Posts by LongHairGal

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What's the Worst Advice You Heard of an Elder Giving Someone?

by Sea Breeze in

jw
friends

i believe an an elder told someone who's daughter (14 yo) became sexually active with a 26 year old in the neighborhood, that maybe they should get married.

so, they did... with parental consent.

he turned out to be a ex-convict who shot his first wife in the face with a shotgun.

LongHairGal

DIOGENESISTER:

What I observed were that all the older JWs in the congregations were either collecting their pensions or about to…..Quite obviously THEY were in the workforce- so why would I not be.

But, all the older comfortable JWs were pushing poverty to us young baby boomers. (Apparently, nobody’s conscience ever bothered them.) And this was the early ‘80s not pre-75.. There was a frenzy to pioneer all pushed by the elders.. It was like a virus and everybody caught it but me. Again, the elders pushing this were well-off.

Even though I was scoffed at (to my face) and not invited places, something held me back and I just could not bring myself to do this. Maybe it was my non-JW upbringing and being in the working world and seeing how ‘normal’ people lived that stopped me. Who knows? I just know that I am ever so Grateful today that I never listened to these fools years ago!

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What's the Worst Advice You Heard of an Elder Giving Someone?

by Sea Breeze in

jw
friends

i believe an an elder told someone who's daughter (14 yo) became sexually active with a 26 year old in the neighborhood, that maybe they should get married.

so, they did... with parental consent.

he turned out to be a ex-convict who shot his first wife in the face with a shotgun.

LongHairGal

HOPELESS1 & DIOGENESISTER:

Thanks. These comments are amazing and truly show the tragedies that happen when people relinquish their will and follow the direction of high control groups. This includes areas of education/careers and also domestic issues. This is nobody’s business!

I was shocked when I read that the Witness religion did away with time slips at their annual meeting.. I was super Glad I never listened and realized it was worth it to have been shunned/excluded from gatherings and special dinners years ago! 😉 Maybe I can credit my non-Witness upbringing for saving me in the end.

People in the religion who already have a career, wealth/education under their belt but push a life of poverty on some naive young person - are among the worst, in my opinion!

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What's the Worst Advice You Heard of an Elder Giving Someone?

by Sea Breeze in

jw
friends

i believe an an elder told someone who's daughter (14 yo) became sexually active with a 26 year old in the neighborhood, that maybe they should get married.

so, they did... with parental consent.

he turned out to be a ex-convict who shot his first wife in the face with a shotgun.

LongHairGal

Like some comments here, the remarks made to me pertained to my occupation.

I wasn’t born-in but came into the JWs already with a full-time job.

My study teacher tried her darndest to get me to quit and it was suggested that I should take up housecleaning.. I said ‘no way’ and was insulted for doing so. This self-righteous old lady probably didn’t think very highly of me as a ‘worldly’ young woman.. My dress was highly scrutinized.

Anyway, my refusal to follow intrusive and unwanted advice led to me being soft/shunned.. I ended up going to another congregation which was somewhat better but the same general attitude against full-time work (by women anyway) still persisted.. I let the criticism roll off my back like water off a duck. I ended up Fading after the 1995 Generation teaching… Thank God I resisted these people or it could have ruined my life.

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Apostate lies are NOW fulfilling BIBLE PROPHECY 😅

by raymond frantz in

the new study article 28 watchtower that has just been published on jw.org is about apostate lies and introduces new concepts in their effort to compat apostasy in the congregations.

so despite the loosening of their recent disfellowshipping rules their fight against apostates is still raging hard.

according to the foreword of this article, they will concentrate on :.

LongHairGal

COLORADO GAL:

Welcome to the forum! I agree with everything you said in your post.

I also agree that the recent changes are about control. I wasn’t much concerned about the beards and dress thing.. It was them doing away with the counting time/slip…This was a measuring stick to categorize people in congregations as to who was ‘spiritual’ and worthy of associating with.👎 Well, I am Glad I kept my full-time job until retirement!

Like you, I also observed that they ignored single parent women and even single women in general.. All they wanted them for was to do favors, to which I said No.. If they could knock me for working, they could take a hike.

As you observed, many have walked away from the JW religion and I’m Glad to be one of them.

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New lawsuit against the Watchtower in Ontario, Canada

by yalbmert99 in

the new class action lawsuit against the watchtower for having covered up child sexual abuse will begin in court on may 13-14-15, 2024 in the province of ontario, canada.

it is not the same as in the province of quebec because the laws aren't the same.

i don’t have more details.

LongHairGal

MAGNUM:

I am curious as I don’t really know you personally - just the posts you have made on here.

This OP seems to be about CSA lawsuits. Would the case you hinted at be referring to that topic? Or, would it have to do with something else - maybe being a pioneer (who technically worked for the religion) your whole life and reached retirement age totally unprepared?.. If that is the case I suppose there would be many thousands of rather upset Witnesses both current and former who fall into this category!

