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But I've come to realize that a big part of all this, perhaps even the biggest part, is that I was never "given" those emotional tools to begin with--not insofar as that the WTS denied them to me, but because my parents (especially my father), were unable to give to me what they themselves did not have. They've told me that themselves, and apologized...though my response, and my feeling now is, that they can't be blamed for not giving me something that they didn't have in themselves. Nevertheless, the combination of being raised a JW and being raised by "defective" parents combined to make me what I am today: severely emotionally deficient (if you take my meaning).

To this I relate. I felt that so much about learning the "social ropes" in various circumstances, be it at work, with friends or in romantic relationships, had to be done on my own with no guidance from the parental units and a lingering emotional handicap from dub life. Of course, some things you learn the hard way and all this was amplified upon exiting the org and entering the real world. Not uncommon here no doubt.

I hated them and the dubs for a long time, blamed them for leaving me at the bus stop with no change, lol. A turning point was when I realized that I can no longer blame them for what I am now. Same for the dubs. This is my life and I make the choices. They both made me in many ways but I am now more than that, closer to the person I want to be. And I like me. Imperfect jerk that I am,....;-)

I know they did their best to the best of their ability and knowledge. They did better for me than their parents did for them by far (won't go into that here) but suffice it to say they had strength and character enough to survive and prosper, relatively. And my trip is not that much different from theirs was. Ahh, the circle of life, sins of the father, etc. Much of what I am is due to them and I attribute the good traits now instead of the bad. I own both of course. And they're no better or worse than me. Misguided perhaps, but human all the same. And I love them, even if we don't agree on stuff.

Anyways. I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. Just sayin' I kinda know where you're coming from.

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CAN YOU IDENTIFY YOUR EMOTIONS accurately???

by Terry in

many people don't know why they "feel" what they feel.

they fall in love with the wrong person.

they cry unexpectedly.

Twitch

Good post, Terry.

The stronger I feel about something, the more attention I pay as to why that is. There must be a reason. I don't suppress them as I did as a dub. I no longer let my emotions rule me to do as I willed in the moment, as was the case after I left. I seem to prefer the middle ground between realizing/owning my emotions and rationally balancing them out with reason and my experience, in a way.

Life without emotion would be dull indeed. :-)

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Today is my one year anniversary

by Abandoned in

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Congrats!

You're a stronger man than I,....;-)

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Things YOU eat, that other people think is weird.

by misanthropic in

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this mornings events have got me thinking about things.

i love peanut butter, not the sweet kind but i like the old fashioned peanut butter, usually laura scudder's with no sugar or preservatives - it just tastes better imo.

i put it on everything including pancakes which are really good with peanut butter and maple syrup.

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Crow

It's served to me from time to time, but I don't recommend it,......

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What is Hell

by Mrs Smith in

is the jw teaching on hell correct or is there a real hell fire?

has anyone done some research on this.

this is one bible topic i just can't get my head around.

Twitch

What is Hell?

Been there, bought the t-shirt, took pictures, roasted marshmallows,.......:-)

I like so many, have felt times when there seemed like there was no light in the world, that I was alone and that all is essentially hopeless. Especially at times when your world is torn apart, you don't know which way is up or who you really are. Everything you thought you knew is not the case and you don't know what to do. Emotions run rampant or don't exist at all or both. You may feel on the edge of losing your sanity, peering into the "abyss" of reality without the safety net of belief in self. This is a sort of hell, at least has been in my experience. But in those times was forged stronger things needed to reinvent myself, belief that I will get through this and do what needs to be done. And I don't believe I'm alone.

As for some spiritual place where you reside in pain for eternity, i leave it to the scholars and/or the believers,.....;-)

PS Reminds me of a lyric, "You've seen me at my worst and it won't be the last time I'm down there"

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Big Screen TV: LCD or Plama? Which Brand?

by UnConfused in

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anyone with personal experience concerning big screen tv's?

Twitch

5th

You're watching standard TV on a widescreen/HD, right? You're seeing the image fill the monitor side to side thus losing the top and bottom, no? Your monitor is zooming in to fill the screen. Your can change it to see TV normally but the sides of the screen will be blank (not wide) or see everything but see it stretched side to side to fill the sceen. Surf the menus,....

Hope it helps.

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Big Screen TV: LCD or Plama? Which Brand?

by UnConfused in

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anyone with personal experience concerning big screen tv's?

Twitch

Regardless of which technology you choose, options for scaling the various aspect ratios can be important; entry level models will not have many. Aspect ratio is a ratio of the screen's width to height. A quick primer for the uninitiated;

1.33 or 4:3 = standard TV and computer monitors

1.78 or 16:9 = HD format monitors

1.85 = 35 mm US and UK widescreen standard for theatrical film.

2.35 = 35 mm anamorphic from 1970 onwards. (won't go into anamorphic here :-)

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Comparison of three common aspect ratios constrained by the screen diagonal size (the black circle). The rectangular box (blue, 2.39:1) and middle box (green, 16:9) are common formats for cinematography. The box with sides of similar length (red, 4:3) is the format used in standard television. Courtesy of wikipedia and its entry on aspect ratios.

These are the most common aspect ratios but the history of cinema is peppered with variations on the format depending on when the movie was shot and which lenses and film processing they used. You will notice this more or less when renting DVDs from different eras. Computer sources have standardized resolutions at 1.33 but sport variations on the main themes. This is where the scaling or zoom function comes in handy; it'll give you the option to watch the DVD "letterboxed" at full width or crop the sides filling the screen top to bottom for movies shot in a higher ratio. You could "stretch" the standard 1.33 TV signal to fill the HD monitor side to side, with the obvious stretching of the content, watch it at 1.33 thus not using the sides of the monitor or cropping the top and bottom of the image thus filling the monitor side to side. Confused yet? Ask for the remote before you buy :-)

How much image you want onscreen becomes a matter of personal preference.

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Big Screen TV: LCD or Plama? Which Brand?

by UnConfused in

jw
friends

anyone with personal experience concerning big screen tv's?

Twitch

A couple thoughts

Plasma is susceptible to "burn-in" meaning that if you leave the same image up a lot, it will leave a permanent residual "ghost" image. This is a concern especially if planning to hook up a computer or video games. Some models will have an electronic image "shifter" or some such term for a slightly and essentially imperceptable rotation of the image to alleviate this somewhat. Plasmas can also be "flushed" or "recharged" in a way that will fix a burn but the jury's out on that one and the service will cost you. Limited life span is expected but the color rendition is superb for video at the expense of some digital image clarity compared to LCD. There is no noticable problems with pixilated images at larger sizes unlike LCD. They're heavey and they get hot.

FYI

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book: What the Bible Really Teaches - help

by found-my-way in

i have been told to study this book with a sister so that i may can be indoctrinatedadjusted according to bullshitaccurate knowledge.. i dont have this book, nor do i remember reading it, or studying it, just wanted a head's up from those of you who may have it, or know where i can read a copy of it online...any help is really appreciated.. thank you in advance!.

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Twitch

good ol' denial.

It's not just a river in Egypt,......:-)