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  Was told I was not progressing!

  by Overrated in

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  you're doing everything you can, meeting attendance, field circus, helping out where you can and you are told your not progressing!?!

  as anyone had that happen to them in the "trooth "?.

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  LongHairGal

  OVERRATED:

  So..you are doing all the wonderful things expected of a JW..but yet somebody tells you that ‘you are not making progress’?🙄

  Maybe as someone said, somebody is jealous. It was my observation that JWs are very petty and jealous. Also, whatever you do is never enough.

  I wonder: Did somebody privately go around with an envelope asking for money for somebody there..and maybe you refused politely because you couldn’t do it? IMO, Witnesses think you should throw money around like confetti, especially if you are perceived to be doing better than other people there.

  If you have covered all the bases and still can’t think of anything..just dismiss it from your mind. And, whatever you do, never go up to that person/elder and ask ‘how am I doing?’

  Don’t even concern yourself!
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  Not invited to congregation “get togethers”. They finally said it

  by solomon in

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  we don’t get many invitations to congregational social gatherings.

  we don’t attend midweek meetings and miss about 1/3 of sunday meetings.

  we go in service at least once a month.

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  INCOGNITO:

  Yes, you are right that being treated as ‘unworthy’ 🙄 made it much easier to leave.

  My ‘Fade’ was relatively easy because I was on the fringes of the congregation. I had a decent job and was looked down upon because I refused to quit it.. I was resented as an independent woman..These affluent older busybodies tried to get ME to pursue poverty working part-time housecleaning and being in the full-time ministry. Thankfully, I didn’t buy this nonsense and am Retired.

  What possible benefit would it be today if somebody foolishly caved into pressure to pioneer all those years ago..just so that they would be invited and people would ‘like’ them??..Answer? No benefit whatsoever. I’m glad I stuck to my guns back then!
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  Watchtower More Important than the Scriptures

  by Vanderhoven7 in

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  2. bible

  mack moore ex-jw recovery writes:.

  yes, that is how they want people to esteem the magazine.

  they believe it is the unique mouthpiece of god.

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  VANDERHOVEN7:

  He’s SO right.

  I always felt the altered bible they have is really just a prop they reach for once in a while to make it look good..

  And, incidentally, those so-called ‘bible studies’ JWs have with new recruits are really literature studies. To be blunt, I considered them indoctrination sessions to show how things are ‘done’.
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  Are you less judgmental after you became ex JW?

  by Iamallcool in

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  any takers?

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  LongHairGal

  NIKOLAUS:

  Yes, you are correct and it is regardless of what side of the political spectrum they are on in addition to their attitudes towards current events and trends!

  Just human nature, I suppose.
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  Are you less judgmental after you became ex JW?

  by Iamallcool in

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  any takers?

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  LongHairGal

  PETE ZAHUT:

  You are absolutely 100% correct about ‘pursuing goals based on a false premise’ and also ‘NOT being responsible for saving/ enlightening the whole world’. Also, about ‘Gods personal happiness and the fate of the whole world was not revolving around you and your minuscule life’…You hit the nail right on the head.

  That’s what is drilled into the heads of JWs. Can you think of anything that could be more mental-illness inducing than having a mindset like this?? I can’t. This is all too much for a human being.

  When I finally saw the ‘light’, I realized I was not responsible for the fate of the world or whether other people were saved, preached to or cared about God. Who, then, was responsible for me? This is all designed to keep JWs on a treadmill with no rest mentally or physically, constantly neurotic and worried and guilt tripped, etc.

  When I began my ‘Fade’ and took a good look at people around me, I realized they were all living their lives. Whether I wasted precious years knocking myself out in vain following ‘somebody else’s agenda’, the world would still go on oblivious to whatever sacrifice I supposedly made..I know I wasn’t as zealous as other JWs (since I worked to support myself), but plenty of other JWs were!
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  How did you feel after writing a Disassociation letter?

  by Iamallcool in

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  i might do it one day.

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  LAMALLCOOL:

  Over the years there have been very many discussions on this forum about this topic. I’m sure in the future there will be more since this question comes up every now and then.

  There are two schools of thought. Either a person does a ‘Fade’ or they ‘Disassociate’. Both are correct in the sense one is not more ‘right’ than the other. It depends entirely on the circumstances of the persons involved. I can see the reasons for both. I have always admired those who have written a DA letter and especially admire those who are able to do it like the poster JEFF above. Others choose to ‘Fade’ because they have JW family or friends.

