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  pathetic

  by schne_belly in

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  isnt this just pathetic.

  i work for my father (a current jw) and we have some jw customers.

  since my recent fading, one particular customer, an elder, has come into work for business and then carried it further to encouraging me offering a hearing ear etc.

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  schne_belly

  I said that perhaps when I retire from working I'll try to renew the love I once felt for the religion.

  Doubtfully Yours...that is when you recieve the Big fat pension check from the society for all the years you've committed to them, right?!
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  What are the common traits of JWDers?

  by upside/down in

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  there is such a diverse cross section of humanity here.... yet despite all the many differences...we are here...and co-habit...to a degree.... why?.

  i'll start with what i see as "common traits"....

  ) disdain for the wts....

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  *We are more understanding and compassionate towards those that feel lost in the world since we were there/ are there, ourselves.

  *We don't judge people and are more humble since we don't have all the "answers" now.

  * We are more open to other people thoughts and ideas, even though we may not always agree. That is what the world is made of . Not some group of zombies.
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  pathetic

  by schne_belly in

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  2. experiences

  isnt this just pathetic.

  i work for my father (a current jw) and we have some jw customers.

  since my recent fading, one particular customer, an elder, has come into work for business and then carried it further to encouraging me offering a hearing ear etc.

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  schne_belly

  Good idea about telling him to contact my husband (who I believe Intimidates HIM) After all that is following their rules, him “being the spiritual head of my household” He really has no right talking to a "sister" alone!

  Thanks!
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  pathetic

  by schne_belly in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  isnt this just pathetic.

  i work for my father (a current jw) and we have some jw customers.

  since my recent fading, one particular customer, an elder, has come into work for business and then carried it further to encouraging me offering a hearing ear etc.

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  schne_belly

  Yes,

  I agree he probably is taking advantage of the fact that I work for my dad and he knows he can get away with this.

  However he has tried talking to my husband at his place of work too…. but just briefly. He knows not to push his buttons!

  Butt light, Regarding my boss finding out I go on JWD at work, he’s pretty computer illiterate, and so I don’t believe I have anything to worry about. I still make sure get my work done….so no fear!
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  pathetic

  by schne_belly in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  isnt this just pathetic.

  i work for my father (a current jw) and we have some jw customers.

  since my recent fading, one particular customer, an elder, has come into work for business and then carried it further to encouraging me offering a hearing ear etc.

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  schne_belly

  Isn’t this just pathetic….

  I work for my father (a current JW) and we have some JW customers. Since my recent fading, one particular customer, an elder, has come into work for business and then carried it further to “encouraging me” offering a hearing ear etc. At first I just thanked him, but he persisted and kept coming back. I finally got my co worker involved one day when I saw him pull up. I ran into the bathroom and told her to “ cover for me” I had to sit in the bathroom for 5 minutes while he told her he would wait for me . She offered to help him, but he said he needed to talk to me about a personal matter. He finally gave up and left… whew!

  I have this nervous feeling every time someone walks into the door though, thinking it’s him or another JW customer of ours. He stopped back today (I believe for business this time) because he let my co worker help him. I panicked though, and called my husband, pretending it was customer, so I appeared busy until he left… it worked. He left with just a wave goodbye. But I get nervous every time. This is MY space, how dare someone make me feel this way. I don’t know what to do. When he does get a chance to talk to me, it just ruins my whole day.

  I’ve tried talking to my dad (boss) about it, but of course since he’s a JW himself, he won’t say a word to this elder. I’ve tried preparing myself for future attacks by saying I don’t get paid to talk about personal things, so he can contact me at my house if necessary ( or course I wouldn’t answer the door or phone then) But I’m afraid… I still feel intimidated by him. It’s just ridiculous!
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  Hello...I'm sort of new!

  by calico in

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  i have posted a couple of times, so i guess i should introduce myself.

  i don't want to give out too many details as i am baptized and have not decided what i want to do.

  i've been fading for awhile--no one in my cong.

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  Welcome! I look forward to hearing more from you.

  I am in pretty much the same place in life as you right now. Just trying to fade peacefully ( if that is possible). You'll have your days here and there, some good some bad. It's all part of the healing process. This site really helps when you are feeling "high, on cloud 9" and also when you are feeling "down in the dumps" Everyone is eager to listen and offer advice.
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  A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

  by MrsBee in

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  i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

  well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

  i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

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  Welcome MRS BEE!

  And Congrats on the soon to be "little bee" . Wishing you the best with your delivery.

  Keep us posted on how things are going with your husband.
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  My mom's being told to shun me.

  by GetBusyLiving in

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  those goofy bastards are up to their old tricks again.

  some background: i disassociated a year ago and explained why i was leaving to my mom, who agreed with me and told me that she's been thinking of leaving the dubs for nearly ten years.

  she's been inactive for the past year and happier than ever.

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  GBL

  You are so fortunate that your mom loves you and is thinking for herself. This should prove to her as one more example of how wacky they really are.

  My paretns are both still "IN" and even though they promise they will always love me and never disown me, I fear that the dubs may continue to work on them to cut contact with me (atleast to some extent).... I tell myself that won't happen. Howevever, they can have a powerful impact when you aren't seeing clearly.....

  Best wishes to you and your mom....
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  New to this site

  by tnthell in

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  wow,,, finaly a site that can let a disgraesed and disfellowshipped jw finally, have there say, i had the jw's hanging over my head for years and senior members of my family drop in and out of the sect as and when it suits them, dragging any remaiming members with.

  im now free and relived so are you too, .

  and im probably kinder and non racial than those left in, and i dont live under a shadow of fear, or wear a flowery dress, or high neck tops and granny shoes,.

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  WELCOME!!!

  Hope to hear more about your story soon. We are all here to listen and learn from eachother....and are always happy to add one more to our "cyber family"
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  Its Monday.......................

  by defd in

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  what does the week hold?

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  schne_belly

  And to answer your ? Yes I would love for kwin to strengthen himself spritually. He wont do it by coming here and BAD TALKING God and HIS Organization.

  Defd---one question for you,

  If you feel that way about Kwin how come you are here "associating" with him?( and the rest of us too for that matter) Remember..... " bad association spoils useful habits"....