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  Pro Gun Florida mom shot by 4 year old son

  by Witness 007 in

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  loaded gun under her car seat was picked up off the floor and the kid shot her in the back...the day before on facebook she boasted about his shooting skills.

  what is wrong with this picture?

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  besty

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2PlcyteQi0
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  Why Were / Are the Best Rock Bands British?

  by berrygerry in

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  so, roger daltrey and pete townshend were on jimmy fallon tonight as the who.. without disrespect to others, i would put the top 5 rock bands, not necessarily in order, as:.

  led zeppelin.

  pink floyd.

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  besty

  all from London (except for the Fab 4 of course)...
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

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  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  @scared and lonely - I'm from the UK - London specifically :-) on this thread I can vouch for cofty jookbeard katewild dozy and freddo all from the UK and are just some of the good guys on the board. ignore the self-appointed "I call troll-ers" - they are a broken clock and are in fact correct twice a day on average. They have said the same thing plenty before. who cares.

  PM me if you want. don't bother revealing anything else that could identify you. there are people here in the UK who have been DF'd based on what they have posted.

  Paul.
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  Do you think JWN members would be surprised if they got to know you in real life?

  by nicolaou in

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  2. friends

  i don't think you'd recognise me much at all.

  i'm a royal mail postman, i love my job for the early starts and midday finish, the outdoors and the exercise.. i get on with people but i'm quite insular and don't enjoy crowds.

  i'm happiest when i've fired up the charcoal and i'm making souvlaki or adana kebabs for my family and a few close friends.

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  besty

  waves to Nic :-) we should do another meetup...
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  Kinda Sad Re: Cart "Witnessing"

  by Captain Schmideo2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  slightly redacted for privacy of those involved.. so, this is "park witnessing" in oklahoma.. the parks in this community are basically walking trails and some tatty playground equipment.

  most of the time, sparsely used, and today was a very blustery day.. notice the justifying comment- "quite a few" checking out the cart.

  i am sure they were..... .

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  besty

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkTb9GP9lVI
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  My Story

  by Freeandclear in

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  just thought i'd introduce myself and share my story.

  up front, i'm not bitter.

  okay now that that's out the way..... i first heard "the truth" when i was about 14 years old from a friends mom who was studying.

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  besty

  thanks for putting your thoughts down - that can help you and others a lot.

  best of luck!
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  New Field Service Report

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has anyone seen this?

  when did that happen?.

  http://www.jw-archive.org/post/137681838624/new-service-report-jwinspirational.

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  besty

  It can't count how many times that videos that have been downloaded onto a device, and then played from the device, are played.
  

  it can't be beyond the wit of man to create an app that *could* do this
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  New Field Service Report

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has anyone seen this?

  when did that happen?.

  http://www.jw-archive.org/post/137681838624/new-service-report-jwinspirational.

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  presumably their app could capture video showings and digital downloads accurately without the pubs having to report it?

  control much?
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  My Story "Act 2"

  by MarkofCane in

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  “it has been said, 'time heals all wounds.

  ' i do not agree.

  the wounds remain.

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  besty

  Hi Mark - thanks for sharing with us. Although the theme is depressingly familiar, your particular screenplay is well written!

  How to get your wife out is a topic all of its own...
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  New here

  by MarkofCane in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello and thanks to everyone for participating on this forum it has really been of much value, for those of you that post here know that your words are not lost you never know who is reading your expressions, lives are being changed and nonsense challenged.

  i’m not much of a writer so excuse my untrained writing style and grammar but i want to share my story to help anyone who is visiting here to see that we are real people, fathers, mothers, sons and daughters who have come here for answers, there is no agenda, just searching for truth.

  i hope my story will help others as so many here have helped me..

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  besty

  Welcome to the forum MOC, and to the rest of your life :-) Right now you are still a JW, sometime soon you will be an ex-JW and eventually hopefully you can graduate to ex-ex-JW. And then you won't be on this forum so much...

  But for now, in my experience (most of it on here somewhere) the big things are:

  1 - make sure to know that most people on here are supportive (sometimes misguided, mistaken and misspelt so take it all with a pinch of salt),

  2 - that you have time to plan and make the best moves for you and your family. Try and treat it as a game you will win, and try not to be too rash, difficult though that is.

  3 - do not worry about 'what' to believe next - you have plenty of time to figure that out - it's ok to give yourself permission to accept that now you don't know the answer to some of the bigger questions, and also to accept that you might never know. In short, don't rush towards an alternative belief system. It's one of the big advantages of the Internet that the only exit door from JW'ism is no longer manned by Evangelicals. Atheists/agnostics have a different door you can choose to walk through.

  4 - Give yourself permission to accept that many of your life choices so far are not your fault. You have been brainwashed in a cult and are starting a journey to recovery towards a more standard way of thinking. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. :-)

  5 - Accept that you will eventually be shunned by some, whether you are disfellowshipped or not. There is no honourable way to leave this religion. That's the way it has been set up against you by others. In time, think carefully about fading versus being disfellowshipped. There is no right answer for your circumstances, particularly not from strangers on a web forum. (You may decide that your time on this planet is not a dress rehearsal and that the inevitable years of deception to possibly maintain conditional friends and family is not worth it for you). Consider carefully how much longer and to what extent your life will be ruled by 7 grey men in grey suits from a grey office block in Brooklyn.

  6 - Post any/all of your thoughts and questions on here. I have never seen a decent question not get a bunch of answers.

  Wishing you the best of luck, you will need it.

  Paul

  PS www.jwfacts.com is the best resource for unravelling the doctrines and claims of of JW's, and was instrumental in helping me get my wife out with me.