  What’s sad is when some people DA (possibly because they acted rashly) and sound angry at people who do a ‘Fade’, imagining they are getting away with something or have it ‘easy’.

  Nowadays, people who ‘Fade’ are shunned almost the same as a DFd person. It’s not like years ago.
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  Is it okay for JW to work for Df’d person?

  by Iamallcool in

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  any takers?.

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  EVER APOSTATE:

  Yes, they have no idea what life is like in the Real world and so they make flippant statements along these lines.

  Nowadays, as most know, it’s not easy to even get or keep a job.. If anybody is fool enough to imagine they can just quit a job like it was nothing and imagine that another suitable one will just come along, I can’t even feel sorry for that person.. I also felt this way about gullible individuals in the past who were guilt tripped over attending district conventions when they couldn’t get the time off from work.

  Anybody who lost their jobs over this surely learned the hard way!!
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  You're DISFELLOWSHIPPED, Please---DON'T CONTACT US, Until You Return to Jehovah's Organization!

  by pistolpete in

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  i just heard this story from one of my relatives.

  i'm leaving a lot of things out.. a jw couple had three kids and raised them in the religion.

  the oldest one got disfellowshipped at 18 years of age because he committed fornication with a jw girl.

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  FISHERMAN:

  Do you realize how tricky you sound when you say this? It’s like them saying ‘something is not a lie if a person isn’t entitled to the truth’.🙄

  Is something really subjective if it is well known to have happened? The JW religion has knocked college/careers for decades and labeled people who got them as ‘unspiritual’.. Nowadays they’re asking for money and targeting people perceived as ‘responsible’ to give money in many instances for people who never wanted to work. This is hypocritical because it is saying one thing and doing something else.

  A better example of a ‘subjective’ opinion would be if somebody says so-and-so is immodest in their dress. Because this isn’t a fact and the person might be perceived differently by different people.

  What I said in my post is totally correct, even if you chose to ignore it: the religion denies to outsiders about their shunning and tries to present a different face to the public; and also hides this stand from potential members.

  Again, I would never have joined if I knew all the hidden things about the religion. It just so happens I have no family there and never had to deal with family shunning me..But this is a tragedy nonetheless regardless of whether the misguided individuals involved aren’t ‘breaking the law’ per se.
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  You're DISFELLOWSHIPPED, Please---DON'T CONTACT US, Until You Return to Jehovah's Organization!

  by pistolpete in

  1. watchtower
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  i just heard this story from one of my relatives.

  i'm leaving a lot of things out.. a jw couple had three kids and raised them in the religion.

  the oldest one got disfellowshipped at 18 years of age because he committed fornication with a jw girl.

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  FISHERMAN:

  The problem is JW standards are hypocritical.

  Yes, you say they have the ‘right’ to Df or shun. But, don’t hide it or be hypocritical about it. I cannot stand hypocrisy which is why I’m not there anymore. Another Example: They knocked people for having decent jobs..but have the audacity (and hypocrisy) to ask these same people for money to give to people there who never wanted to work!! Glad I’m not around this!

  They deny to outsiders that they practice shunning and breaking up of families. They want to present a different face to the public. They keep things hidden from prospective ‘bible studies’ who may not have joined the religion if they knew the Real story. I am one such person and could have saved myself wasted time years ago.. But, thankfully, I pulled myself out of this trap.
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  Did you encounter any dishonest/shady business owners inside your local Kingdom Hall?

  by RULES & REGULATIONS in

  1. watchtower
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  the watchtower—study edition | december 2021.

  7 a merchant might take pride in the fact that he had never taken anything that did not belong to him.

  but what about his business practices?

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  OVERRATED:

  I just had a conversation similar to this with two JWs that I know from years ago.

  We compared stories of crooked dealings and horror stories we heard about. Sadly, they are far TOO many for a religion that purports to be the so-called ‘truth’!..I am convinced the ugly culture there has contributed to this.

  My question was: do the beliefs of the religion make people believe they can get away with doing anything to their so-called brothers? OR, does the fact the religion knocks education and careers and anybody falling for it ends up poor, desperate and angry, thus imagining they are ‘entitled’ to freebies and special treatment from anybody they think is better off than they are?.. Answer: I believe it’s a combination of both.

  Mind you, JWs are in the predicament they are in because they listened to bad advice..I sure as hell wasn’t the one to tell them to pursue poverty and not get decent jobs! Since I was knocked for working full time, I was determined to WARN young JWs that they better look out for their future!