AlanF,
I agree with other posters that you're not going to get very far with this.
Oh, don't worry I am going much farther than this. Only a few people here know how far I am truly going. This is only a mere skirmish in a much bigger war.
This is simple defense. I have laid a great deal of groundwork with my wife, because she is the prime objective. As she goes, the kids go. However, I have left an enemy in my rear area; the childrens silly brainwashing about other churches and the meetings. My wife doesn't give me a lot of greif about the meetings. It is the kids. The reason this needs to be dealt with is because I am trying to make our regular bible meetings positive and thought provoking. We simply read the Bible and I ask questions. The problem is they keep spouting wt garbage. In particular they clearly think I am some kind of sad, confused, misguided man for not going to all the meetings. I am going to soon institute some rules to our studies, namely if you say it is in the bible, it better be in the bible.
I enlisted my wife's help by pointing out to her that I am the head, and it doesn't make much sense for me to be in that role with the kids not respecting anything I say. I pointed out that nobody seems to mind how I provide and protect them. My opinion is just great when it comes to that stuff. No matter how bad someone considers me to be spiritually, nobody seems to think I can't be trusted and therefore offer to take over those jobs. For some reason no dubs offer to pay my mortgage since I am to stupid or prideful or immoral.
So if I am trustworthy enough to take care of those duties, I should be trustworthy enough to be the spiritual lead of my home. She agreed and has since spoken to them. I don't care if anyone agrees with anything I say, I just don't think it should be dismissed outright because I am not a witness. Keep in mind, my wife still possesses large portions of her mind.
So now I am simply giving them a biblical explanation of why I don't think a person has to go to all the meetings, it sure isn't in the Bible.
Don't worry. This isn't the only card I am playing!