneficial.

  I can't imagine that someone with RR anti-cult experience wouldn't consult it to the effect of helping vast numbers of people leave these groups and regain control over their lives.

  CYP
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  All right cut the crap.... why are we fighting over the Big News?

  by Check_Your_Premises in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  if the big news is legit, someone will file suit and win.. if it is the big snooze one of the above will not happen.

  nothing we do or say here will bear on the outcome of the above.

  if you think it is the big news, by all means promote it as such.

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  Check_Your_Premises

  I don't have a problem with the news. I do, however, have a problem with the sensationalizing of news for the purpose of manipulating people to some action. Particularly when the news itself is withheld while the masses are manipulated into an unreasonable frenzy.

  Even if the Big News is completely worthless, I don't believe the person who allegedly "sensationalized" and "manipulated" did so with that intention.

  I think it was only sensationalized if it is in fact worthless. If it has teeth then I don't think it was hyped ENOUGH!

  If it is worthless, the person who did the sensationalizing most certainly did so from what she thought was a well informed opinion.

  I certainly wouldn't want to discourage others from coming up with new and clever ways to hurt the WT by slandering the character of a person who is, at worst, legally naive.

  The thread that finally prompted me to write this thread was titled, "Can we trust Barbara Anderson?". Was that really fair or necessary or appropriate. If this is the Big Snooze, then that just means we got more work to do. "A" for effort Barbara!

  CYP
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  SERVICE REPORT 2005 : WATCHTOWER FEB 1ST 2006

  by BluesBrother in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i have had a quick look and found no references to this, so - here goes..as in the mag we picked up on sunday.. worldwide % increase over 2004 = 1.3%.

  memorial partakers 8524 (compared to 8570 in 2004).

  most european and nth american lands show pretty static figs - britain 1% increase, canada 0%, germany 0%, france 1%, usa 0%... but spare a thought for the inhabitants of zambia where 1 person in 90 is a reporting witness, must be hell going down to the local market!

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  Check_Your_Premises

  The reports from elders, COs and DOs is true... they really are loosing people faster than they are coming in. If they had more coming in than leaving then the number of Publishers Increase would be greater than the number baptized.

  Well you don't have to be baptized to be a publisher. So an increase in baptizims doesn't mean an one to one increase in publishers. Right?
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  What's the key to regular sex in a long-term relationship?

  by happysunshine in

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  well?

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  Check_Your_Premises

  Enter into a long term relationship with someone you really like having sex with.

  I always say in regards to my wife, "at least the org isn't sleeping with my wife".

  Of course they dictate what is allowed....
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  Anyone Seen The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe yet?

  by SWALKER in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i thought the photography was awesome and enjoyed the story.

  i loved the books when i was younger and i'm glad they finally made it into a movie.

  swalker.

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  Check_Your_Premises

  
  My wife won't see it because BigMother doesn't approve of it.

  I tried to explain to her that it is Christian allegory and that C.S. Lewis is about the most loved Christian apologist there is.

  BigMother doesn't approve.

  I told her actually, it isn't even really Christian allegory. It is more of a "supposal". Suppose God created other worlds, and one of those worlds was entered by man with all his sinful nature. Then how would God set that world to right. The rest is just a backdrop so kids will want to read it.

  She will probably watch it on dvd.

  It isn't that big of a deal or likely to open her eyes to the truth about BigMother. I just like it when she does things not approved by BigMother.

  CYP
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  RE: blood issue and media.

  by avishai in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please send letters to stephen bates requesting an article on this issue.

  many of you may not see immediately how important this matter is.

  beyond the other legal ramifications, i.e, the wts lying about secular info., intentional deception, etc., the blood issue is a huge one.

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  Check_Your_Premises

  the use of such statistics is completely irresponsible and detracts from a good message about reform on the issue.

  True, we don't have any such statistics. As a result, any attempt to come up with such statistics are speculation.

  One really neat way for such info to become publicly known fact is for someone to sue the WT over their bogus blood policy.

  I can't say if such a thing is feasible from a legal standpoint, and only time and events will tell.

  It sure would be neat to have that info made public.

  Why not make it public without the trial WT? Jesus said in John 3 that those who do good seek the light so their goodness can be seen, and only those who do evil seek the darkness. If you believe it WT, tell us how many brave JW have been willing to lay down their life.

  CYP