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  recommended reading

  by Chia in

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  i haven't read as much as i would like to, so i'd like to catch up on some reading, especially relating to female ex-jws.

  i'm going to order "out of the cocoon" today.

  has anyone read "the truth book" by joy castro, and if so, what should i expect from it?.

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  Chia

  Excellent, thank you. I will look into it. I'm always looking for something interesting to read.
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  recommended reading

  by Chia in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i haven't read as much as i would like to, so i'd like to catch up on some reading, especially relating to female ex-jws.

  i'm going to order "out of the cocoon" today.

  has anyone read "the truth book" by joy castro, and if so, what should i expect from it?.

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  Chia

  I haven't read as much as I would like to, so I'd like to catch up on some reading, especially relating to female ex-JWs.

  I'm going to order "Out of the Cocoon" today. Has anyone read "The Truth Book" by Joy Castro, and if so, what should I expect from it?

  Also, if anyone has any reading suggestions, JW or non-JW related, I would appreciate it!
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  Mom Died -- and I found out from an old friend!

  by BrendaCloutier in

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  ok, i'm writing this thru tears as i just found out in the last 5 minutes.

  my dad died in august, and they had been together just 1 or 2 weeks over 70 years married!

  i didn't expect her to last without him, and visa versa.. i just tried to call my sister, and no answer there.

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  Chia

  Oh, God. Oh, I'm so sorry. This is horrible...I suspect I will receive the same treatment.

  I wish I could hug you.
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  Did you ever think you'd stop being one of Jehovah's Witnesses?

  by sandy in

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  2. experiences

  i'm sure this question has been asked before .

  i've come a long way in my thinking.

  a very long way!

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  Chia

  You know, I have to say, yes. I did think I wouldn't be a Witness. I mean, I technically still am, but I always envisioned myself going inactive, not preaching. When I was younger I wanted to be a missionary, but as I got older and more and more was expected of me, I started to dread preaching. I knew I didn't want to go door to door anymore...and I mentally planned my escape. I figured I'd marry a "weak" brother who was open to doing fun things, and he'd be my reason for becoming inactive.

  Didn't exactly happen that way, but I'm out nonetheless!
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  Long time, no talk

  by Chia in

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  it's been quite a while since i last posted.

  i thought i would update everyone on my progress.

  this year has been better than last.

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  Chia

  Hello everyone!

  It's been quite a while since I last posted. I thought I would update everyone on my progress. This year has been better than last. I'm finally somewhat stable. I've been at my current job for 10 months, and I've lived in my apartment since July. After having moved 9 times in the past 2 years, it's nice to finally be stable! Even so, I've experienced a lot of ups and downs, especially relationship wise. It's been so hard for me to shake my Witness mentality. I was always concerned with what people thought of me, and wanting to make people happy that I sacrificed my own happiness. I still do that, except now that I'm in "the real world" people take me for granted all the time. I feel like I've been chewed up and spit out.

  The good thing is that I'm seeing a psychologist and hopefully I can get to the bottom of my issues.

  If anyone has any advice, it will as always be greatly appreciated. It's nice to just let it out!
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  Remember Me?

  by prophecor in

  1. jw
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  my voice hasn't been heard here in quite some time.

  i just wanted everyone to know that you all are truly missed.

  since having no access to the internet, i no longer can keep up with all that's going on, from the inside-out.

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  Chia

  I absolutely remember you...I remember we tried to get together before I moved from PA. I'll never forget how supportive you were through my difficult time, and now that you are going through something, I keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If there's any way I can help, any way at all, please don't hesitate to let me know, AW.

  Love, Chia
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  Now this really irritates me

  by startingover in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my jw father recently passed away, and when hedid i thought it would be kind to contact all his email contacts to inform them what happened.

  since i knew many of these people, i included my email address.

  after the intial few rerturn emails with condolences, i have continued to get emails from the one person.

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  Chia

  I met a girl at a convention a few years back, and she put me on her email list. I still get these ridiculous emails on all these fantastic experiences.

  I have half a mind to tell her, "I'm an apostate, please stop sending me your crap!"
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  IDEA regarding my mother.

  by RichieRich in

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  its richie again.. i was thinking last night about my inevitable, fast approaching exit from the wtbts.

  i guess that out of common courtesy, i will provide a copy of my disassociation letter to my mother, however, it is nothing more than a baptism nullification / gag order / i'll sue all of you letter.

  its not one of those lengthy numbers that some have chosen to write.

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  Chia

  Richie,

  You've always been a cool cat! Now I don't know your mom, but I believe she will read what you say, even if it hurts her. It may be different since your dad isn't a Witness and I assume you two will still have a good relationship. It might be weird for her to be on the outside looking in at that so she might not shun you like other parents do. Bottom line, she needs to know you're an adult and capable of making your own choices, and this letter will definitely show her that. Great idea.
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  Sabotage?

  by Chia in

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  i wasn't quite sure where to put this post.. i believe i'm being sabotaged at work--either that or i am going crazy.

  i left for lunch about 2 hours ago.

  there was a pile of work on my desk.

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  Chia

  I'm fairly certain, now, that it was her, it got put back on my desk "mysteriously", out of thin air. Hmm...and she never said a word about it.

  It's not just this event, it's other events that make me believe this could be a possiblity. I'm not overly nice to her, I say good morning and just try to be generally polite. I don't carry on conversations, however, with ANYONE at work--that's just me. I'm there to do my job and that's it.

  She's worked here way longer than me, I just got here and she's been here for years. My boss did mention to me that she felt I didn't like her for some reason, and did she say something to upset me? I do think my boss is fair though, because it was mentioned that she can be moody, and I just have to take her as she comes.

  I think you're right in that I have to give her few opportunities to sabotage me, and everytime I step away for an extended break I will lock my work up in my desk!
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  Sabotage?

  by Chia in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i wasn't quite sure where to put this post.. i believe i'm being sabotaged at work--either that or i am going crazy.

  i left for lunch about 2 hours ago.

  there was a pile of work on my desk.

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  Chia

  I wasn't quite sure where to put this post.

  I believe I'm being sabotaged at work--either that or I am going crazy. I left for lunch about 2 hours ago. There was a pile of work on my desk. When I came back, it had vanished. Now, I'm not the neatest person in the world, but I noticed immediately that the work was gone. In addition, the woman that sits across from me has taken a dislike to me for some reason. She complained to the boss that she must've done something to offend me because "I don't like her." That isn't true by the way--I've been nothing but nice to her.

  My point is, is it possible that she's trying to sabotage me? My boss is trying to get us to cross-train so that I know how to do her work when she goes on vacation, and I'm thinking because I've been doing so well at work, she might feel threatened that I'm going to try and take her place (I could care less--I want to go to college so I can have a decent career!).

  If I am being sabotaged, how can I protect myself?