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If nothing changes after awhile, that is exactly the kind of attitude I will adopt. I am just not made for this kind of door-mat garbage. I don't put up with crap very well. And man-o-man am I putting up with some crap. I don't have to tell you folks. I have rationalized it for the time being, but some day I will just quit caring. The day my last kid graduates from highschool will be tough day for our marriage if she is still in.

MJ and I talk about how once we get our wives out, and they full realize the crap they put us through, and resources they wasted, ALL FOR NOTHING, we get to have an affair or start a drug habit or something.

What was that about love not keeping accounts?

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by Check_Your_Premises in

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a letter to my wife: .

i just want to say a few things to you.

i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

Check_Your_Premises

Jgnat,

I updated the last paragraph

"Maybe you don't know how to approach me. But all I want and all I have to know, is that my thoughts, feelings, and concerns are important to you. I would just like to hear you asking me, approaching me, trying to understand me. Otherwise, I will keep feeling alone in this. And I don't think I should feel that way. This is your marriage too."

Is that specific enough?

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by Check_Your_Premises in

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a letter to my wife: .

i just want to say a few things to you.

i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

Check_Your_Premises

I made it easy for her to be a Witness for years. There wasn't any cost to her for doing it. When it came to loosing her home and her meal ticket, Witnessism wasn't so important any more.

I think about the nuclear option sometimes. I know I make it to easy for her. She doesn't work. I did that before she was a witness so our kids wouldn't be in daycare. I do think how I sure make it easy to be a witness. What would she do if I pulled some rugs out from under her.

That is a big gamble though; It's a double edged sword.

The flip side is that persecution and endurance for the sake of the borg will make her more committed to the borg, and could wreck our marriage.

I will save that one for a later date.

CYP

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3 hour tour - my sd interrogation.

by wordlywife in

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my poor step-daughter went through what is called a jc meeting, 3 hours worth.

they have given her a week to decide before they df her.

she is only 18. gads.

Check_Your_Premises

Hey worldy. I haven't talked to you before. I read your story briefly.

It sounds like you have an opportunity with your jw man. He made a huge sacrifice to his status as a dub to marry you. You must be quite a woman! He got reinstated because he still has JW-itis. He know is under pressure again because his little girl is df.

I think you have a person who might be open to consideration that this might not be God's organization.

Have you talked to him to ask him if he has any doubts in that regard? He will likely say he has NO doubts. Ask him if he ever has had doubts and why.

If you smell any hesitation, you have an opportunity that you shouldn't let pass.

As Jgnat said, he is one life shaking experience to becoming fully immersed again.

Do you have Steven Hassans' book, Releasing the Bonds? It is a how to get 'em out of a cult book. Another one might be to ask him if he has ever considered reading Crisis of Conscience.

Just some ideas. I think it is in your best interest to help him leave. Despite your obvious womanly wiles, he will always be married to someone else until he does leave. I don't think that is what you want out of life is it?

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by Check_Your_Premises in

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a letter to my wife: .

i just want to say a few things to you.

i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

Check_Your_Premises

Thanks K!!!

I think about you all the time. Whenever I get down or think I have it bad, I think of the lonely decades you have experienced without any support like I have found on this board.

I hope you win the lottery or something. You deserve it!

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by Check_Your_Premises in

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a letter to my wife: .

i just want to say a few things to you.

i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

Check_Your_Premises

144001, said it just like it is . I was told when i wrote a simular letter how satan was working on me to make him fall away from everlasting life.

I hear you K. I am not asking her to leave. She will have to decide that on her own, with a shove and a nudge here and there .

All I am doing is asking her to talk to me and act like she gives a damn about how I feel about this. It is an appeal to decency.

CYP

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by Check_Your_Premises in

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a letter to my wife: .

i just want to say a few things to you.

i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

Check_Your_Premises

The majority of the time now she acquiests (sp), and go with me.

That is a great idea. What wife is going to let her husband go on vacation by himself!

"Honey, I am going to Vegas"

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by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

a letter to my wife: .

i just want to say a few things to you.

i am writing to you since we just don't get to talk enough.

Check_Your_Premises

I think the only things that keep these abusive Witness marriages going is denial. I been there and done it. I’d never do one more day with a Witness spouse.

Oh I hear you Gary. I have an extremely low tolerance for b.s. and I absolutely refuse in almost every instance to encourage or subsidize irrational behavior.

So why do I do it? Why am I here trying to figure all this stupid, delusional b.s.?

Well I have kids. If I don't try to help her leave, and I leave her, what good will that do them?

And I did make a vow to this woman. I guess I learned not to take it personal. It is like alcoholism or something. She needs my help. What kind of friend would I be if I just let these jack-asses have her without a fight. How could I look myself in the mirror.

I know at some point you have to live for yourself. It isn't that day yet.

CYP

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