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Visiting old churches

by moley in

when i was a jw i did and still enjoy visiting old churches and cathedrals because of the history and amazing architecture of these wonderful old buildings.

a sister in my old congregation regaled us with a story of a visit to the tower of london and walking up this crowded narrow staircase only to discover it led to an old chapel.

the way she described her horror at almost entering you would have thought they were doing human sacrifices.

LongHairGal

MOLEY:

I certainly did and those centuries old churches/cathedrals in Europe are so wonderful.

I remember the opulence in Rome with St. Peter’s and also the magnificent gloom of Winchester Cathedral in England. Very old, almost a thousand years.. I think I was more impressed with this place and remember the tour guide pointing out large urns or containers of relics on an elevated area. I remember the name King Canute(?) being mentioned as one of the persons whose relics were there.

In those early days of being a JW, I remembered the scripture about Babylon the Great and the “dwelling place of every unclean and hated bird”. I wondered to myself if it pertained to this place because it had the right atmosphere. But, I loved it and it’s great that they take pains to preserve this part of their culture and early history from the days of William the Conqueror!

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So Let's Say Bigger Change Happens

by peacefulpete in

if a change in the blood policy happens, who will be more upset, jws or former jws?

i suspect the latter.

when the beard thing went down, jw's seem to immediately embrace it, whereas many former jw's have been brooding about it.. did it take away a pet gripe we had?.

LongHairGal

PEACEFUL PETE;

No offense , but you are waaay off! 🤣

My interest in the Witnesses is solely as a spectator.

What in the world would how JWs are supposedly ‘judged’ now mean anything to me?? You gotta be kidding.. This sounds like something a still-in person would say.

I am not living as a ‘refugee’ as you so comically suggest. 🤣🤣🤣 A refugee implies somebody who supposedly has ‘no home’. I never even felt ‘at home’ in that religion.. My home is very firmly placed in the real world - which was where I came from before I made the blunder of setting foot inside of JWs.

Peace out.

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So Let's Say Bigger Change Happens

by peacefulpete in

if a change in the blood policy happens, who will be more upset, jws or former jws?

i suspect the latter.

when the beard thing went down, jw's seem to immediately embrace it, whereas many former jw's have been brooding about it.. did it take away a pet gripe we had?.

LongHairGal

PEACEFUL PETE:

Yes, it would be former Witnesses who are upset or shocked over changes in the religion.

There is a very good reason:..most former Witnesses have regained critical thinking and can see the hypocrisy and injustice…Whereas, unfortunately, too many current JWs are in the deep sleep of denial and don’t give these changes a second thought.

When I heard the change at their annual meeting that R&F no longer needed to count time or submit a slip - I, being long-Out, was shocked. I was judged over this issue because I worked… But, I am ever so Happy that I never listened to all those Witness critics years ago!

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JWmatch dating site

by sspo in

after my divorce four years and still attending the meetings i joined jwmatch.com as a non-paying member, eventually.

after i stopped going to meetings i wrote on my profile that i was inactive and after four years i have 63 "fans"...... sisters.

interested in me, from all over the world, as young as 29 and very pretty.. it looks like the sisters are so desperate for a mate that they would be interested in almost a 58 year old man.. very sad that many will stay single and will never have a chance to find love.. anyone interested in meeting them?

LongHairGal

BALAAMSASS2:

I am sorry about any JW woman who didn’t get married because she wouldn’t look outside the religion for a man. It’s too bad they are broke as you say…no doubt because they wouldn’t be caught dead in a full-time job like I had.

I was not raised a JW but came in as a young working woman. My impression of Witness men was that all the ‘good’ ones were taken. Most single men there seemed ‘odd’ or were momma’s boys. A few might have shown interest but they weren’t for me…. (Perhaps another reason I was disliked in the gossip mill.)…

Even in the ‘world’ nowadays it is hard for women to find a man they want.

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JWmatch dating site

by sspo in

after my divorce four years and still attending the meetings i joined jwmatch.com as a non-paying member, eventually.

after i stopped going to meetings i wrote on my profile that i was inactive and after four years i have 63 "fans"...... sisters.

interested in me, from all over the world, as young as 29 and very pretty.. it looks like the sisters are so desperate for a mate that they would be interested in almost a 58 year old man.. very sad that many will stay single and will never have a chance to find love.. anyone interested in meeting them?

LongHairGal

WAS A NEW BOY:

I doubt if those particular posters even post on the forum anymore. But, thanks for reviving this thirteen year-old thread.

I feel sorry for the African American sister you mentioned who you say got ‘taken by a Nigerian’ on a dating site.

Strangely,.. I once came across a Facebook profile of a young African American woman who placed a banner on her profile that said: “NO AFRICANS I’M NOT INTERESTED”.

To be honest, I would be scared to go on dating sites... The idea of having to peel the layers of mystery of some stranger is not appealing.. As a poster above humorously said: “On the internet anyone can be a woman (or man).” …But, I would never judge other people who feel they want to take a chance to do this… Good luck.